Twin Sister

<p>So I am a high school senior and am now thinking more and more about college. I have a twin sister who has the same career goal as me and is also thinking of college. </p>

<p>We are pretty much always together. We have the same interests, same friends, and just do everything together. </p>

<p>Some people say that we should go to different colleges from each other while some are saying that it would be good to attend the same one. </p>

<p>I don't mind going to the same college if it ended up being that but I can't help to feel that we should take different paths. But a part of me is REALLY afraid and scared that I'll be alone and won't be able to handle things and such if we split up. </p>

<p>Like I'm okay with the idea of parting with my parents but it sounds really scary leaving my twin. I feel like I'm really attached to always having someone beside me. </p>

<p>Any advice? </p>

<p>I’m also a twin and a senior apply for college! You literally are exactly how my twin and me are. I definitely know I want to stay with my twin. I mean if I wanted to go to a college far away and big, if definitely want my twin with me. But if I were going to a small school near home I would be okay with going to different schools. </p>

<p>Maybe there are twins life forums that you can post to? Or maybe the Parents forum here?</p>

<p>See how others have done this? Your target audience may be limited here.</p>

<p>Also I probably would be scared but a little part of me wants to be independent. But I don’t know, it might make you more comfortable with someone you know and less scared. I’m really attached to my twin tho…I mean you guys can go to the same college and room together but if you want independence you can hang out with different people and do different things. There are lots of diversity and new people in especially big colleges.</p>

<p>You can go to the same college but get different roommates in different dorms. You will probably end up with twice the friends!</p>

<p>I think you’re saying you’re leaning towards splitting. I’m sure at your current HS, you’re seen as one unit – the two of you. In college, if you’re together, it will be the same. Groups of friends you attain will take you on as one unit too. Is that good? Is that bad? </p>

<p>I think it’s a talk you engage over the long term w/your sister. Feel her out. Know this: you’ll always have a unique bond that can’t ever change. You also know that in all likelihood, future events like career, relationships, job moves, family, etc. will pull you in different directions. This is no different. Maybe now is the best time. </p>

<p>Good luck to you.</p>

<p>Close family friends (sitters for our kids) are twins. Sound similar…always do the same. Top 5 in their class, etc.</p>

<p>They chose different schools and within two years both had dropped. I guess once you have established the extremely close relationship, it is much harder to separate. I think I would have recommended a little separation (different camps, activities, etc) throughout JHS and HS. At this point, I would recommend staying close. Maybe start out with different residence plans at the same school. If that hurts too much, you can always change at semester or year end.</p>