Friends had this issue with siblings who happened to be graduating on the same day…same time. They used FaceTime to “see” the other graduations. Volume off.
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If one of them graduated from an Ivy, then all of you including the other twin should attend that graduation.
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Oh good heavens. If first twin can attend the second twin’s graduation, then the second twin should attend first twin’s graduation.
I don’t have twins, but I NEVER would have implied that one twin’s school is more important than the other’s. My cousin’s older son graduated from Stanford. Their second son graduated from a CSU. I admired the fact that they treated both graduations with similar celebratory activities and excitement.
@mom2collegekids I’m hoping that @sorghum just forgot to include a smiley emoji.
^^ I hope a winky face was missing.
DD was seriously considering a college that would have graduated same day as son would (potentially) be getting his PhD on the opposite coast. Many many ‘ifs’ on that scenario but I was relieved when DD chose another school :D.
One parent at each. This dilemma reminds me of the one my 78 year old mother faced last year, when her two oldest grandsons were graduating on opposite sides of the US, 18 hours apart. She attended the 4 p.m. Seattle graduation, went straight to the airport, and got on a red-eye for Boston, where she attended my son’s graduation at 10 a.m.
We borrowed a wheelchair to avoid all the walking, but during the weekend she was here, she attended a reception and two graduation parties before getting back on a plane to Seattle.
Go massmomm’s mom!
I feel quite confident sorghum was being snarky.
Are the ceremonies at the same time? And do you have access to a private plane? 
I like the joint celebration afterwards and the skype option.
When my twins were each at different schools, each of them had “reminders” of the other school / twin - they each had t shirts of the other school, and they gave each other those little teddy bears with the school name on them. I don’t know how, but somehow I’d want to “bring” an element of one school to the other. Like if I were attending D’s grad and missed S’s, I’d wear a dress or scarf blending her blue and his purple, or wear an amethyst ring, or something. I’m admittedly extremely hokey about stuff like this, though.
How do the twins feel about missing one another’s special event? Are they close? Mine are.
One family with twins one of which was a HS classmate had this issue solved by the “older”* twin decided to forgo attending his graduation in favor of his “younger” twin brother’s.
It helped that he didn’t feel it was much of a big deal as he felt the graduation ceremonies at his U weren’t very engaging or well-organized from attending older classmates’ graduation ceremonies on that campus. Later comments from his college classmates about their graduating class’ ceremony only confirmed that he made the right decision. Especially considering he found his younger twin’s graduating ceremony to be much more engaging, organized, and overall enjoyable.
Another family I knew with twins who were concerned about found this particular issue “solved itself” when one of the twins ended up graduating a year early due to his maxing/overloading his semester credit loads far and above that of his twin.
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You don’t need twins to have this problem. My college graduation and my sister’s law school graduation conflicted. Yes, splitting up the parents is a good solution.
Check into the details at both schools. Sometimes there are department ceremonies on a different day than the big graduation. I’ve heard some families say that they are smaller and more meaningful. So maybe you can come up with some combo of divide/conquer that takes advantage of that. Or… maybe you will have one kid that does not care about the ceremony (I had one like that… she only went because she learned that Julie Andrews was the graduation peaker).
Divorced friend had this conflict for her twins. Yes, one parent at each graduation. But to mark the transition, they reversed the pre-graduation visits. Dad visited A before, then attended B’s grad. Mom visited B, then went off to A’s grad. That way, they each got to celebrate with their sons.