<p>Unless the girl had an very unusual contract with her parents, I do no see how they can get the money back from her.</p>
<p>Um a BFA musical theatre major at CCM has no time for sneaking out or any hi jinks. The parents are the crazy ones. That school would kick her to the curb in a minute. They stood behind her. That speaks volumes.</p>
<p>Okay…I found a news source that engages in speculation, but at least gives its sources.</p>
<p>According to the young woman’s facebook page, she is in a “civil union,” with a young man. The young man is also a student in the same program. </p>
<p>If mom and dad believe that it’s wrong for their daughter to live with a young man without being married, that may explain some of their behavior. If their daughter lied to them about the fact that she was living with someone–I obviously don’t know if she did–that could explain the wanting to watch her at night on Skype. </p>
<p>I know a lot of folks on this board think living together is just fine. I don’t, so I am probably more sympathetic to her parents than most. However, they have to face the fact that our kids get to make their own decisions about such things–even if as parents we don’t agree with them.</p>
<p>I have to jump in. My D just graduated from CCM and has knowledge of this girl. They lived on the same floor freshman year. D said the roommate of this girl confirmed strange skyping activity even then. The ‘civil union’ boy on Facebook is not her boyfriend. It’s a joke.</p>
<p>momtheboss, </p>
<p>I was also going to point out that kids often use the “status” on Facebook as a joke. For example, one of my boys once put down that he was “in a relationship” with the author of his econ textbook…meaning that he was spending all weekend in the library studying for an exam.</p>
<p>According to Facebook, my daughter has a sister wife and siblings that are not related to her. The parents need to get a grip. “Strange” skyping is ordinary behavior for some people.</p>
<p>Well…okay…but if it is, she might want to know that it’s being reported as fact. If you post it…they will read…especially if you put yourself in the spotlight.</p>
<p>I’m glad you corrected me and I am sorry for having posted false info.</p>
<p>I’m fairly certain that alien babies are reported as fact by trash rags in the supermarket. As in all things, you need to consider the source.</p>
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<p>That confirms my opinion that this girl wants attention.</p>
<p>The source was the young woman’s facebook page. The article links to it. It shows her entering into a “civil union” with the young man in Dec. 2011. I don’t think it was unreasonable for me to believe what she herself posted, especially in circumstances in which she knows it is probable that journalists will be reading her facebook page.</p>
<p>Jonri, I’m a student, but I don’t believe in living together before marriage either. But still, if my parents showed up at school 600 miles away often, because I was doing something like that, and were tracking my keystrokes and such, that’d still be a problem.</p>
<p>I don’t think their conduct is what any reasonable parent would do in response to ANYTHING. If she actually had mental health issues they should have talked to her, or talked to someone about getting her help, etc. If she was promiscuous, that’s her issue, but they could take to her about being safe, and of course, they could disagree with it and not pay for her stuff anymore, but not in the crazy way the parents did. I guess my point is no matter what someone did, their conduct was not the correct path to go down.</p>
<p>crimson,</p>
<p>I totally agree with you. If you read all of my post, you know that. I was merely suggesting that there the daughter may have done something her parents did not approve of and that is what caused the problem. I did NOT suggest they handled the problem, if any, appropriately.</p>
<p>Toledo…</p>
<p>On Facebook, kids today list their friends as being spouses, siblings, children, etc. So, I don’t think that shows anything.</p>
<p>Under her circumstances, I don’t know how she could think this was funny.</p>
<p>If the girl in question wasn’t a theatre major, I’d be more apt to believe her.</p>
<p>I’m sure there’s a bit of helicopter parenting going on, but I also think the daughter wants her shot at her 15 minutes of fame. </p>
<p>And she got it, didn’t she?</p>
<p>Seems like civil unions of same sex are illegal in Ohio. I am curious why a college kid needs a civil union with someone of the opposite sex.</p>
<p>^^^She doesn’t. It’s a joke. Like so many things people post on facebook, you can’t always take it at face value.</p>
<p>One great outcome of this story: I passed the link along to some nephews who often complain that their parents are overbearing, sort of a “gee, your folks could be a lot worse…” One responded to me that yes, his parents are just fine!</p>
<p>There is no state wide recognition of civil unions in Ohio. They are, however, recognized by several Ohio cities.</p>
<p>Apparently, Cincinnati only recognizes them to the extent that it gives benefits for municipal employees in registered domestic relationships, at least according to wikipedia. </p>
<p>I’ve known college kids in registered domestic partnerships, so it didn’t seem far-fetched to me.</p>
<p>My DS apparently lives in Bolivia, has a wife and a grandson. It is very common for people to say things like civil union, change the city or country, say they attend School of Hard Knocks or Harvard, etc. It can be funny to friends and most people don’t expect the world to dissect everything on their fb page, especially in college. </p>
<p>When I help young ladies clean up their fb page before recruitment, they are often amazed at what I say has to go. </p>
<p>I have no reason to doubt the young woman, especially since the university, the mediator, and the judge believes her.</p>
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<p>How old is your son? I think kids might do this if they’re young/immature. I just asked my 22 yr. old son if people his age do this and he answered, “Maybe, if they’re weird.”</p>