@zuchinicakes, I actually completely and totally understand the anxiety from students. And I understand now even more, as a new parent, the relative apprehension on the parental side, because when your child is unhappy/scared, feels stuck, or is miserable, one of the worst feelings you can have as a parent is not being able to offer a real or better solution or to solve it yourself. I still remember the college application process and how truly busy things are for high school students with 7 class periods (usually nearly all AP/Honors/IB at this point as seniors) meeting everyday (don’t know how I managed), school ECs, blah blah. Luckily in college, the amount of actual face-to-face “sitting in class” time is probably much less overall, when compared to high school. The class timings allow a much more controllable balance than I think high school allows, where students have to be in school a set number of hours a day as required by state law.
Most entering freshmen up until they start in the fall will have always lived with their parents in their home (unless maybe they went to a boarding type of school or something - so, in other words, not most of us). There is really nothing at home that can completely mimic living in a dormitory with roommates your Year 1, away from home, and unless things have drastically changed, all Year 1 BA/MD students’ roommates will be other BA/MD students, although even the normal undergrads are nice people as well. It’s different for parents also, who are used to having their kids come home everyday from school from grades Pre-K/K thru 12. So it’s definitely an adjustment for everyone involved. And just as an FYI, within a week or two, students do sometimes feel twinges of homesickness, but luckily Labor Day weekend is pretty close around the corner.
One thing you realize, as a freshman, is you see many of the things that your parents did and amenities you had, when you were growing up, were things you fully took for granted. On the plus side, I can almost guarantee you that when your child visits home, they will eat mom’s (or dad’s) homecooked meals without any complaints. lol. While students are the ones who actually go through the 6 year combined program, the honest, realistic truth is that in many ways, students bring their parents and families along for the ride (voluntarily or not). In a way, I hope at least to make the ride at least a little less bumpier (for both students and parents) both in the initial application process as well and for those in the program.
I don’t know whether they actually discussed this at the Orientation with parents (it may be discussed more at Fall Orientation for students so they can sign up), but there is this thing called “Western Missouri Friends” and “St. Louis Friends” where parents of BA/MD students can get together. I wish I knew more what they actually do (clearly I wasn’t paying much attention lol): http://med.umkc.edu/alumni-services/western-missouri-friends/. But they’re usually parents of current BA/MD students, if I remember correctly. So the parents of those in higher years, will probably be quite helpful to the parents of current Year 1s.
Definitely let us know how things go. I think it will be very useful for everyone - both students and parents, who are considering the program among several others or the normal college route. Luckily this discussion reminds me to update and add to my “observations, tips, and advice” and practicing “life skills” Google Docs for incoming Year 1s, that I posted earlier on in the thread. I’ll have it updated at least by the end of July 4th, with this 3 day weekend coming up.