<p>I am now scared to death of having my college admissions rescinded. </p>
<p>In the beginning of senior year, I was intensely motivated. After I got rejected or wait-listed from all of my top choices, I had a terrible bout with depression and anxiety and was hospitalized during 2nd semester after trying to kill myself. After all the pressure and hype about going to a top school, I had failed miserably. My mom was disappointed in me, and my friends all got into their schools and would flaunt their achievements at me. I suddenly lost all focus on my schoolwork. I would stare at the computer screen for hours, unable to concentrate or researching ways to kill myself. I realized that I was very, very unhappy with the mentality I was stuck with and needed therapy; I had struggled with negative thoughts and anxiety for a very long time. Well, my psychiatrist decided to send me to the hospital again because I was suicidal. But I’m back now, and still feel the same. Therapy has helped a little, but I haven’t been able to regain my focus since I received my diagnosis, and because of the stress from school (I have 4 APs and am very behind in all of them right now). </p>
<p>Well, all of this hoopla really impacted my grades even further, and now I’m at risk of losing the colleges that did accept me (NYU, UC Davis, Irvine) due to failing classes. Davis offered me Regents and I loved the campus, so I’ll probably attend. I believe that I can be happy there, but I don’t believe that I can regain my momentum and bring up my grades on time. I’ve already fallen so far after working so hard for all these years - if I were to lose this last spark of hope, I don’t know what I’d do. It’s probably trigger me. Please, please help me avoid getting rescinded. I don’t want to be deferred, but would be willing to make up the classes over the summer. I’m sure that some involvement in a therapeutic program over the summer will be enough to get my problems sorted out too. Any advice from someone who went through a similar situation would be very helpful. Thanks.</p>
<p>Talk to your teachers and work out a plan. I imagine they want you to be successful, and are willing to work with you if you show initiative and stick with what they tell you to do. So first thing, set up meetings with your teachers. In terms of just sitting and staring at the screen, instead break your work into small 20 min. chunks, and set a timer and try to beat the time you’ve set for yourself. Once you knock a few of the chunks of work out, you’ll feel a momentum shift, you’ll feel better about yourself, and you’ll keep going. It becomes a virtuous cycle. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself and compare yourself to other people - your path is your path - it may not be as straight as other people’s, but that’s ok. Go ahead and contemplate the worse case scenario - what if you don’t go to college next year? So what? I’m sure with your parents you can work out another way to get to college the year after, even if it means taking classes at your local community college and then heading to college. Or go to a less competitive college and later transfer. I know those are not your preferences, but the point I’m making is there is no one perfect way to get through life. It’s a fallacy to think there is, and so many kids get caught up in what I consider to be hype generated by the higher ed industry, and end up dealing with way too much unnecessary pressure and stress. Recognize the hype for what it is. The reality is that once you graduate, most people could care less where others went to college. So try to relax. And lastly, take care of yourself. Take vitamins, eat right, exercise, and get a full night’s sleep. If you do these things, it’ll make it easier to concentrate. Hang in there. You can do this. But, if you don’t, it’s not the end of the world either. It just means you’re going to have to work from your plan b…or c … or d, etc. The reality is most is us walking around in life are doing just that - working off our plan b. It’s ok, because there are lots of ways to be happy, thank God! Take care.</p>
<p>I agree with the reply above, talk to your teachers and you may still have enough time to turn this around. Also please keep your parents in the loop, they will also support you. Once you have a good plan, you will be fine. I feel UC Davis really likes you to offer you Regents, so if your grades get a little better a decent explanation should work, I don’t feel that colleges are so near sighted in making their decisions. I think your plan A will work, give it a try. If you need to work on plan b, that will be fine also. Good Luck!</p>
<p>if what you wrote is true (needing hospitalization for not getting into your ‘top choices’), then you aren’t ready for college. ANY college. you aren’t mature enough to handle disappointment, much less adversity. you probably need to take some time off for deep reflection. get a job for a year.</p>
<p>I am currently a transfer student at UC Davis. In my 3rd quarter of my junior year. On track to graduate next March. Davis is great…people are friendly, not too competitive, and the campus is beautiful. I am doing well and enjoying my classes…and I am 59 years old! That’s right, I had to wait until both of my daughters graduated college before I could go back. I left college when I was younger to take advantage of a great business opportunity. Then got married, had two beautiful daughters and now here I am. One of my daughters suffered with depression a bit while in college. She took a semester off and graduated a bit later than planned. It was the right thing to do. She finished and is doing great. It is not important that she took time off, it is not important that it took me 35 years to go back to college. You do it when it is right for your life circumstances. Please be very sure you are healthy and ready to ENJOY college before you go. It really doesn’t matter where you go or when you go. But you need to be relaxed, ready , and not stressed about it. College will always be there. Good luck to you.</p>
<p>No, I didn’t go over the edge because I didn’t get into my top choices. People pressured me so much into getting in, and I felt I had failed them. I had very personal problems with self-image and felt worthless. I wasn’t thinking entirely about school when I first attempted suicide - I was just thinking of how unhappy I was basing my self-image on others’ opinions of me. I realized that I really needed to get therapy, but the therapist sent me to the hospital again.</p>
<p>Dude, your family is fked up, no offense. Take it easy bro, it’s your life think for yourself. Don’t let people put you down just because you didn’t become what they wanted you to become.</p>
<p>You do belong in college and have earned the right to pursue a career of your choice, but first you have much mental maintenance to do. The first thing you should do is to withdraw from the AP classes and to get out of the college admission rat race. It’s very easy to do. Do not think of it as quitting but instead as taking a much needed rest. You have driven yourself over the edge by taking your mind at a pace it was not created to travel. It is no exaggeration to say that you life is at risk so you must power down immediately. If that means losing your scholarship then so be it. BTW Hanging on to a Regents scholarship is no easy task and likely will be anxiety filled. Take a one or two year break. Then rethink things. GL</p>