VERY MUCH frustrated for being a "yes" man

Pre-College Topics High School Life
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<p>OK, I'm not much of a complainer, rather a self-procrastinator I am.
But I'm extremely frustrated right now, and thought maybe people that I have no idea who they are can help me better than crappy ass people that I know.</p>

<p>I am a yes man. I just can't say No to people. If I'm mad, I just keep all the anger to myself, which resulted in severe depression in the past. I try my best to express myself more, but it doesn't seem to work. There is this guy (I'm a girl btw) that I considered as a friend for short period of time, but got extremely infuritated with him for backstabbing me and being too sensitive. He uses me for being, I guess, TOO nice, and gives me no respect at all. He's a wimp, a huge WIMP, but he thinks I'm less than him or something, and just treats me with disrespect. </p>

<p>This christmas, I had a little hang-out at my place cuz my parents were gone. There was a alcohol involved too. But my point is he was not invited. It just happened, I mean the hang-out. I and my sis called couple of friends, and we had fun/crazy time. But then this guy found out he wasn't invited, and started bitching at me like CRAZY, which he didn't do to any of the guests that night. </p>

<p>He cussed at me, and called me names I don't appreciate being called. But the most annoying thing is that he realized that it wasn't my fault, but it was rather my sister who didn't "invite" him, and told me to "NEVER MIND" without a sign of a apology for being a jerk. I got mad and told him that I was DONE with him, and he's like "GEEZ, chill out".</p>

<p>Not only this time, after I got deferred from UVA, he's all like "I'm sooo going to get rejected" (he's a second in class btw) to me, who just got deffered with much lower stat than him. He's so afraid of someone not liking him so he doesn't bitch at anyone except ME!!! WHY ME!!! AM I BEING A TOO NICE PERSON OR SOMETHING?!!!</p>

<p>I seriously want to punch him in the face and tell him to "F*** off". He's the guy who said bad things about me to MY SISTER, my OWN sister, and backstabbed me couple of times. But I forgave him cuz of my freaked up personality which doesn't really allow me to hate anyone. I'm really mad right now, but don't know what to do.</p>

<p>It's quite a petty/pathetic problem I have. But you guys know how highschool is, and I'm just mad. Any advices?</p>

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<p>anyone?
???????????</p>

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<p>Check the self help section of your bookstore and get some books on assertiveness. If you google "assertiveness" also, you'll find some tips. Some of the tips include:</p>

<ol>
<li><p>Realizing that it's OK to say "no," and when you do that, you don't have to provide an explanation.</p></li>
<li><p>Realizing that other people may try to make you change your mind, but you don't have to do so. Just keep saying, "The answer is no" or simply don't engage in an argument with them.</p></li>
<li><p>"He cussed at me, and called me names." That was when to simply show him the door. No need for you to apologize. Just say, "Your behavior is unacceptable. Time to leave. Good-bye."</p></li>
<li><p>If a person treats you in a mean, disrespectful way, you have more choices than being friends with them or hating them. One can be polite, but not friends with the person. One has every right not to pursue friendships with people who are backstabbers, etc.</p></li>
</ol>

<p>One last thing:Have you thought about what kind of danger you could have put your sister and yourself in by having that party?</p>

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<p>thank you :)</p>

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<p>if i were you, i wouldn't have let him get to my nerves in the first place. i'm always so calm and collected that i can never be bothered. it's really funny if you look at it from my perspective but frustrating for people who are trying to be annoying because their plans never work with me.</p>

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<p>I'm annoying? o_0</p>

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<p>no i'm saying the other boy was simply trying to annoy you but had i been in your shoes, i would not have been annoyed (i'm on your side). i would recognize the fact that he's not mature yet and give him a chance to grow up. everyone grows up at a difference pace, but i'd like to believe that i'm more mature than people who are not past that phase yet- the phase when kids are just reeeaaally annoying.</p>

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<p>yesssssssssss he's just annoying, and I'm just going to ignore him.</p>

<p>Although I'm really mad, and want to screw him over BIGGG TIME</p>

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<p>Screw him over big time? No no, don't do that, dear! That just reflects badly on you. Have yourself some dignity and don't show him that he's getting to you. Nothing looks more pathetic and immature and wimpy than revenge.
As for what he said about being rejected: I'm sure a lot of people at this board know how difficult it is to say anything at all when you have higher test scores or better grades than the people around you. You know it and you know they know it, and every time you say anything, you cringe to yourself because you know it might have upset the people around you. There's a sort of guilt, I think, that accompanies high scores, especially if you have a lot of friends with lower scores or grades than you do whom you still respect very highly. So maybe, from his point of view, he was just trying not to seem arrogant by announcing that he was hopeful he'd get in, since he figured it might make everyone around him feel bad. So he said that, which still made you feel bad. See, it's a social lose-lose situation when you're at the top.
Or maybe he's just an *******. Hard to say, really, since I don't know him.
Anyway, yeah, I can relate: I too am a big suck. But sometimes I think it's better that way: I mean, sure, sometimes you have to stand up for yourself, but isn't it better not to make enemies so that your social group is harmonious?</p>

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<p>I thought u couldn't hate ppl? Now ur trying to kill him? hmmmm.</p>

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<p>high school is full of jerks, I think I've had more than my fair share. Don't worry, college will be awesome, people will be more mature, and you will have a blast. Of course there will always be backstabbers, but they always lose in the end...</p>

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<p>I am locking this thread after removing some suggestions that contained terms of service violations.</p>