While you’re right to focus on her mental health, you’re also glossing over some huge issues, such as the molestation. I’m glad to see that she is in counseling-she certainly needs it. Here was our experience with a private school over a non-related issue: They’re private, they can do what they want, when they want and how they want. If you’re unhappy, vote with your feet and leave-there’s the door. And that is what we did, mid-year, mid-middle school. We have never looked back.
It’s harder for you since you’re so close to the end of the year. But seriously, your D needs to work with her therapist on the depression-that comes FIRST. THEN, she can address her school work. THEN, she can work on graduating. I know some kids who graduated privately after the school year ended once they got missing work done. They still graduated. That’s what mattered. Whether they were with their friends was less important. And finally THEN you can talk about college. You don’t mention if she was accepted anywhere or whether she’s physically healthy enough to go. Mentally, as of right now, I’d say she’s not.
I also wonder why your D-or is it you-are so intent on getting back to a school where your D was so mistreated. Just get it over with, public, online, whatever works. But first, get on the depression. it’s clouding everything else. And I’d bet that the molestation had something to do with it.
Good luck. I’d have a sit down with the therapist and brainstorm how to proceed. But I wouldn’t think her going back to this private school is at the top of the list.