<p>Hi BayAreaDad,</p>
<p>I just read through the first thread, and I really think that you need to talk with a lawyer right now, this weekend, before you meet with the school officials on Monday. Family law attorneys are used to emergencies involving kids. You need someone who knows the law very well, but who also has excellent negotiation skills. (If the school is even slightly in the wrong from a legal perspective, it's going to give you a lot more leaway in terms of negotiating a better outcome for your D.) You cannot get your ducks in a row if you don't know the law or all of the relevant facts, and how all this applies to your daugher's situation.</p>
<p>Is your daughter under 18, and if so, did you actually consent to drug testing? How can any insitution, private or public, perform a medical test on a child without parental consent? If she is 18, did she consent? Did she sign a consent form? Is there any allegation that she used drugs on campus or at a school function? Isn't drug use and drug testing medical, and as such, isn't there some sort of law requiring confidentiality? If your daughter is 18, and the school told you that she was using drugs following a drug test, were they violating her confidentiality? Has any other student who had a positive drug test been allowed to remain in school? </p>
<p>I am hoping that the school was either somehow in violation of the law or its own policies in testing your D, or has implemented its expulsion policy inconsistenty and can be shown to be somehow targeting your D. I mean, what could possibly justify testing her one week before graduation? Who made the decision to test your daughter specifically and does your daughter have some history with that person? Exactly how was the decision to test her arrived at -- are there some written records or criteria? Did they test anyone else? Are there some students with a record similar to your daughter's that they didn't test? Are there any legal medications or over-the-counter remedies or even foods that can result in a false positive on the drug test that was given to your daughter? What is the error rate for this particular test? Did your daughter admit that she had used the drug in question to school officials? Are the kids they tested at the same time all girls, or all members of the same ethnic group, or were they singled out in some way that is legally impermissible? </p>
<p>If the school was concerned that D had a substance abuse problem, shouldn't they have called in the parents and tried to get her medical or psychological help way before, say, the last week of school? Do they have a written policy about the steps that they take when they identify a student as having emotional problems as manifest in substance abuse? Did they follow those steps for your daughter?</p>
<p>Please, please get legal help. I'm not clear if a juvenile criminal lawyer is what you need, or if a good family law attorney who has dealt with private school issues before would suffice. If you have a friend who is a lawyer in your area, this is the moment to call him/her up and find out who they know and network until you find the perfect referral. If you can't meet with them over the weekend, go with first thing Monday morning, and postpone your meeting with school officials until the afternoon. The fact that the school didn't come to you and work with you to help your daughter if they suspected she had a substance abuse problem, but instead tested her just before graduation with (presumably anticipated) disasterous results for her vis a vis graduation and college, would lead me to believe that this school does not have your D's best interests at heart. Let's hope that a good lawyer can find that somewhere in this chain of events, the school screwed up legally, or the test is sometimes unreliable, and can make this go away, while you quietly evaluate your daughter's needs and get her whatever treatment is appropriate.</p>
<p>I agree with other posters that a substance abuse problem in a teenager is extremely serious and cannot be taken lightly. What I don't think is that being unable to complete high school or attend college is the appropriate consequence. If the school suspected that this student had such a serious problem, they failed her when they didn't bring in her parents, or talk with her, or send her to the school counselor, or demand that as a condition of staying in school she receive treatment, to address the problem constructively; instead, they chose the grandstanding drama of testing her at the moment when it had the greatest liklihood of derailing her life. Unless they caught her dealing in the parking lot the week before graduation, their timing is flawed, and makes their motives suspect.</p>