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She has other apps ready to go. I even ordered the test scores already, hoping Murphy’s Law might mean if I sent them, she won’t need them. She loves her ED school but has several other really good choices too.</p>
<p>Thanks for the support! It really feels better knowing there are others feeling the same way.
I guess that’s why I started this thread, so there was a dedicated place for us to share this common experience. I also post on the Jewish thread and, of course, Class of 2015. I’ll let you guys know how it goes, although it might be very, very hard to post a negative outcome (but I will, no matter how long it takes me to put down the words).
@ Madame: I think your comments are important but maybe you assume too much. My S came to this decision on his own. That doesn’t make me a hoverer, just a mom who wants her child to be happy. I know that we all ultimately want this, so please understand that I want this not for me, but for him. That’s all.</p>
<p>@ccc: This is my second child, so I’ve been through the process before, but never the ED round. He applied to one of those schools where it’s a total crapshoot, so we know that there’s a good chance he’ll be hitting submit a few more times. I know that he could be happy elsewhere, but you know what, his first choice really is the best fit for him.</p>
<p>@cliffy love: I guess if he’s deferred, we’ll deal with the other apps first and then figure what more to submit to dream school. Letter showing the love, maybe another writing sample. What do you guys think?</p>
<p>Again, I find some comfort in knowing you guys are out there, biding your time, watching the kids watch the clock. Thanks for sharing your details and good wishes. I hope it works out for all of our kids.</p>
<p>Also, the notification is December 9 at 5:00 p.m. Can anyone say server crash?</p>
<p>@omom: I probably should have ordered the scores already, but I’m pretty superstitious!</p>
<p>C4T: Thanks for starting this thread so we have a place to share the wait. I’m trying to keep busy and think about other things, but it’s hard.</p>
<p>If my daughter gets deferred, she’ll probably still pursure this school. It’s a match with about a 50% acceptance rate, so that wouldn’t be unrealistic. She’s already submitted several other apps and will apply to 2 more. Both are common app, but one has a supplement that she can’t seem to deal with right now.</p>
<p>Good luck everyone. This week is going very slowly…</p>
<p>Count me in with awaiting TWO ED apps!<br>
D’s ED school releases on Dec 10, and she is literally counting down the hours.<br>
S’s ED school releases on or before Dec 15. </p>
<p>Both have (at this time) ED II backups that they will have to push the button on. Most other apps are ready – each has 1 or 2 that they need to polish essays on, but otherwise good to go.</p>
<p>I really won’t be happy if either of them get deferred – I would of course rather see acceptances than rejection, but I’d rather see rejection than deferral. To me, deferral is just stringing them along and making it difficult to say, “OK, I pledged my love for you and you didn’t respond, so we’re not meant for one another.” Rejection at least rips the band-aid off all at once versus little by little.</p>
<p>I’m in the opposite camp. Would much rather have a deferral than an outright rejection. My biggest fear, I guess, is that S will be too demoralized to proceed.</p>
<p>I am a parent of DS2 waiting and waiting too. DS2 says he is not anxious, but the behavior suggests otherwise…I have been through this with DS1 (deferred then denied) and so approach with a degree of circumspection. They do bloom where planted. </p>
<p>That said, DS2 worked his b-tt off (just like DS1 did) though approached the process with a great deal more intensity than DS1. I will be anxiously checking my blackberry for news from DS2 next week.</p>
<p>Joining the group of anxious parents - want this so much for my DS who is probably handling all this with far more equanimity than we are! He also has not touched any of his back-up apps which means winter break could be tough. His ED school is on other coast, snail mails results and says will notify by the 15th. </p>
<p>Would love to know what plans everyone is making re the mail. Will you contact you S/D at school. Can we depend on fat/skinny? I read on another thread about the creative use of steam 
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<p>We all just want our kids hopes to come true…may all the envelopes bring good news!</p>
<p>D has three EA applications she is waiting for and then 2 more RD which will notify by Mar 15. Two EA are mid Dec and one is early Jan. IF any of the EA defer, she will not continue with looking at them. She doesn’t have a first choice at this point but what she does know is that she wants all answers by mid March so she can make her decision soon after. It will help with summer planning for us since we will be moving and don’t know when yet and probably have some flexibility there. </p>
<p>I think that it is great that some of you will have college decision finalized very soon and others already have that. All the best luck to your children.</p>
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<p>Here’s my thinking. Both of my kids have great ED II choices that all feel really good about (excellent schools, good chance of admission) … why not just nail the ED II and be done with the whole thing, rather than hang on to the thread of hope for the original ED I school and miss out on being able to lock in an almost-as-good school? A deferral wedges that door open. Don’t want it wedged open, at all.</p>
<p>Count me in here. My S seems so much calmer than I am. He claims he’s not thinking about it much because he’s so busy w/ school work and ECs. In fact, his ED school releases decisions via website on the 13th at 5. My S will be at school that day until 9:30 for his EC and won’t look at the website until he comes home. He wants to learn in the privacy of his home rather than at school. I don’t know if I can take it! A good friend today suggested we go out to dinner to pass the time, particularly because my H will be out of town for work. Sounds like a good idea to me. </p>
<p>Re: how handling a possible deferral/rejection. All other apps are uploaded and ready to go. Scores are sent. He’ll just need to hit the submit button that night and he’ll know that everything else is in the works.</p>
<p>Good luck everybody!</p>
<p>Ok, moms with experience…looking for your input…Do I bite my tongue as my bright son is now applying to other colleges…the ones that his (first ever!) girlfriend is applying to? Hope his ED pulls through this week and I won’t have to say anything!</p>
<p>Both my kids applied ED and I can still well remember the anxiety during the first couple of weeks of December. I feel for all of you! </p>
<p>S1 received a big envelope in the mail, but didn’t get home from hoops practice until about 7:00 p.m. so the envelope sat on our kitchen table waiting for him. It was pretty obvious that it was a “yes”, but a then 14-yr old S2 decided to open it to find out, and then messily and very obviously reglued the envelope back together. Other than that, it was a very happy night when S1 finally got home.</p>
<p>S2 had the winter band and chorus concert the night his ED decision was released online, so it was about 9:00 p.m. before he got home to log on. All I can say is that that band and chorus concert seemed endless. </p>
<p>Good luck to all!</p>
<p>We definitely would prefer deferral to rejection. Deferral (to MIT) would mean that Ds application was competitive, which means that she has a chance to be accepted elsewhere. Rejection, OTOH, would imply the opposite. At least, that’s how my D sees it. I am almost positive that if she is rejected outright she will plead with me to let her apply to more schools (we have already submitted 13 (!)).</p>
<p>@pizzagirl: ED2 is definitely the strategy of choice. My S had decided last year (so long ago!!) to go that route with a school he thought he liked almost as much. Then… he changed his mind and said he wanted to keep his hat in the ring if he is deferred. I am so glad for you that your kids have definite ED2 schools on the back burner, especially as you have twice the fun of this.
As for how to sneak a peek into the envelope… I don’t know about steaming, but holding the envelope up to a bright light has always served me well.</p>
<p>I will join the crowd. ED1 announcement 12/15 but they just sent an email it is going to be online 12/10 at “the end of the day”. My son wants so badly to get accepted- it’s his first choice well beyond the school that takes 2nd place, although he will apply ED2 to 2nd choice should this fall through. The good thing about them telling him earlier is he’ll have more time to get the other applications out by 1/1 . Obviously he’s got the common ap done- but every school has another supplement and all he’s done is read the questions- hasn’t even typed a single word. SO here I am PRAYING! that the ED1 is good news while at the some time trying to prepare myself for a rejection. UGH! I always knew being a parent was tough but this is seriously heart wrenching.</p>
<p>Surely it’s been said before, but I’m new; mommyg…the supplements have taken much longer than my S anticipated. He can start before he finds out his ED1 and ED2 and simpy hit ‘send’ when needed.</p>
<p>@breathedeeply: you have no idea how many times I’ve told him this!!! Good luck to your son!</p>
<p>D1 really likes another matchy school on her list, so that will ease the sting if she is rejected or deferred on the 15th. She isn’t considering EDII because she is hoping for merit money from Matchy U. Apparently, this particular school is far more likely to award merit bucks in RD. She’s a good candidate, so holding out a few more months could save her some money she’ll be able to use for post-undergrad.</p>
<p>No EDII here, but we will hear from an EA school next week also. My daughter doesn’t have a firm second choice, so if she gets deferred we’ll wait until April and make a choice then.</p>
<p>If she doesn’t get into her ED school, we will plan a visit to Pitt. She was accepted but we never visited. It looks like a good fit on paper and I think it will help her “lick her wounds” to visit a school that wants her.</p>