<p>...or, rather, waiting for my son to make his decision. I don't want to ask him, cause I don't want to bug him or give him the slightest reason to believe I prefer one of his schools over another. Meanwhile, he's receiving tons of unsolicited advice from near strangers. He's also running out of time. And saying nothing.</p>
<p>I check his FB page every few hours to see if he's posted a decision. :) Any other parents in this situation?</p>
<p>It’s not just boys. My youngest drove us crazy a few years back. I remember a near shouting exchange on April 29th, with her waving the response cards… “Just tell me what I should do!” My suggestions: flip a coin and see how you feel about it, make a list of pros and cons, etc did no good. She was nearly paralyzed with indecision.<br>
In the end she has been happy at a great school. The other decision would have been good, too.</p>
<p>Fortunately, my son is chosing between some great schools - he can’t make a bad decision. Another good way to look at it is, he will probably make the right decision for the wrong reason.</p>
<p>I think it’s great you’re restraining yourself. I know what it’s like checking FB pages.</p>
<p>Went through this last year, and will be there next year. I do hate others poking their noses in. But hang in there…you sound like a great parent!</p>
<p>Wow… how nice you are invited to you son’s Facebook!</p>
<p>Well, since Godot never arrives, let’s hope you are luckier. Very cute thread title.</p>
<p>I know exactly what you mean and how frustrating it can be - last year - S1 was deciding between 2 schools. After visiting both again in April for accepted student days - and coming back with a hat from one - he still would not tell me a decision. I kept focusing on the hat and asking if that meant he had chosen that school - no response. On about April 22nd I sent the deposit check to that school, since it really seemed to me to be the better fit and I was sure that would be his choice. Finally, on about April 29th, he informed me that was his choice and I could mail the deposit check. Ok, I replied, not telling him that I had already done so a week earlier!</p>
<p>Both of my sons waited until the very last day to make their decisions because they wanted to be 100% sure. I believe that I did the same when I had 5 choices of colleges to attend.</p>
<p>I think it’s good for people to weigh carefully what’s probably the most important decision they’ve made thus far in their lives. It also means that when during the summer they experience buyer’s remorse, you can remind them that they made their decisions after very careful consideration.</p>
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<p>mythmom, that was my first thought, too! :)</p>
<p>LOL. I asked my d if we wanted to go ahead and notify schools she is not attending. She is planning on waiting till the May 2nd deadline despite her “99%” sureness.</p>
<p>I was fortunate to have a decision out of DS#1 by early April during his senior year. I did read a good piece of advice back then on a possible way to help make this decision (other than re-visit top candidates, which I assume you’ve done this spring?).</p>
<p>It was something like write down the schools that are in the running. For each one, have him think about it, and then say, “Okay how would you feel if someone told you that you absolutely CAN NOT go to __U? I mean 100% may not go there?” Repeat with all schools. Allegedly what he didn’t realize was his favorite will fall through. Or at least he’ll drop some from consideration. Or something like that.</p>
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<p>My son asked me to set him a deadline for a decision. He said “Mom you know I handle things better if I have a deadline.” So I set a deadline and he delivered a decision. Now, he needs to register for classes. I mentioned to him yesterday that he should schedule his phone advising session and get that done so he can have the best chance at the class times, and of course he looked over his shoulder as he was flying out the door and said “set a deadlineeeeeeee.” So, I set a deadline. Hopefully when he takes off this fall he will learn to set his own deadlines LOL. My oldest son make a quick decision about his college choice and everything surrounding that, gets chores out of the way simply because he dislikes having things hanging over his head… so this one is a new challenge.</p>
<p>My older son waited till April 30th. It was a big decision, and he made the hard but correct decision to go for the less prestigious school (though it’s very prestigious in his field.) My younger son’s choices are very interesting since they get to the core of what education is all about. Theory or practice? Core or open curriculum? I think he’s going to pick the school that is the most middle of the road in these choices, but will be fine whichever way he goes. It may all be clear by Friday evening when we make the last visit, or it may not be!</p>
<p>Why are parents in such a hurry when the colleges give the kids until May 2 to make their decisions? Why wouldn’t you want your kid to use all of the time available so as to make the most thoughtful decision possible, and to lessen their chances of second guessing themselves later?</p>
<p>and then there’s the waiting for the waitlist to open up…that one could end up being more godotesque…</p>
<p>I have twins. S was down to two LACs until Monday, when he told us that he had made his decision–a LAC in our home state. Although it is slightly more expensive than the other LAC two states away, the travel savings make the costs about equal. I am happy for him.</p>
<p>D is leaning toward a tech school (wants to study biology or chemistry), and seems to have eliminated my alma mater LAC. I’m sort of in mourning about her elimination of my alma mater, because I think it would be a good choice for her, but I will support her decision.</p>
<p>S also is running out of time. Because of a spring sport, it was difficult to schedule accepted students’ day at one of his two choices. He visited his other top choice and hated it (third visit) and now is second guessing his decision to apply to small LACs. We have planned a last-minute trip to his other top choice and I am praying that he will love it as much as he did last summer.</p>
<p>D is visiting one of her choices for the second time beginning tomorrow. She is staying on campus for two nights and attending classes there on Friday. Hopefully when she comes home Saturday night she will have some clarity. She visited her other top choice which is in our home state last weekend.</p>
<p>S2 is having a really hard time – decided the LAC was not for him, went to visit his top pick (second visit) and hated it, his second choice is a stretch financially for everybody. His older brother, whom he respects greatly, and whom I know he is dying to hash this out with, is out of the country until late in the evening May 2. I’m wondering if he would want to try to get an extension until May 3 (which is Monday anyway)? Is that possible?</p>
<p>…tick…tick…tick…</p>