Wake up call- sophomore boy from my school dies in car crash

<p>Sometimes we lose ourselves in the difficult world we live in. We forget we're alive, and we forget how to be thanful. We worry about trivial things, and we don't appreciate life. To all of you who are worried about college, please take the time to realize what is truly important-your friends, your family, and what you chose to do with your life. Nick Jennings, a sophomore in my school, died in a car crash two days ago. Please take the time to read my friend's editorial.</p>

<p>This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to write.
I’ve started and stopped this editorial more times than I care to count. With bold keystrokes, I have condemned pages of prose to mechanical oblivion.
For once in my life, I’m at a loss for words.
How do you write about the unthinkable? How do you seek to answer the unanswerable? How do you address the unspeakable abomination that is an untimely death, in which the only real culprit is malicious Fate?
Truth is, I could write this editorial about a thousand things. I could write about Nick’s penchant for baggy clothes and obscene belt buckles. I could write about the sardonic, wiseass humor he brought to every classroom.
I could write about crying in the gym the day he died, and about how it was the first time I’d cried since I was cut from baseball as a sophomore. I could write about calling my little brother on the phone to tell him.
I could write about laying a wreath and cross at the scene of the crash the day he died, and seeing the Guitar Night poster that some caring soul had framed and left there.
I could write about how at the memorial on Sunday, I saw people crying, people who I’d never before seen—nor ever expected to see—express anything remotely akin to compassion, or sadness, or any human emotion. I saw people crying, people who had never met him, who were weeping because now they’d never get the chance.
But how can any of these things do justice to the loss of Nick’s life? To attempt to write about it is absurd, for no words can capture the horror of a sixteen year old boy with a shattered back and a broken heart lying on the side of the road like a used up rag doll. The most beautiful sermon possible, eve n if delivered by Christ Himself, could not explain away why this boy—God, a mere child!---was apologizing to his friends and family as his life bled away in a Boston hospital.
Can you see him now? Can you see him lying motionless on Proctor Hill as the paramedics arrive, and the first words they hear from his mouth are: “Charley, are you ok? Charley, are you ok? Oh god…I can’t feel my body…”
Very few people in this world deserve such a death. Nick Jennings was not one of them. </p>

<p>I met Nick in our first—and only—year of high school football. I disliked him instantly. He was a punk, a snotty freshman jackass who ran with a wild upperclassmen crowd. If you weren’t in his little clique, he looked at you with nothing but disdain, irrespective of how you might treat him. I grew to hate him intensely.
When I walked into 3rd Period Improv this year to find him on the roll there, I was ready for another year of mutual dislike.
But something had changed in Nick. I don’t know what it was, or when it happened, or who caused it. Neither do I especially care to know. All I know is that something had changed. Nick had morphed into a disgustingly respectable young man—a transformation that put all of my carefully laid plans to hate him in check.
While still an artist of the vaunted Jennings wit, he managed to joke, now, without seeming like a complete jackass. His jokes ceased to be at the expense of others—he joked with people.
The fondest memory I will ever have of Nick is from that class. Nick and Justin Conroy, who, in that class, were like brothers, were partnered up for a mime, in which they played firefighters. When Ms. T told them to play off of the “manly bonding theme”, they executed, without hesitation, the most beautiful and appropriate “best friend” handshake I’ve ever seen in my life. There was something about that moment—something with the light, and the way it shone down off Justin’s hair and Nick’s infectious smile; something about the speed and accuracy in which they conducted the ritual—that imprinted it indelibly in my memory, and I hope I always carry it with me.
It’s no secret, to anyone who knew him, that Nick was far from angelic. He was a daredevil with everything he did, and his feats of derring-do didn’t end at how fast he could drive or how outrageous his classroom antics could be. He drank and smoked and partied wildly throughout much of freshman year. But when the change came, as far a I know, he curtailed his vices. Neither drink nor drugs were factors in his crash. And the fact that Nick was, as they say, “on the mend”—or, if you prefer, “getting his life back on track”, if it was ever off it—makes his death, for me, that much more unbearable.
It was once said that, “Those who do not fear death have only experienced it from the chin up.” If that’s true, anyone who knew him would tell you that Nick had been brain dead for years before his body followed suit. His motto was “Live fast, ride hard,”, and he was as solemnly observant of that maxim as any monk is of his vows. He was true to the point of death: riding, stupidly, in a speeding Ford Explorer without his seatbelt on. </p>

<p>And there are so many more things I want to mention, and to say so much more clearly.</p>

<p>Camus23, your friend's editorial is extremely well-written. In ninth grade, I barely survived a severe car accident (temporary coma, amnesia, broken ribs and pelvic bone), and so I know exactly what you mean. Too often, we take too many things for granted. It is only when life is threatened that we realize how precious it really is. Thank you for sharing this message on CC.</p>

<p>I'm sorry you had that experience, but I'm sure you grew from it...:)</p>

<p>I wish more people would read this....all people care to talk about is SATs. How sad:(</p>

<p>Just this past weekend a junior from my school was struck and killed by a car while walking down the side of the road with a few friends. The driver fled the scene. It really hit home because the kid was from my neighborhood and I had casually known him for approximately 10 years.</p>

<p>How is your school deeling with it? Ours= really really really bad. People are writing all over the walls (R.I.P Nick). And when I say all over the walls, I mean in 500 differnt places. The poor janitors will have to spend their ThanksGiving painting over the graffitti. </p>

<p>Over a hundred people sit at his locker throughout the day (even during classtime). People are crying left and right. There are hundreds of flowers, posters, lacross jerseys, etc. sitting neer his locker. It's so sad walking by there. We have half a day of school tomorrow because the funeral will be held in the auditorium for students to attend. Yes, the funeral--not just a memorial.</p>

<p>I'm truely sorry for your (and your school's) loss.</p>

<p>When I was a sophomore, three varsity cheerleaders committed suicide. It started with one who broke up with an abusive boyfriend, then later a girl who had failed nearly all of her classes and couldn't get into college and saw no reason to live, and the other, no one is really sure about why because the family won't say, but it is suspected that she was pregnant. It was a horrible year. If you didn't know one girl, you knew another... everyone had reason to be sad/depressed.</p>

<p>Then last year a soccer player died in a car crash but he was a "drunken maniac" (his own words used to commonly describe himself)... I didn't really know him but others said that he drove drunk all the time- I don't understand how/why they didn't do something about his problems before it cost him his life... but, we shouldn't judge.</p>

<p>I think our society(or the one I live in) fosters suicidal and reckless teens- so much pressure, so little communication, such high expectations, little to no acceptance for alternative options....</p>

<p>that's sad.</p>

<p>dramatically well written.</p>

<p>that's very sad. and as everyone has said, very well-written.</p>

<p>thanks for reminding us that there's more important things in life than our cumulative GPA...</p>

<p>My school recently had a tragedy as well.... A day after graduation from high school, on the kids went to upstate New York and drowned... A day after graduation...</p>

<p>It's so sad there are so many stories. :'(</p>

<p>I agree with everyone here. It's unfortunate that these incidents happen, but, as you've said, they keep us in check with reality. They allow us to be thankful for all we have and not worry as much about our SAT scores or class rank. It's disappointing how colleges and other pressures force people to worry and stress over the continuation of their education. I strongly agree that society does a pitiful job with teaching younger members the true meaning of things, especially our lives. As the quote goes, many people live to work instead of working to live and valuing more important things, such as family and friends. Now my name may be collegefanatic, but I am definitely not one, it's just a name. Unfortunately, there are many real collegefanatics that can not seem to understand that college is only the first step to life, and not necessarily the most important. Society needs to update it's ideas on this idea, so that we have greater appreciation for life and its truly important components.</p>

<p>Camus, I'm sorry about the loss of your classmate. My daughter lost a classmate last year and it is so hard. Hugs to you and everyone at your school.</p>

<p>glad thats not for a UC cus that ones good</p>

<p>I am so sorry Camus.. I lost a dear buddy of mine (since the 2nd grade) in the 7th grade.. He died to suicide, however.. which made it all even sadder..</p>

<p>As for my school, our school is familiar with the stinging touch of death -- every month, someone has died or is seriously wounded at a local area hospital.. They either got shot, went through the windows and onto the dashboard while street car racing, or some other odd reason I haven't been able to state yet.</p>

<p>:: sigh ::</p>

<p>My three teenage children were just in a car crash this morning. Car is totaled, injuries are just from deployed airbags and front seat smashing back into youngest daughter. ALMOST crashed over rickity bridge onto Rail Road tracks. I can't believe it. Youngest child said "what if we had died and Mom got the letter from Princeton next month.." Oh my god. Life is precious.</p>

<p>the only person to die from my school in a while happened 2 years ago when i was a sophmore, and he was a junior. He got in a car wreck and died instantly. I didn't know him that well, but i did know him somewhat because he was in my chemistry classs. </p>

<p>I have had many deaths in my family, but the closest one was my grandfather-yet, i didn't know him THAT well. All i remember was when i used to live in Pittsburgh, and i used to take daily walks with him...</p>

<p>Its moments like these that you actually start to think about life, and what it really mean to you. But the best way to get past these memories is to never forget their spirit, and to strive even harder in life in the memory of what these people meant to you. </p>

<p>I'm sorry that you had to face this unfortunate death.</p>

<p>Whatscooking, How horrible for you and your children. You will have much to be thankful for tommorrow! Hugs to you.</p>

<p>There's a memorial at my school for three students who died back in '93. and then for the last three years, something has gone wrong for students. my freshman year, a kid died from this disease, i'm not sure what it was. sophomore year, some kids were near a creek after a heavy rain, one fell in and drowned. then this year, a kid killed his social worker and attempted to kill his mother. year after year, death has somehow weaved its way into the student body. Some students were discussing this scary trend, and it keeps you wondering, who will be next? it's a morbid thing to think about, but when it keeps happening, it's hard to ignore it.</p>