<p>Hello everyone, </p>
<p>I'm kind of in a financial/moral/happiness dilemma here, and I'd really appreciate any insight on it. </p>
<p>So, I'm in the midst of applying to a study abroad program, and I've been thinking about it and looking forward to it since last fall. I've fallen in love with the French language, and as a duo French major, I think studying in France would really help jumpstart my degree and my knowledge/accent/confidence. Even though I've posted about anxiety before and that it's been especially in relation to my French class, I'm getting better with it and more confident, and I feel that immersion would solve most of my speaking anxiety. Also, I'm planning some official research to do there with my school's writing department, so I'm excited to do work in both of my majors and to maybe even get published.</p>
<p>Anyway, I was told the direct costs (including a flight) are about 16k. However, with my tuition being covered with my scholarships (they charge me tuition like I'm at my school) and with part of my Pell Grant being refunded since I'm only paying my school for tuition, that leaves about 7k for room and board and extra, so let's say 8k to be safe. </p>
<p>I can currently afford to do this (I could get some good loans, I have some money saved up, I have a job with flexible, abundant hours, and my grandmother could help me), but my mom told me yesterday that starting in June, her job is getting cut down to under 30 hrs/wk and that she doesn't know what she's going to do to get by next year. </p>
<p>Naturally, this means I have to step it up a bit. So, I'm going to have to pay for my summer class, books, and the part that's not covered for my fall housing next year. that's about $3500, not even counting gas and extras. Also, of course, I plan to help out with bills and such since we'll really be hurting. </p>
<p>So, ultimately, this takes money directly away from my study abroad savings fund, and I feel awful for wanting to go away to France. It doesn't help that my mom's been against it from the start, and now she has a "you're abandoning me when we need money!" attitude. </p>
<p>Should I sacrifice my dream because she's in a rough spot? I could not go away in the fall, commute again, get Pell money back and give it to her, and work as much as I can. I can do what has to be done, but all at the cost of my OWN wellbeing. </p>
<p>I've been planning this trip for months, and I already have things started with people. (my research with my professors, consultations with my advisors, general advice and extra lessons from my French professor, etc.) I can't go junior year because I need to prepare for graduate school tests and take certain classes for my majors , I can't go during a summer because I work, and senior is out due to grad school apps and senior thesis. Basically, it's next year or bust, and without getting all those French classes knocked out and done superbly in France, I'm not sure I could be a French major. </p>
<p>But if I go, my mother will be suffering financially all on her own, and a broken heart won't help her. </p>
<p>What should I do or think about doing? Thank you so much. This is really hard.</p>