Weed on an official overnight? Really?

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<p>Colleges are big cities and all manners of ill behavior are to be found. But an offer to get high with the team? Totally inappropriate. And certainly a student discussing this with her parent is not tattling.</p>

<p>There’s a lot of talk on CC admonishing parents to be respective of their adult children. Legally, 18 is an adult. But evolutionarily, not so much. The frontal lobe (an area which governs decision making) isn’t fully closed on most young people until the age of 25. On males, it can be later. So yes, a child who is 18 is technically an adult, but that doesn’t mean they have life experience or even the physiology to always make good choices.</p>

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<p>I am on record as anti-tattling, but even I don’t think your D was tattling when she told you about it. If she were to call up the coach…that would be another matter. If she decided not to go there and the coach asked her why, and the reason was the team partying, then I think she could tell the coach–without naming names–that she witnessed partying on her visit and decided on that basis that she would not fit in with the team. </p>

<p>The coach could then decide what s/he wanted to do about it.</p>