@MomCares, while I agree that no one can “judge your worth as a person” in a five minute audition, I have heard SO MANY casting directors and heads of MT programs say, “I know within the first 15 seconds whether this person is right for me or not.” And, I would hazard a guess that MOST OF THE TIME, they are right. Do schools make mistakes? Yes. Do casting directors make mistakes? Yes. But most of the time, they get it right. They know what they are looking for, and they know talent when they see it, whether it is raw or polished.
As a survivor (love this term for what we went through as parents), I can look back with a more unbiased view, I think. And, at the risk of opening up a whole 'nuther can of worms, I’m going to say this. I know it will draw ire, but…I truly believe this is true. At least, it was true 2 years ago, and last year, and I think it will be true this year. It probably wasn’t true 10 years ago, pre-Glee effect.
Seems to me there are 5 categories of kids: 1) those kids who are incredibly talented and well-coached and get into MOST of the programs they apply to, both top tier schools, and safety schools, b/c they are so good that everyone wants to take a chance on them (b/c schools ARE concerned about their yield) - there really are only a handful of these kids here on CC each year…I’m sure there are more not on CC. You can look at the Acceptances threads and see who these kids are, simply by looking at the schools they got into; 2) those kids who are talented, but not quite ready for Broadway yet, but have those commercial looks (Broadway bodies, tall, good-looking, etc., b/c as much as we hate to say it and see it, YES, it matters) - these kids get into SOME of the top tier programs and do really well, but some of us wonder how they did quite as well as they did; 3) those incredibly talented kids who don’t think they need a coach for whatever reason, and are just as talented (maybe more so) than the kids in category 1, but they are cocky…too full of themselves. These kids get into some good programs who don’t care if they have a class full of divas, and they get rejected from other (a lot of) top tier programs that do care…and people are SHOCKED that these uber-talented kids don’t get into some of the schools they applied to. Luckily, this is a very small group of kids…a tiny category, really; 4) those kids who are talented, but not category 1 or 3 talented, and get into some really great programs, some safety schools, and don’t get into other good programs and safety schools…these are the ones where we scratch our heads and say, “Why on EARTH did they get into school A but rejected from school B?” These are the majority of kids at auditions and here on CC, I think. Good, talented, nice kids who - for reasons that will never be known to us - get into some programs but not others; and 5) those kids who don’t get in anywhere, or maybe only their non-audition safety, or maybe only one or two lower tier audition schools out of the 25 schools they applied to. Why? Maybe they aren’t competitive with the rest of the pool of applicants. Maybe they are incredibly talented but they don’t audition well. Maybe there are too many 5’4" brunette belters this year and everyone has their fill. I don’t know why, but this pool of kids does exist.
There. I said it. Have at me. But that’s what I have observed. Are there kids who don’t fall into one of these 5 categories? Sure. But I think (it’s opinion here, people) that the vast majority of kids fall into one of these categories. If you’re lucky, your kid will be in category 1 or 2. MOST of your kids will be in category 4 (mine was). And that’s a great place to be…no worries there. They will end up some place great for them.
And, after saying all of this…here’s something else that will throw a wrench into all of this. Even kids in category 5 can “make it.” Just like there are kids in category 1 who won’t make it. So the bottom line is, this is just a tiny step in the process. Your kid needs talent, patience, drive, determination, luck, and they need to be a really REALLY nice person (don’t underestimate the importance of this). IF they have all of these things, they stand a much better chance of being successful. Nothing you can do or say or think or worry about is going to change the outcome of where your child ends up at this point. And I guess what I’m trying to do here is quell some of your fears…like I said, the vast majority of your kids are in category 4. It will be okay. Really. Breathe.