<p>NoFX, Consider me a godsend. Rawr</p>
<p>I guess Id have to say presence is my thing. Its an intangible, but I suppose the top three ingredients are generally going to be intelligence, strong physical bearing, and confidence.</p>
<p>^ I know what youre talking about. A lot of it is charisma..</p>
<p>Personally I like guys who are big dorks. Hehe.</p>
<p>First off: umm.....well not to sound shallow but looks are kinda important. It factors into chemistry I think. Sadly it can factor into if I like a guy. But just the same, if a guy is charming and perfect (to me of course) I know I for one do not see the looks at all. They just disappear. I'm not sure how it works but it does. Looks I guess just intrigue me in the first place, not to say that if you don't have my particular likes in the look department, you have no shot. Just a factor. Can be silenced. Has been silenced in the past. </p>
<p>Things that make me say wow....you are cool and want you as my boy:</p>
<p>Intelligence. Not genius. Can't try and prove me wrong unless we're having a battle over an issue. Wit, really. Wit is hot. Fast answers with smirks included. Nice.</p>
<p>The certain ability to see beauty in all life and be so optimistic that the boy believes he can do anything in the world. That's really hot. As long as he isn't too cocky in the process. Random story but this one guy I know went and caught me a butterfly for me. That sounds really corny and weird now....but it was really.....innocent and cute then. I dunno. Weirdo huh?</p>
<p>Chivalry's nice. Not over the top. But nice pleasant amounts. </p>
<p>He needs to be one of my best friends. I need to trust him and be able to tell him anything. Doesn't have to happen right away, but eventually I need this. </p>
<p>Common dress style is important only to the point that bling bling and weird punk stuff is creepy. I want to be able to show you to my parents some day!</p>
<p>The guy must be able to talk about stuff that we both like and are passionate about. Similar interests are huge, but DUH!</p>
<p>Oo here's one. Sense of humor. I have one. I like to use it. Sarcasm = Ashley's friend. </p>
<p>Appreciate my randomity. </p>
<p>Have that look. Every girl knows this look. The way he looks when he totally is into you. The deep gazing-smirk look. </p>
<p>Gasp. Nice. </p>
<p>I like big noses. Random, yes. Nice, ho yeah. </p>
<p>No cussing. Keep is nice esp in the presence of a lady. </p>
<p>Ok from all of my rambling is one common idea. Every girl has a different idea of what her perfect is. Guys don't have to be prince charming with a nice car, bod, and poetry skills. It is all about how the chemistry is between the person in the end. I like all that stuff above, but if it's not working, it's not working. Y'know? A guy shouldn't have to change his image or whatever for a girl (and girls vice versa). Be you through and through. Be passionate about everything you do and be interested in the girl. </p>
<p>Okie I'm done now.</p>
<p>He should look cute to me even if he isn't to anyone else and vice versa.
^^^ Private_Joker</p>
<p>This puts in better words than I think I did.</p>
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<li>intelligence</li>
<li>sarcasm (but no too much)</li>
<li>humor</li>
<li>must be taller than me (I think all girls want that)</li>
<li>dresses ok, but isn't too stylish (There isn't anything more unappealing than a guy who has more clothes than you and spends more time on his hair. Low maintainence people who still look good are the best.)</li>
<li>has a sensitive side</li>
<li>must have an interest in doing "meaningful" things with me like going to the park, accompanying me on errands </li>
<li>not exeprienced (since I'm not either)</li>
<li>confident but not arrogant</li>
<li>similar political, moral, lifestyle values</li>
<li>smilar but not the same taste in music and movies (same would be boring)</li>
<li>must like to read and discuss more than the average</li>
<li>must know about computers (doesn't have to be a whiz but computer illiterates are unattractive)</li>
<li>my family must like him because there's no point in dating someone your family hates</li>
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<p>"must be taller than me (I think all girls want that)"</p>
<p>Don't be hating us short guys. :)</p>
<p>In my head I'm 6`4!</p>
<p>I won't say I don't like attractive guys, but when a guy has what I like, he becomes more attractive than the best looking guy. And I'd like him to be taller than me, but only because I'm short (5'4). I don't really care though.</p>
<p>1.funny/witty. I love a sense of humor, and I love a guy who can laugh at my jokes
2.loyal. I have to be able to trust them. At my school, there's a lot of guys who are scumbags, and I couldn't like someone who was like that
3.sweet. I'm a hopeless romantic at heart. So I love those cute little gestures that don't take a lot of effort, but they make my heart melt.
2.</p>
<p>I like guys to be taller than me because I'm tall (5'6) and already awkward enough about my height.</p>
<p>Well just to clarify, I'm not a midget. I'm 5`5, however considering that I'm 20 (well I'm 20 as of next Wednesday) and a guy I doubt I'll be getting any taller.</p>
<p>This all has made a quite interesting read, but i have a question....no offense to girls, but i feel that you girls have shafted the good guy</p>
<p>I would consider myself a nice guy, but as it turns out, my success with those of the fairer sex is not optomistically promising... why do girls date and hang around bad guys who treat them like dirt?</p>
<p>I used to be in love with a bad guy who treated me like dirt. He seemed so nice when I first started liking him, and I didn't realize he wasn't until I'd already gone too far (emotionally, never physically). I think a lot of girls genuinely try to see the good in everyone, but end up fooling themselves in their efforts.</p>
<p>mmm... .</p>
<p>I've always preferred nice guys, but sometimes it's hard to seperate who's genuinely nice and who isn't. thisyearsgirl makes a very good point about that</p>
<p>I personally like it if he doesnt have sweet poetry skills. I've had one of those follow me around and its not the best thing. Some ppl still call me PVL for "Pink velvety lips" as the guy called 'em.</p>
<p>I like nice guys!
And attractive doesnt necessarily mean Brad Pitt. There are lots of guys I think are attractive that none of my friends do... harry potter for example..</p>
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Definitely agree. I don't think Brad Pitt is attractive either, nor Orlando Bloom or any of those supposed "hot guys". </p>
<p>I need to be attracted to (1) intellect, (2) personality...THEN (3) appearance. If (1) and (2) aren't there, (3) is just not going to happen.</p>
<p>I think guys who are jerks are attractive sometimes, but it doesn't mean I like them at all. And a guy with the qualities I like is attractive, even if at first I'm not physically attacted to him</p>
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I used to be in love with a bad guy who treated me like dirt. He seemed so nice when I first started liking him, and I didn't realize he wasn't until I'd already gone too far (emotionally, never physically). I think a lot of girls genuinely try to see the good in everyone, but end up fooling themselves in their efforts.
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<p>Welcome to my world. I have seen it time and time again, a girl dating someone who they think that they can change. Here is a clue Einstein, if he beats you and cheats on you now, he is never going to stop!! I refuse to stoop to the level of being a total d**khead like that just to get women, but it is difficult as most females think I am a nice guy, but whenever I ask them oot, they make up some dumbass excuse. (it would just be too weird, I only think of you as a friend, etc.) Well go ahead and date your muscle bound guys who constantly beat you senseless, cheat on you whenever you are not around, and treat you like total crap. I have no sympathy for women like that, and if it takes me ten years to find another girlfriend, I refuse to stoop to that level.</p>
<p>joev -- You seem to have a very healthy perspective, and I appreciate that.</p>
<p>I don't know how much of that rant was directed at me, but I should probably clarify what kind of situation I referred to. This guy never hurt me physically (actually, he never touched me), nor did he insult me or cheat on me (there was no actual relationship). What he did do was keep me in an emotionally compromising position without ever giving me a straight answer. I lied and cheated (academically, that is) and went out of my way for him, and rationalized every part of it ("he's just confused"). He never cared, of course, but I was a convenience--good to have around for favors. From my part, it was all the desperate stupidity of being fourteen and impressionable and painfully alone. It's not something I'm proud of, but at least I can say I've learned from my mistakes.</p>
<p>None of that rant was directly directed at you, it was just a rant aboot women in general. It ain't easy being cheesy (or single again)</p>