<p>lol, ok, just making sure.</p>
<p>It's funny because sometimes we have these ideas of what we want in a guy, but then some guy can totally defy our ideas and get to us like crazy. Okay, I guess that is my experience right now:</p>
<p>Ideally, I want the guy I marry to have these qualities:</p>
<p>1) Attractiveness/ get to me chemistry somehow - that starts it up I guess.</p>
<p>2) Intelligent/ can communicate ideas</p>
<p>3) Nice </p>
<p>4) Does sweet things, really shows he cares </p>
<p>5) Similar interests</p>
<p>6) Independent person willing to grow from another</p>
<p>7) Spontaneousness in his personality, willing to try new things with me (adventurousness is so hott!)</p>
<p>8) Similar morals, though not necessarily completely alike. I'm pretty tolerant, so that is probably my biggets thing. I want an open-minded guy. </p>
<p>9) Goals and direction in life</p>
<p>10) Good personality - not sure how to define because so many different personality are cool</p>
<p>Those are some of the biggies. But now I'll explain my current boyfriend. He really doesn't fit my ideal standard on a lot of points, and yet, I am so freakin' head over heels for this guy! It's crazy...</p>
<p>My guy:</p>
<p>1) Chemistry is there - yay!</p>
<p>2) He is a good conversationalist, but he isn't into academics like me. I couldn't call him an intellectual...</p>
<p>3) Yes he is a nice guy. :)</p>
<p>4) He does sweet things, though not all the time. He isn't clingy but he does enough to show he cares.</p>
<p>5) Honestly, our interests are so different, but I still love being with him. There are obviously things we both like, but our main passions are pretty different.</p>
<p>6) He's independent to an extent. He definitely doesn't cling or anything but he is quite the go with the flow kind of a guy. </p>
<p>7) I would say he's pretty adventurous...though maybe a bit too much sometimes...</p>
<p>8) We are alike to an extent I guess, but we are actually pretty different on this one.</p>
<p>9) Hardly exists... He's a go with the flow kind of guy and he lets his few goals slip away. :(</p>
<p>10) I love his personality, though I'm not sure what about it. He just gets to me.</p>
<p>I guess probably only half of those apply to my guy and yet I am seriously caught up in that boy. Of course, he is missing some essentials and therefore I know it will never work in the long- long haul. But for a summer romance, mmm, he's so awesome! :)</p>
<p>Just thought I'd share my thoughts!</p>
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why do girls date and hang around bad guys who treat them like dirt?
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I dont think most girls intentionally hang around bad guys who treat them like dirt unless they just have incredibly low self-esteem or some kind of codependency problem. There are some like that, but I think it usually comes down to the fact that we go out with the guys who get our attention and make a move. The bad guys tend to be aggressive risk takers. The nice guys dont. Some nice guys will sit around pining over the idea of a girl for months or even years at a time and never get around to making a move. In the meantime, the bad guy sees what he wants, swoops in, and away they go leading to copious emo whining from the nice guy. Theres also another breed of nice guy who behaves in such a way that you can only think of him as a friend. We may love him as a friend, but hell probably never get past that status though a drunken hookup could lead to FWB or more but probably not. Then theres another breed thats just plain boring as white bread and vanilla, so of course he doesnt get any! LOL</p>
<p>I HATE it how in movies, the wife still hangs around after getting beaten up, gets cheated on, by her alchoholic, fat, lazy husband. Women like that... ARGGHHHH!!</p>
<p>I forgot to add one more thing.
The guy has to be taller than me (5ft7)
I actually had to turn down a guy because he was atleast half a foot shorter than me. Call me shallow if you want. But.. I just couldn't!</p>
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agree 100%</p>
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Some nice guys will sit around pining over the idea of a girl for months or even years at a time and never get around to making a move. In the meantime, the bad guy sees what he wants, swoops in, and away they go leading to copious emo whining from the nice guy.
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Very good point...overall an excellent post.</p>
<p>mature, intelligent, sense of humor, nice smile, smells good :), takes the initiative to come up to me, knows when to be serious, not too clingy, somewhat of a "free spirit", knows how to have fun, good listener and talker, open minded..yeah haha...where's my guy??</p>
<p>you know, if you really like someone, you'll grow to like everything about that person.</p>
<p>you know...i've noticed that LOTS of girls use the whole "denial complex." A bunch of my girlfriend's friends stay with guys who have continuously lied and cheated on them...they'll break up for a day, and then get back with em..and that's a real heartbreaker.</p>
<p>BUT...guys get caught up sometimes too....i constantly tried to be with this girl (my friend's g/f nontheless), because she always told me she loved me, and she wanted to be with me...she even went as far as to say that we were gonna get MARRIED....i always bought her expensive jewelry and did sweet things for her...i'd always help her out...i shoulda known from the begining that she was a gold-digger, cuz she always talked about having a house bigger than my own and how her husband was gonna pay for it...she kept the shinanagin going for over a year, and it was because of her that i lost one of my best friends....i shouldn'tve messed around with her in the first place.i mean...don't get me wrong...i didn't want to stab my friend in the back, but he always yelled at her and was horribly possesive....i just thought i could be better for her...she'd just totally stop talking to me, and it'd hurt so bad...2 months later she'd come back...it happened twice...the third time i didn't let it...she called me and i straight up dissed the b i t c h. Good guys dont' always win out...treated the girl like a queen and all that happened was that i got played.</p>
<p>But don't lose hope...now i have an awsome girlfriend of over 14 months that treats me (and gets treated) wonderfully that i wouldn't trade for anything or everything in the world, and i can honestly say that she showed me what real love is....not to mention she's absolutely gorgeous (she's just sexy :p)</p>
<p>"you know, if you really like someone, you'll grow to like everything about that person."</p>
<p>this is very true. i agree completely. i had a crush on a girl because she was extremely intelligent. however, she wasn't the prettiest girl, but it got to a point where i liked her so much just for her uniqueness that nothing else mattered. you tend to idealize the person once one characteristic completely draws u in.</p>
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i always bought her expensive jewelry and did sweet things for her...i'd always help her out...i shoulda known from the begining that she was a gold-digger, cuz she always talked about having a house bigger than my own and how her husband was gonna pay for it...
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This is one thing I refuse to do, is buy expensive crap for women. I will pay for the movie and a reasonably priced dinner, but a $100 boquet of roses is out the window. She might get a single rose or a boquet of carnations that is under $10. Remember the one ep of Friends where Ross and Joey were both dating that black girl and Ross bought her all that expensive crap and Joey at the drop of a hat was able to sleep with her if he wanted to. I thought of that when thesbohemian made the comments about risk taking. That is good food for thought, as I usually befriend a female first before asking them oot. I might have to change that aspect of my repitoire. Or just quit over analyzing everything and DO IT.</p>
<p>This is, by far, the funnest thread I've seen in awhile. Its keeping me from being too serious and I love it! :)</p>
<p>I agree Moni</p>
<p>Its a change from college talk atleast</p>
<p>Well, I sit around and THINK about what I want in a boy all day anyways, so its a nice little outlet. like this..</p>
<p>I like skinny boys. Muscle...is ew. Moni likes skinny. I wanna be able to break him. mmmm...</p>
<p>Since no one is taking this too seriously (and hopefully will not be offended), I'll play along.</p>
<p>*Not an engineer. They just have odd ways of looking at relationships.
*On the positive side, I like men who are econ people. (Yes, I date by major!)
*Not pre-law or in law school. Most of those men tend to show off their prowess by picking fights. I get tired of saying, "But you KNOW what I'm trying to say, right? And you agree with it, right? So why have you been arguing with me for the past hour?"
*Shorter men, even though I'm tall.
*Ambitious and intelligent. One without the other (esp. the latter without the former) makes me mental. I appreciate men who are able to converse about a wide variety of things, but also have a plan in life of what they want and how they are going to (or are) getting it. Entirely tired of men who are intimidated by me.
*Not skinny. Dated too many skinny guys who were all sketchy, so it's just an association thing.<br>
*Does not pressure for sex or sexual activities. Been dumped too many times over that - c'mon, I'm in my mid-twenties, and men should understand that I'm not some kid who can be manipulated and that my morals aren't about to change because they are horny.</p>
<p>***This also could be called "Top Seven Reasons Why AriesAthena is Single." :)</p>
<p>really nice
smells really good haha
ummm smart</p>
<p>well past the obvious stuff... if you ever get intimate with a girl, you need to understand where the clitoris is. I know this from personal experience.</p>
<p>hey joev, when i was reading one of your entries, i thought it was mine because you were speaking EXACTLY how I feel. It's so annoying how females always go for jerks. That is why i've decided to become one, just to see how successful i am.</p>
<p>and girls are always listing silly little things about what they like. when it comes down to it, all they really care about is confidence and the overall image (looks).</p>
<p>ahhh.. looks are a HUGE part of it. but the kind of looks varies with the girl. I don't like muscley guys, jock, or any of that stereotypical stuff.
And I did like a jerk once, but he was really skinny, not cute (to anyone else), and not popular. Maybe I just break all the rules, though.</p>
<p>Alex, please dont become a jerk. As a female i can tell you no1 likes jerks, girls hate them. well atleast me and my friends do. </p>
<p>sigh...what a girls wants... wow thats hard... every girl wants something different. Heres what i think i want....</p>
<p>a person capable of incredible passion
a person that understands me
a guy thats just a guy who is teasing/playful... i so detest the serious types</p>