<p>Girls want to feel protected I think but really who knows...</p>
<p>Hell this is America, where the hottest girls can hook up with the nerdiest guys!!! Thats got to be a good thing for us CC guys. ;)</p>
<p>if youre chubby, go for chubby girls... but having been one, i still wouldnt have gone out with a chubby.
and ya know.. i think confidence is just something you are born with...you have it or you dont.</p>
<p>and maybe the hottest girls ARE the nerdiest ones anyways... so that would be why they hook up with other nerds.. or they want the money.</p>
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<li> Does he share my religious beliefs and values?</li>
<li> Does he show initiative and assertiveness, but also a sweet, caring side?</li>
<li> Do I find him physically attractive? (this part obviously is not as important as the first two but it definitely helps with the overall chemistry.)</li>
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<p>confidence, nice smile, intelligence, and outgoing-ness..sorry that was 4</p>
<p>Moni thats so true at least at my school..the nerdy girls are the hottest girls ;). The ones that are stupid are usually ugly and lack self confidence.</p>
<p>Girls want a guy who's a jerk. Who'll beat 'em around. That's why jerks always get the girls.</p>
<p>Either that or someone who's rich.</p>
<p>I'm a guy (just to clear things up- I don't want any creepy PM's lol..), and I've noticed that although "intelligence", "personality", etc. are important in the "What-I-Want-In-A-Guy" process, I think I can safely say that girls will not give an equal "opportunity" to a guy who is not as attractive. In this, I mean, she will obviously not know of his personality at first, but also, if she saw two guys, one being more attractive, and they both approached her, she would probably be more flirtatious with the more attractive guy. However, over time, the thing that will count is personality, etc. Bottom line: Just like life, priorities change.</p>
<p>P.S.- Sorry if I have offended anyone, seemingly accused anyone, or stated the obvious, but I'm just basing this on my experiences. Also, guys will do the same thing, but initially, attractiveness plays a bigger role. Now that I think of it, I guess I just stated the obvious.. I just wanted to contribute, and now it just looks like a bunch of mumbo jumbo. </p>
<p>Sorry if you read all that and got nothing from it. It's late (early in the morning) and I guess I'm tired, but I can't go to sleep! :T</p>
<p>I really don't agree.</p>
<p>I think guys can be categorized much more easily than girls can.</p>
<p>It's true that all guys have innate desires that they don't control. But what makes us different on the individual level is our abilities to look past what everyone else tells us to look for and see something different. I know guys who would be considered unattractive and unpopular who go for girls in their groups - and they get them - whereas other guys go for the girls whom they barely know but have the right physical characteristics - and they get nowhere.</p>
<p>Girls confuse the hell out of me :P.</p>
<p>I DO know for a fact, though, that looks definitely are not everything for many - if not all - of them. I mean, I'm not the most attractive person in the world (though I do look pretty damn good if I may say so myself) and I have potential for relationships with some people I know.</p>
<p>There's a girl who lives about an hour away from me. We met online through a mutual friend and totally clicked. We talked on the phone and online and "went out" for about nine days until we decided it was too hard without having ever seen each other. She'd sent me pictures of herself (she's absolutely beautiful), but I told her that I wasn't very confident (that's changed since then) and she understood. We had an on and off thing for each other, and finally met almost a year later at an MUN conference (hehe). I thought she was out of my league and nothing would ever work out, which subconsciously convinced me that I was no longer attracted to her, and nothing happened for a while.</p>
<p>The truth is, we ARE in somewhat different leagues, but we still have a relationship that we both want to pursue once we're able to see each other more often.</p>
<p>Actually, there was another guy at the MUN conference from my school, and him and the girl were physically attracted to each other, but that ended after about a week because they had NOTHING else going for them.</p>
<p>Meanwhile, she and I still communicate and enjoy each other's company.</p>
<p>Girls know what to look for in guys. I do believe that every girl wants a guy (or girl) the same way each guy does. Girls are always searching for Mr. Right, and know no limits in their searches, whereas guys are usually looking for Ms. Right Now who may not mean anything in two months.</p>
<p>I can't totally agree that looks are not important- I don't know whether you said this or not, but that's how I perceived it. Although, it IS true that looks are not the MOST important thing, and I think I can say that for every guy, looks eventually become unimportant. However, when was the last time you saw an absolutely gorgeous woman walk up to a nerdy, pimply, etc. guy and ask him out? Or have a hunky piece of man walk up to a not-so-attractive woman? I'm a believer in love, and I definitely think there is potential between ANY two people, regardless of superficial things (looks, money, etc.). However, how does a strong relationship survive when it never even started (if looks do not play a big role)? Bottom line: Looks (initially) play a pretty big role in who we want to choose as a mate, but there is no doubt that superficiality is no match for personality as time goes on. Please continue this conversation- I'm curious of what others think of this. Thanks</p>
<p>I have a small anger-bias against a lot of women but mainly because of irrational assumptions derived from a bad relationship I had in the past. I used to feel like girls wanted guys they could control, or guys who would sacrifice without question. An example I recall my ex-gf saying, "My definition of sweet? When a guy paints his wife's nails for her because she has arthritis, when he has arthritis himself". Sure, it's nice and all, but this girl held that philosophy to her for every function of life. I remember one time I was freezing because I had forgotten my jacket and my gf was wearing one plus three scarf things, plus another jacket. I asked her for one thing and she was like "No way, that's something a girl should never have to do". I thought it was pretty *****ty. I feel that sometimes women ask men to do things they would never do themselves if the reversal-role came into play.</p>
<p>What also boggles me when you try to do something for a girl is that sometimes you get hit with "I'm a big girl, let me do my own thing". ***. So difficult.</p>
<p>intelligent
knows when to be serious, but has a wicked sense of humor
independent
caring
protects me
kindness towards others
confident in himself
romantic
wants me :)
clothes match</p>
<p>thats what my boyfriend of 3+ years is like. i have found that the more you get to know a person personality-wise, the greater the attraction you feel towards him or her, both emotionally and physically.</p>
<p>Okay, so initially it's the looks plus the charm or personality of a person that draws a girl to a guy. </p>
<p>Beyond that, a whole list of factors plays into everything. Rather than list 'em all, I just want to clarify the girls wanting jerks myth.</p>
<p>Girls don't want jerks. But girls do want guys with confidence. It is attractive when you feel like you sort of have to work to get a guy but you don't want to be mistreated or put down. You just want a guy who is comfortable with himself and who is sort of smooth I guess. Smoothness is hott, being a jerk is not!</p>
<p>LegendofMax - that's called the "mean girls find the nicest guys" syndrome. </p>
<p>I can assure you that many girls are just not like that... generally, girls can figure out if another girl would be nice or just using someone, and guys know when another guy is going to be a jerk. If you have female friends, run the g/f by them.</p>
<p>Leonesa - of course. Men who are not confident, IMO, are often ones who have a whole host of other issues - the insecurity can run quite deep and really ruin a relationship. Insecure men have problems with trust and faith in the girl they are dating... and it really stinks to have a man who can't trust me and who doesn't find me to be intelligent.</p>
<p>ariesathena: Yes, I know that much is true... it's just that my past experiences have not been so hot :P I used to end up dating a lot of cheating/using/lying/feminazi-esque people</p>
<p>LOL - most of my b/fs are the male equivalent of that. Cheating (check), lying (double check), Larry Summers syndrome (I'm an engineer - don't tell me that women aren't as good in math), dump me because I won't sleep with them-men. </p>
<p>I do sympathize. Been there, done that. I now run my b/fs by my father (even though I'm in my mid-twenties). The good ones get along with him or at least respect his role in my life. The bad ones are scared of him. :) Only thing I can recommend for you is to find someone who acts as a good litmus test - mom, female friend, etc.</p>
<p>Well I hope I don't sound like I have always run into that -- I am with someone right now who I am very happy with :) I speak from ex-experiences when I refer to the negatives.</p>
<p>look are very, very important............................if a hot/pretty girl asks me out, i'll be thrilled and definitely go out with her...</p>
<p>however, as time goes by, look becomes less and less important</p>
<p>Congrats. :) Good to know that things are moving in a positive direction. Beats the alternative.</p>
<p>Well intelligent ..ambitious girls such as myself look for guys that are intelligent..he doesn't have to be a genius, but he needs to be able to carry an intellectual conversation. Girls look for guys who have confidence, ambition, and I'm not going to lie..looks do matter to an extent.</p>
<p>I really like the metrosexual type.... the guy who wears express, is clean, classy, a la david beckham. i dont like guys who act all macho and like all they care about is sports and shop at wal mart for clothes.</p>