Hello all. I am upset, disappointed, and confused at the moment. I am also angry at myself for not withdrawing from an important class I took fall of freshman year. I got a D. It has ruined my precious GPA. Probably ruined my chances of transferring to a school I actually want to be at.
I’m a sophomore currently. I hate my school. I absolutely hate it. I joined a sorority thinking it would make it better (a great sorority at that), and I think it might have made it worse. I have friends outside of the sorority, who are great. But I don’t think I’ve ever had true happiness at my school. I go to my “safety” school. Honestly, I shouldn’t have even applied because I never wanted to go here in the first place.
I want to transfer. There are a few problems with this. First, my GPA is s**t. Second, I found a perfect roommate here (which is hard to find, believe me). And third, I don’t know if transferring will solve anything. In my fantasy, I would be at a gorgeous school with an awesome, smart friend group with school spirit and I’d be experiencing all four seasons.
HS GPA: 3.58/4.62
Rank: top 20%
SAT: 2050
ACT: 30
College GPA: 3.51
Premed.
So, what do I do? Where would I even transfer? Should I just keep my head down and try to power through the next two years (minus a semester or two for studying abroad and probably graduating early to gf of here)? Any advice is appreciated.
You haven’t even gave us any reasons as to why you’re upset with your current situation. I’d say we would need a couple reasons before anyone could help you.
Yea sorry about that, it was partially a vent post.
I’ve tried probably 6+ different clubs, organizations, etc. to find my “niche” and haven’t found it. Every morning I just tell myself to make it through the day. I really don’t think college, or life should be like that. The one thing I really hate about it is the hookup and party culture (made it on that top party school list - yay?). I rather be surrounded by intellectually curious students who read books at coffee shops (not exactly, but that kind of vibe). I’d like to go somewhere classier, if that makes any sense. Classy people are very hard to find at my school. The classes are far too large. I prefer a more intimate environment. Also it’s way too hot here.
But even with those reasons, I can’t quite put my finger on what exactly it is I don’t like about it. I did my best explaining though. It’s probably a combination of all those things.
I know it seems strange to say, but sometimes going out a couple times can change your mindset. If you’ve never drank or smoked before, it can definitely skew your perspective on it. But to be honest, I’d think almost every college would have people of different personality whether or not it’s a big school. And it may sound very hypocritical coming from someone who is struggling with the same issues as you, but I think a transfer may not be the solution to your problem. A lot of the people that are intellectually curious still party too and it’s helpful to keep an open mindset. Sometimes it’s better to be accepting of other values and not always condescending (not saying that you are). Anyways, everyone is going through finding their type of people (including me) and I hope this helped you!
Well I’ve gone out and drank a pretty decent amount, trust me on that haha. Yea I’ve met many premeds and other smart kids partying, but I don’t know where to find my kind of people. Thanks for the reply though.
I actually do understand your situation though, sort of. I’m assuming that you’re like the photographer/artsy/hipster-ish/let’s do random cool fucking things kind of person? (as am I). And it’s tough finding people exactly like that (especially when I’m at a community college), and I know that smart kids are not necessarily cool. Man, I knew this one girl in high school that I really admire. She is incredibly smart (hence her going to Columbia now) and she is so hipster, different, and definitely not lame. But it’s hard to find people that are super cool/not nerdy and smart and doesn’t hardcore party every weekend. And I know I’m blabbering at this point but hope you find friends.
Your GPA is absolutely fine, especially since a D implies the rest of your GPA is really high, and a short explanation makes you look even better. It’s important to remember college GPA’s average much lower than high school for each person.
As to IF you should transfer, I think you need to be selective in your possible transfer schools, and also try to assume you won’t transfer. Only apply after you are SURE life will really be that much better. All through the process, be confident externally but don’t count on anything or it could be even more of a letdown. I think testing out transferring like that would be a good start. Do you have any transfer schools in mind currently? Where are you going now?
@PengsPhils Thank you. Yea I really don’t know if transferring will solve anything. I would want to transfer to Northeastern specifically (Boston College would be ideal, but they don’t take many transfers to my knowledge). I’m not sure if I would transfer anymore… I took a look at my college schedule, and it’s really only three more semesters physically at my current school (graduating early + semester abroad), so it’s not going to kill me to stay.
Quit your sorority, and maybe take a break and do some thinking. Explore more of your college, there are always people that you can relate with and hang out if you’re not in the ‘right’ group right now. If you really want to transfer and can’t stay at your college any longer, don’t worry about your grades. Your GPA is totally fine, as PengsPhils said. College GPA will always, or most often, be lower than your high school GPA. But before doing so, make sure you will really be happy with your next school. Are you just romanticizing other colleges because you’re not happy with your current school? Ask yourself if you’re just trying to convince yourself other places will be better, because that’s not how it always works out.
My perspective is that…if you think you’re too cool for the people around you, they’re probably cooler than you and just being kind to you.
News flash: YOU are not the center of the universe.
Deal with it. Then excel where you are.
Dang straight. You are not the center of the universe, so suck up your loneliness and discontent with your college experience and just accept unhappiness, dangit.
I actually do understand your situation though, sort of. I’m assuming that you’re like the photographer/artsy/hipster-ish/let’s do random cool fucking things kind of person? (as am I). And it’s tough finding people exactly like that (especially when I’m at a community college), and I know that smart kids are not necessarily cool. Man, I knew this one girl in high school that I really admire. She is incredibly smart (hence her going to Columbia now) and she is so hipster, different, and definitely not lame. But it’s hard to find people that are super cool/not nerdy and smart and doesn’t hardcore party every weekend. And I know I’m blabbering at this point but hope you find friends. 