<p>And thanks for proving my point ;)</p>
<p>Mister K: You don’t have to believe that the dog promise was made, but it was. Just because Snowdog has a different opinion than you doesn’t mean that he or she is someonelse in disguise. I’m over the dog issue. I just want him to pay his share on the student loans.</p>
<p>Kittycat40,</p>
<p>did it ever occur to you that your dad wanted to make sure that you know that it is your responsibility to repay the loan. While he is willing to help, his help will only come on the condition that you behave like a responsible adult, including getting a job, moving out and making payments on your loans.</p>
<p>I don’t believe that I am required to pay for college for my children, but I will (unless I absolutely cannot afford it). I promised to my son that we will cover his tuition, room and board and spending money (so that he can take unpaid research internships). However, in order for my son to get my help he absolutely has to follow my rules. For now, since he is only in HS, he needs to maintain mostly As in classes, participate a minimum in one school activity/club per semester (his choice this year was two per semester), and volunteer during summer. He will be required to apply for PSEO option in our flagship University and depending on his career choice I told him that he will probably need to apply to same University after graduating from HS. (In a sense he is responsible for ensuring that his first 2 years in college are paid through PSEO option).</p>
<p>I know it sounds really harsh, but in return he does get a lot. He is absolutely free to choose what he wants to do in his spare time, he is allowed to go to any parties/sleepovers he wants. He has a hobby sport that is somewhat a burden on me time-wise to support, but I do it. We finance pretty much anything he wants. He takes part in any school trip he wants. In anticipation of my son getting a driving license, we already bought him a pretty nice car. You get the picture. But as I said, he needs to work for what he gets and he knows that nothing in this life is free and we don’t have to do anything for him, other than to provide basic necessities. </p>
<p>As a side note, I am somewhat put off by your attitude. I might be wrong, but you sound like a perfect example of “me generation”.</p>