Even though your posts are not short, it is still hard to figure out what is really going on, whether there is a serious situation or just, as dusty pig said, a bumpy “finding oneself.” Only you and your daughter and those close to the situation, and privy to details, can decide if experiencing consequences or starting with a clean slate is the best course. Dustypig makes a lot of good points. Chances are this really will work out. And also remember that sometimes the kids who have the closest connection to their mom have to move the furthest away to separate- so some of her desired distance may actually be a compliment 