<p>I “know” becuase he told me. I dont think he has issues, I think he is tired of budinskys offering advice to his kid as to how get money from him etc.</p>
<p>He was OK (actually ecstatic) about kid getting into flagship U, he just didnt want people to think he WOULDNT pay more.</p>
<p>Some people brag about spending a dollar, others brag about saving a dollar. Its all personal perception.</p>
<p>“we planned for that” </p>
<p>It simply covers every base.</p>
<p>Congrats on the Wellesley acceptance! I guess “of course we can not afford it - would you care to contribute?” would be an ok answer. Our son got accepted to Tisch NYU with a ‘accept/deny’ scholarship - in other words it wasn’t really enough money, so debt loomed. Then he was accepted to NYU Abu Dhabi as well on a full scholarship. It is the great adventure for him, any questions of whether or not NY would be a better place for an aspiring actor could be answered with a “naaah - chances of being an out of work actor will be just as good if your college is fully paid for” - I now look at my son and think “wow, I gave birth to a quarter of million dollars” - the extra 20 lbs I gained and have not lost were worth it.</p>
<p>seems there are lots of ways to “handle” the question</p>
<p>first principle: the question itself is rude and invasive, so any answer that diverts the questioner from the rudeness is fine </p>
<p>second principle: if the person is asking out of curiousity about how college financing works and not out of excessive nosiness, it’d be useful to get into the “how does one finance a college education” as GaDad suggested early on in the thread</p>
<p>maybe we need a thread called “all purpose answers to invasive and/or rude personal questions”</p>
<p>P.S. I liked the “chances of being an out of work actor will be just as good if your college is fully paid for” quote above!!!</p>
<p>Dignified, I can relate. My sibling and I both went to flagship schools, neither of which was a good fit. I graduated a quickly as possible, and ended up working at 2 of my dream schools. I regretted not having attended W… as an UG. I had different roommates every year and no ties to this school.</p>
<p>i told my DS, “If you get in to a dream school, I’ll find a way”. It did work out; his summer jobs paid a lot, he was paid for his EC, he got some merit $, he got a great job as a research tech, and later, no rejections from grad schools. His journey is far from over, but I have never doubted my decision. He has close ties with friends that, hopefully, will last. His small school fostered relationships that my flagship school did not.</p>
<p>I’ll be working as long as I can to build a retirement fund. I am well aware that if I had enjoyed my UG years more, I would have had a differing opinion about DS attending our flagship U.</p>