<p>Hello. I am currently in my first year at community college. I just graduated from high school the past year and have never been more excited to continue school, that is, until I stepped foot into community college. Half the college is filled with adults and the other half just don't care about socializing with others. It's making my college experience horrible. What happened to the old cliche "You make life long friends in college"? Is it just because it's a community college? I'm just there for my AS, but man it's hell sometimes being there. I'm friendly and am in no way non-approachable, by the way. It's just not how I expected college.</p>
<p>Yes it is because you went to CC. Are there any other CC in your area? some are better than others. </p>
<p>Yes, but sadly they are either the same or the environment is not to my liking. I’m bummed. Welp, looks like i’ll be living through misery for the next three years.</p>
<p>Wrapping up my second (and final) year of CC, I can tell you that there are 0 people at my CC who I have continued to talk to once a course in which we were both enrolled ended. Really the only person I talk to is my best friend from high school who is attending the same school that I’m transferring to in the fall.</p>
<p>The community college environment is not conducive to making those life-long friends college students are promised. It should be different once you transfer.</p>
<p>Lame. How’s university? Do you have to dorm to make a bunch of friends?</p>
<p>It’s a cliche, but it isn’t necessarily true. Lifelong friendships are special and also rare, but they can be formed in many situations. I’m a parent, middle age. I don’t keep in contact with my college friends, but I do stay in touch with some of my friends from high school and after college. On the other hand, my elderly mother remained close friends with some of her college friends throughout their lives, but I don’t recall her mentioning her high school friends.
Living in a dorm, and the college environment, is very conducive to having friends at the time, but that doesn’t mean it lasts through the other life situations- families, jobs, parenthood. If you have a friendship that does- no matter where it started- treasure it.
Once past college- it gets harder. College is one of the few times where you are immersed in an environment where most everyone is the same age and similar situations. Working environments are more multi aged. If people have families, they don’t spend a lot of time outside socializing with co-workers. People tend to cultivate friends who share similar interests through hobbies, religious organizations, and other parents.
CC is more like the work environment, although some still have student clubs, sports and other activities. However, I think many people attend CC to reach a goal- job enhancement, college transfer, and with many of them being 2 year tracks, also see it as temporary.
I might take some effort to meet people- so look for clubs or groups to join that you might be interested in. Keep your eye on your goals, and stay in touch with that best high school friend. S(he) might just be that keeper that you’ll still be in touch with for many years. </p>
<p>I’ll probably have one life long friend coming from undergrad. Other than that, not really. We met in community college, but we bonded once we transferred universities. Even though I am friends with people from community college on facebook, we don’t talk anymore.</p>
<p>It took me forever to find real friends at community college! I have about 3 friends from community college that I am fairly confident will remain life-long friends. One I met in a club, and one just happened to be in two of my classes during my last semester (the third was the best friend of the second). People just really don’t care very much at community college. Joining a club can definitely help. I feel pretty social at my new school now that I’ve transferred, but I can’t tell if I’ll stay friends with these people for life, though I certainly hope to.</p>
<p>I went to a community college after high school, and I’m just finishing up my fourth, and last semester. I’ll be transferring in the fall to either Berkeley or UCLA (haven’t decided yet). But I just thought I’d share a little about my own CC experience… It’s been a positive one. Many of my friends from high school ended up going there as well, so there were plenty of familiar faces. I ended up making a few life-long friends who I was not close to at all before my time at college. In fact, I’m so close to one of them that we might end up dorming together in the fall! lol </p>
<p>Anyways, I think making good friends happens when you’ve had classes with the same people and consistently end up discussing, sharing ideas, etc. You eventually develop some type of bond, and it just grows from there. This will probably start happening when you take more of your major’s required classes. For example, because I’ve been majoring in English and having Political Science as my alternative choice, I’ve been taking all the required courses for those two majors, and in return I’ve ended up having classes with the same group of students who are majoring in those subjects. So you’ll most likely end up bonding with a few of them. Get it?</p>
<p>So don’t worry too much since it’s only your first year! I also met some cool people through clubs on campus, and ended up in a leadership position because I loved it so much. You could also try checking out what types of clubs, etc your school has to offer you!</p>
<p>Best of luck!! 
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<p>@euph0ric: Awesome explanation! I too am majoring in poli science and cannot wait to start my major classes.</p>
<p>I would say dorming, an element that often doesn’t go along with attending CCs is definitely helpful in the aspect of making long-term friendships, but I wouldn’t say it’s the end all be all. One of my closest friends from university, though we don’t talk overly often any more, I met in my freshman year in one of my major classes. We started just sitting next to each other everyday because we noticed we had shared interests and she was a commuter but sometimes she stayed on campus late so we could hang out since I dormed. Other friends I met through clubs, but personally for me my closest friends I met through my major classes because then we already knew we had one thing in common and attendance was required ;)</p>
<p>First of all this whole thing about “life long friends” is not the way it works with a lot of people. Some of us do make such friends, many of us never do. I’ve had wonderful friends who came in and out of my life at various times and were wonderful, true, besties at the time. We just moved onto to other things. So it can go with college or anything. I wouldn’t put too much stock in the cliche.</p>