What happens to de-pledges?

Colleges and Universities A-Z Cornell University
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<p>So after rush week was over I chose to join a fraternity. However, as the weeks have gone on, I don't know if it is working out for me. Im not a fan of getting drunk on weeknights (Sun-Wed) on a regular basis and I feel like I'm not gelling with the brothers in the house like I thought I would. I'm a pre-med student and have a pretty full load and research this semester, and I'm not sure I can juggle all of this. </p>

<p>There's other pre-med brothers in the house, but only one of them is doing fairly well, and it makes me nervous to be around a bunch of people who don't really seem to care about their grades (or maybe they can get all A's by drinking and smoking most days of the week, I don't think I could) I like most of the brothers and think theyre good guys, I just guess I thought the partying wouldn't be as prevalent as it is, maybe a bit of ignorance on my part.</p>

<p>So if I were to de-pledge, what would happen to me? I've heard you become exiled from the house, which would suck because one of my best friends from first semester and I pledged the same house, and I don't want to lose his friendship and that of the few brothers I've made connections with. </p>

<p>Any ideas/experience with this kind of situation?</p>

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<p>People will say that nothing will happen, but in reality, the brothers will not be happy at all, and you will not be exactly welcome. However, if you are with a more laid-back frat (like mine), they probably would not care nearly as much as long as it’s a reason like that.</p>

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<p>Then ask to drink water or root beer.</p>

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<p>Then depledge and immerse yourself in other student groups where you can meet other people who are more like you.</p>

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<p>Not sure where you’re pledging, but at my frat there’s drinking and smoking 8 days a week, but unless it’s Thursday, Friday, or Saturday, no ones really gonna care a whole lot if you don’t drink.</p>

<p>But then again, maybe it’s just because I’m in a more laid back one.</p>

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<p>you will be castrated and then quartered.</p>

<p>seriously though, frats are a joke. do what you gotta do.</p>

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<p>Which frat are you in ZFanatic?</p>

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<p>I, along with many others, don’t wish to reveal my fraternity ties in such a public forum…</p>

<p>But if you depledge, you will be banished from the house in all likelihood.</p>