<p>im having alot of problems where im at in life right now. in a nutshell im in a small town where i feel like no one understands me. i have basically no friends, and ive had alot of trouble with women. im really down about it. its to the point its causing depression and emotional/physical pain.
im 29 and currently living with my parents. i currently go to a university but i dont know anyone there and i drive an hour to it. it sucks. i had a part time job but i quit recently because i had trouble with other workers and i was so depressed i couldnt work. but getting out of there helped me alot.</p>
<p>so basically i have 2 choices.
1. i can stay in my crappy town with no friends, no gf, no life, depressed and down, living with my irritating parents, and drive 50 miles a day to my current school and save money.
or
2. i can move to a better college, get an apartment with my friends, have a better chance of meeting a decent girl, meet better people, meet people with common interests, have better opportunities. but it will cost me more money(student loan.).</p>
<p>im leaning toward no. 2 because i feel if i get out of here that alone will help me feel better. im normally not one to move off and borrow so much $$ just to change my social life. but i feel like its the best thing right now.
my parents dont support that idea, not that i care im a grown man, but they always have to criticize everything i do...another reason to get out.</p>
<p>but then again there are crappy people everywhere and women are going to reject...thats just life. it just seems worse here. i know there are better people out there. i just thought moving might help me.</p>
<p>anyway sorry for the novel. any advice for me?</p>
<p>Stay with no. 1; student loans need to be paid back after deferments are exhausted. There is a chance you will not find a job after graduation so the last thing you need on top of that is debt.</p>
<p>I’d recommend number 2, but only after you’ve researched it well.</p>
<p>Life is about taking risks. If your current situation is crappy, changing things up can lead to either a better or worse situation, with a better chance that it’d be better. If it’s worse, you either change again or have a way to go back to your current situation.</p>
<p>As for debt – if I’m at that point of life, I wouldn’t be worrying too much about that. Worse comes to worse, you get a job at McD’s and couch surf on your parents until you are able to get a real job.</p>
<p>It’s all about what’s most important to you. If you think it will help a LOT, then I think moving is something worth looking into. However, if it doesn’t help and you can’t work due to depression, then you’re going to have a lot of debt. It’s a risk, yes. Personally, I would go for it, but that’s just me. It’s just a matter of deciding whether the benefits outweigh the costs. Good luck!</p>
<p>I’m 23 and live in a crappy town too, so try this: hang around your friends while in town; if they will be in the same city, there is no reason not to spend the evening, then go back and sleep at the parental units’ house.</p>
<p>You are right about people; I do not particularly like them either unless I’m drunk.</p>
<p>That said, how is your diet? Next time you go to the doctor, ask him to check for any vitamin and mineral deficiencies. I used to have similar symptoms surrounding depression but 1500mg dose of magnesium cleared it up.</p>
<p>move out. get away from home. start your life. and you probably shouldn’t be asking a bunch of 18-23 year olds for advice, they aren’t exactly in the “real world” or anything. is there a reason for your situation?</p>
<p>Does moving to a better college mean losing credits? Because if that’s the case I wouldn’t do it. You are 29 years old. You should be over the college lifestyle by now and interested in getting it done and over with so you can get a career and be self-sufficient. You are going to have a tough time finding ladies your age that are interested in someone still living like an 18 year old.</p>
<p>Is there any particular reason you cant move out and continue going to your current school? I have friends that work full time and go to school full time, two part time jobs and full time school, part time school and full time work, etc and so forth, so any combination can be accomplished if you are motivated enough to do it.</p>
<p>I have a feeling this will get written off as ■■■■■■■■, but I figure I’ll say it and you can hopefully take something from it.</p>
<p>Grow up. Lots of people have problems with coworkers, they deal with them, and by 29 you should be able to figure that out. Lots of people commute to lots of different schools, if you don’t know anyone at your school go out and meet people.</p>
<p>Sorry, but your whole post screams “whiny 16 year old” at me, except you’re not 16, you’re 29. Stop whining about everything and start actually taking steps to get what you want.</p>
<p>Move to a college town or big city where there’s a good community college or a system of good and cheap municipal higher education, CUNY (City University of New York) being a good example.The big city plan might also be a better option if you will need a job immediately to support yourself.</p>
<p>If you will continue to feel depressed, I advise you to get psychological counseling and perhaps see a psychiatrist with a good reputation.</p>