<p>DadII: Hmm. Maybe my sarcasm didn’t quite make it into my posts. I at least try to coach my rebukes in polite, constructive language. </p>
<p>But if you did make an ‘I told you so’ thread if/when your daughter gets 8/8, rest assured that I and probably others who participated in your 400ish long thread will probably flame you to heck and back. No this is not a threat, <em>rolleyes</em>. But seriously, to continuously tell your daughter she’s inadequate and wasting her time on extracurriculars, to berate her when all her work is done and she’s spending time talking to her GC, to first say you’ll pay for college and then refuse to pay a cent for honors at State U, to say she’s completely botching her chances at college when all she’s doing is working on applications on her own timeframe, *to pull the plug on the computer moments before the deadline when she’s working on a scholarship application, and then saying you did that to teach her a lesson *, and THEN coming on to CC and smugly saying your methods are the best – Wow. I can’t imagine who can read all that and not blow a gasket. </p>
<p>Seriously?? So many have tried to help you and now you want to portray yourself in a good light? My genuine advice for what you should be doing now? Salvage what’s left of your relationship with your D and not repeat this experience with your S. If I were your D, and I’ve tried on multiple occasions to offer you advice because I did come from a similar background, I would go to college and not look back.</p>
<p>Columbia_Student: Hmm. Interesting point there, and maybe that’s true. But behind her strong campaigning face, I’ll bet there’s some (tiny or big) well of frustrated feelings, and dark doubts about self. Emotional trauma happens to those who are told day after day that they are not adequate. Success in this world VS emotional health? I would take emotional health, myself. =)</p>