<p>Since I am just mindlessly watching American Idol right now, I searched Dad II’s posts. In the vernacular of the kids … my bad. He did NOT say she had a 31. I was wrong (I can admit it). Sorry, Dad II.</p>
<p>I swore I wouldn’t bite, and I did. Once bitten, twice shy. This will be it!!</p>
<p>By the way, if you would actually be embarrassed to have a child who scores a 31 on her ACT … I would NOT want to be your child (and I did score considerably higher on my own ACT many moons ago … but my parents did not brag, nor would they have been ashamed had it been lower).</p>
<p>Does anyone out there wonder whatever happened to ParentofIvyHope? He hasn’t posted since last summer…</p>
<p>DadII - I hope you’re aware of the irony of your situation; I seem to recall that the Toyota scholarship has much to do with community service - ummm, things like helping the GC with the fair or whatever was going on the night your daughter defied you by not working on the scholarship application. i hope you’ll give her the credit she deserves for making good decisions.</p>
<p>If I knew your address, I’d send you my favorite bumper sticker: </p>
<p>You mentioned on a thread that your daughter is counting the days until she leaves. I wonder why? You are hurting your daugher Dad II. I’m no psychologist, but women who grow up with a dad who always criticizes them may have trouble with romantic relationships-- they either put up with too much garbage from a partner who constantly criticizes them or they can’t commit. I realize it doesn’t always happen but when people tell you to be NICE to your children, it is not because your tactics may not get them that extra point or another extra $1,000. It’s because the extra point and the extra $1,000 are not worth the damage to your children-- or even to you when you open your eyes and regret it. I know you love your children. Step back. They are doing fine. Remember she is your <em>daughter</em> and part of your job is to help her realize how precious she is so she has good self-esteem and finds a suitable mate. Life isn’t all about money, degrees, tests scores… what is most important is relationships. Your relationship with your children is much more than about the two of you. It helps form them and they will take that into their future romantic relationships and their relationships with any future children. Get some counseling.</p>
<p>Dad II needs to learn a bit of tact, but his claim that a 31 is embarrassing likely comes from the fact that it is a low score for an unhooked Asian applicant to HYPMSC type schools, which seems to be what he wants for his daughter.</p>
<p>“Dad II needs to learn a bit of tact, but his claim that a 31 is embarrassing likely comes from the fact that it is a low score for an unhooked Asian applicant to HYPMSC type schools, which seems to be what he wants for his daughter.”</p>
<p>It may indeed be a low score (is it really a low score? or just not the tippy-top highest score?) for an unhooked Asian applicant to HYPMSC type schools, but it is not “embarrassing.” Unless, of course, the definition of “embarrassing” is “a kid who doesn’t get into HYPMSC type schools.”</p>
<p>"I hope I will have the facts to start a thread “I told you all so” comes April 1st when DD gets 8/8. "</p>
<p>Why? If your daughter does indeed go 8/8, it would be HER accomplishment, not yours. Unless you’re saying that it would be your accomplishment because you created / made this high-achieving child?</p>
<p>Does your daughter really get passionate about academics, or does she study dutifully because she’s been told that’s the right way to be and the only way to get ahead?</p>