What to do if Deferred: NEW POLL ADDED!

<p>i think you guys need to chill with the whole perspective on life stuff</p>

<p>if you spent your high school life trying to get into harvard and failed youd feel pretty bad too
you really have no idea what theyre goign through, they worked really hard for something, and now theyve been told theyre not good enough?
you cant just tell them to move on college is a big part of their life and wow you are really making me angry belittling their grief
and you wont like hulk when hes angry!
im a junior, and i know if i get rejected or even deferred from harvard words wont be able to express my sorrow/righteous anger oh yes my anger will most definetly be righteous cause even though im lazy i d a m n well deserve to get it
see im already mad and i havent even applied yet, and no one who knows me could say im obsessed with getting in</p>

<p>anyway to sum it all up... youre all just a big fat stupidheads!</p>

<p>What about people who have always tried really hard to get perfect high school GPA's, perfect SAT scores, and perfect miscellaneous SAT II scores but fall significantly short? These people have no shot at a school like Harvard at all. I know this sounds horrible, but can't you see that being deferred from a school like Harvard is way better than never having a shot at all? I understand that you guys are upset, but a) being deferred doesn't mean you are rejected, b) Harvard isn't the best school for every single academic discipline, and c) you sound like you have to go to Harvard to prove that you are more successful than everyone else. It's disgusting how so many people try to conform to this unrealistic image of perfection drawn up by society. It makes me want to vomit...LITERALLY. Would it kill you guys to relax a little? Honestly?</p>

<p>Harvard Harvard Harvard Harvard
you know i never used to think about whether i was good enough for Harvard, i just kind of assumed i was... but after i found this site i felt the need to post my academic achievements for you guys to gauge my potantial chances? and i was hanging on every word... screw that.
this site is kind of addicting because it attempts to rationalize and almost irrational process that dominates our lives until we actually go to college.
do the best you can without this site, just take life as it comes, if you get rejected from Harvard, well then you just werent good enough to make the cut and theres nothing you can do about it NOW.
im going to take my advice and give up this entire site. its not worth it, ill get in, i dont need to keep posting here or constant reassurances. ill let you guys know Dec 10th next year when harvard takes me early action.</p>

<p>weel, Charman, being deferred is NOT better than being rejected.
Its just part of the political process. Thats whats wrong with the whole damned education system: its designed to make failures seem ok.
Someone from my school who has NO CHANCE at all got deferred. He wrote "You know, at least the best school in the nation doesn't think i suck"</p>

<p>Do you know whats going to happen to him when he gets that rejection letter? </p>

<p>Life a'int fair. Deal.</p>

<p>I never said being deferred was better than being rejected. I said being deferred is better than never having a chance. Meaning the people who don't apply because they know that Harvard's standards are extremely high. Those necessarily aren't the same people who get rejected, because most of the kids I am talking about wouldn't even think about applying to Harvard.</p>

<p>On another note, not getting accepted into Harvard is hardly a failure. Only about 10% of the yearly applicants actually get accepted. Only an extremist would consider that a failure. It isn't Harvard or bust. There are plenty of other good schools.</p>

<p>I was thinking about sending something in, but decided against it because I really don't think it will make enough of a difference. They'll get my mid-year report, see that my grades went up, I made valedictorian, and I think that will do more than any essay I throw together in an hour will. My other essays were solid, so I'm not going to stress out. I've been racking up scholarships at my safety school (Marquette :) ), and I have a good chance at their honors program, so if Harvard is unwilling to make a simple yes/no decision, it's their loss. </p>

<p>Look at it this way: you can still get accepted as a transfer student, and there is always grad school.</p>

<p>"I know this sounds horrible, but can't you see that being deferred from a school like Harvard is way better than never having a shot at all?"
Charman, this may also sound horrible, but different people have different talents and thus, different potential academically. Someone may know they have no chance at Harvard and be completely fine with that, but a person who has put a big part of themselves into trying to achieve their own individual "fullest potential" is going to be devastated when that waitlist/rejection comes from Harvard.</p>

<p>A rejection is not a failure, unless you think it's one.
Hmm...almost like saying, A failure is not a failure, unless you think it's one.
Anyways, it might seem like I'm just playing with words, but it's true!
Think of all the people who have succeeded w/o going to "a school like Harvard"!</p>

<p>Hmm i'm gonna apply, probably, this year. If i get deffer/rejected, i'll just move on. </p>

<p>ps: most succesful people in this world aren't harvard grads</p>

<p>pss: to ppl who "gauge" their academic efforts by harvard. I hope you realize a bunch of harvard ppl don't work hard academically at all.</p>

<p>For example, some kid at my school got accepted into Princeton (but he rejected them), even after bombing his SAT's and doing poorly in IB (dropping out). all cause he's the football team's captain, and runs 400m's or whatnot on a national level.</p>

<p>jeez you sound bitter already</p>

<p>^^ </p>

<p>well see, I've only decided to go to an american uni THIS YEAR. and i'm going into senior year next year. therefore, my point is, with my current EC's and grades, i can get into basically any Uni in my country with ALL top academic scholarships that will more or less cover my tuition in its entirety. No need to spend 50 000 USD a year.</p>

<p>besides, where you go for uni isn't the end of the world. Its what you do AFTER uni that is. A harvard education sure as dirt can't guarantee you a million dollar salary</p>

<p>^ more bitterness, and im not quite sure i got your point</p>

<p>^</p>

<p>Do i really need to re-explain?? or are you just being sarcastic</p>

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<p>i think you guys need to chill with the whole perspective on life stuff</p>

<p>if you spent your high school life trying to get into harvard and failed youd feel pretty bad too
you really have no idea what theyre goign through, they worked really hard for something, and now theyve been told theyre not good enough?
you cant just tell them to move on college is a big part of their life and wow you are really making me angry belittling their grief
and you wont like hulk when hes angry!
im a junior, and i know if i get rejected or even deferred from harvard words wont be able to express my sorrow/righteous anger oh yes my anger will most definetly be righteous cause even though im lazy i d a m n well deserve to get it
see im already mad and i havent even applied yet, and no one who knows me could say im obsessed with getting in</p>

<p>anyway to sum it all up... youre all just a big fat stupidheads!</p>

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<p>Hypocrisy to the greatest level</p>

<p>alright, whatever, lets stop this.</p>

<p>"youre all just a big fat stupidheads!"</p>

<p>yeah... but at least with passed the English section on the SAT ;)</p>

<p>i got an 800 on writing, i was being sarcastic jackass, talking like a 3 year old.</p>

<p>and ill be kind enough not to point out your own english errors, oh wait, i just did</p>

<p>spyder, stop trying to start a flame war. </p>

<p>what an arrogant kid.</p>

<p>oh and spyder, i've been reading some of your old threads, and i only have one comment.</p>

<p>I'll roll on the floor laughing my ass off if you get rejected by harvard. I seriously will. I'll also probably send you a webcam recording of me doing it.</p>

<p>Go ahead, flame me, i could care less. I'm perfectly happy with my self-esteem.</p>

<p>ps: look on the bright side if you get rejected. your name will live on on CC as the epitome of what insincerity and arrogance can result in a college app.</p>