<p>i recently lost an election of a club about which i was really really passionate to some eloquent speech-and-debate folk :(</p>
<p>im so sad because next year is my senior year and i've worked so hard all four years...the first one in my school ever to become involved in our DIVISION and DISTRICT...</p>
<p>im so sad. i've been crying for a couple of hours now.</p>
<p>what should i do to make myself feel better and become more happy? have you been in a situation where you felt like you may be a better candidate than someone? im not trying to think i'm all that or anything but....yeah...how should i think of this as a benefit/advantage rather than a failure or a setback?</p>
<p>I usually listen to some depressing music for a little while and eat my feelings. Then I tell myself to get over it and listen to something happy, watch something happy on tv, go out with friends, or go running. I realize that it’s currently 11 PM so all of these options aren’t currently available. I would recommend starting by eating your feelings + music (for these occasions I recommend Bon Iver, Birdy, and Ron Pope) and progressing to calling a friend if any are up or watching either really bad reality tv so you’ll feel good about yourself (think the biggest loser) or one of those happy inspiring shows like extreme home makeover and whatnot. </p>
<p>I always feel my emotions more at night. Like, if I’m happy I’m really happy but if I’m sad I get really depressed. For some reason the morning is always better. It’s like a clean slate all over. </p>
<p>Eating is so great. If only I could eat forever without getting fat.</p>
<p>i recently read this quote about how this person deals with sadness. and saved it. 'cause i liked it a lot.</p>
<p>When something terrible happens, I do not flee my sadness by searching for fake consolations and false silver linings. I visualize the past and future of humankind, the tens of billions of deaths over our history, the misery and fear, the search for answers, the trembling hands reaching upward out of so much blood, what we could become someday when we make the stars our cities, all that darkness and all that light - I know that I can never truly understand it, and I haven’t the words to say.</p>
<p>@ alwaysleah - that so true for me too. when i used to be conflicted a lot, I would wake up the next morning not even understanding my tormenting thoughts of the previous night.</p>
<p>@enfieldacademy it’s great except for those rare mornings when I wake up and feel like a train ran over me. Those days call for a mental health day, sneaking out to buy ice cream while my mom is dropping my siblings at school, and lots of reality TV. This has actually happened many times. But usually I feel better. </p>
<p>@jesskidding you’re involved at the district level! That’s better than some stupid school title. This will feel so insignificant later on. </p>
<p>You’re right alwaysleah. Why would I care about the stupid school title? It’s cause I genuinely care about our club! But too bad they don’t see that.</p>
<p>don’t eat your feelings away unless they’re 6 small meals spread out in every couple of hours with small servings of fruit, lean meat, and vegetables.</p>
<p>go for a run. hang out with friends. write/type all your emotions out. take a nap. make a voodoo doll of whoever won and hope that they break their femur. go swimming? haha idk, the last time i was sad, i just cried, fell asleep, and woke up. life is too short! ;p</p>
<p>since you lost, but you still love the club, you can just continue to put in your efforts maybe this is an experience you can write about in your college applications hahaha</p>
<p>I try to blow up the situation into something so exaggerated and dramatic that I eventually have to laugh at myself for being so ridiculous.</p>
<p>I also listen to music. Depending on the circumstances, I’ll listen to the most depressing songs I know of or I’ll listen to my happy, positive playlist (yes, I really do have a playlist named “Happy/Positive Music” … I even put it on YouTube so I almost always have access to it, haha). </p>
<p>Sometimes I’ll hunt down my cat and play with him. He’s a ragdoll, and if you do a quick search on them, you’ll see that they’re extremely fluffy, uncoordinated, and not exactly skinny, so it’s impossible for me to be upset when he’s near, haha.</p>
<p>Other things:</p>
<p>*Creative outlet of some sort
*List of gratitude (balance out the bad with the good)
*Rant to someone who’s willing to listen
*Rant to blogspot
*Watch funny movies
*Sulk until the feeling passes (because it always does)
*Complete/start a goal
*Watch videos by my favorite YouTube celebrities</p>
<p>Do you need the title you lost to get what you want out of the club? It’s easier and more helpful, sometimes, to let idiots give themselves chests of medals, while you stand in the background and act as the real leader. Kind of feels a bit thankless, but the people who care about the club will see what you’re doing, and—if you’re doing it well—they’ll appreciate you for it.</p>
I want to cry like a baby. Thanks for the suggestions.</p>
unless they’re 6 small meals spread out in every couple of hours with small servings of fruit, lean meat, and vegetables.</p>
maybe this is an experience you can write about in your college applications hahaha</p>