<p>today i asked my counselor if he could do the school report and he made me leave as if i was an intruder. i asked him to gimme a transcript and he wouldn't even do that. i'm pretty sure i would get a report from him sooner or later...but i'm also pretty sure he would recommend me 'with reservation'. what should i do? ask another counselor who does not know me as long as he does? send in a letter and explain?????</p>
<p>i can't tell if you're exaggerating or not (it doesn't matter thats up to you to judge) but if you believe he will treat you poorly in the admissions process, by all means get someone else. Can you think of things that would have made him dislike you (be honest with yourself, none of us is perfect) and if so, to the extent of him wanting to ruin/damage one of the more important steps/periods of your life?</p>
<p>once i missed an appointment with him, and he got really angry. He put all the students he wanted to meet in the bulletin, and my student number showed up but my name did NOT. I didn't know when i went to the make-up appointment, so i didn't tell him then...i noticed that on the bulletin after the appointment. </p>
<p>he might think that i'm a nerd. or maybe something worse...once he called me in the hallways and said in a very odd way "i finally know who you are." in front of ALOT of people. </p>
<p>he also knows the school report is for cornell...and he was rejected from cornell psych a long long time ago.</p>
<p>i am not a pretty girl, and he hardly knows me because of that. yikes, i just found out the other GC i was referring to previously does not have the title of a counselor although she does counsel.</p>
<p>how much does the school report count? quite a lot i guess...</p>
<p>umm, just be friendly to him? talk to him about how you feel, it can't make things worse. the worst case scenario is it things remain the same and you understand each other better. The best case scenario is you'll realize you are both confused about your impressions of each other and how each of you feels AND percieves the other, and you'll end up with him and you being cool and you getting a good recommendation from him.</p>
<p>welll....i hope that works. thanks for the advice! i thought a lot of people would have this problem tho~</p>
<p>no, most counselors don't hate their charges...perhaps you're exaggerating the situation.</p>
<p>if i could get my hand on the school report i'd love to share it with you~</p>
<p>u know wut my counselor said?? he said he is busy even though I said to him that is exactly why I gave out forms this early...and he kinda of refused to discuss any further. But he mentioned another counselor (who does not even know me) knew more about applying U.S school...(actually ppl who got into HYPS in my school had the counselor he recommended last yr)</p>
<p>May I turn into the new counselor who did not know me and ask him to fill out forms??? I am realli embarassed.......I will try again maybe next week...since I am applying ED =.=</p>
<p>u know what mine said? first he wouldn't let me in....he thought i was here to get my schedule, and he was like "what are you doing here? it's not 12:30 yet. If you want to get your schedule it's twelve~thir~ty" (first words, not a 'hi', and exaggerated 12:30 as if I was a moron.) </p>
<p>you should feel a lot better~</p>
<p>why didn't you explain yourself to him bneg? i think theres a lack of communication between you two. you think he doesn't want to help you because you think you're nerdy, and not pretty, and because you think it's weird that he said hi to you in the hall or something. have you takled to him yet? you did say FIRST he would not let me in, so what happened later?</p>
<p>no...he didn't even say hi. i'm a 'bad' communicator naturally...and if someone goes straight ahead and says 'what are you doing here, you're not supposed to be here, blah blah' it makes it real hard to even *start communicating with him~</p>
<p>oh...later i said, no i'm not for the schedule...he let me in, found out it was for university and then i was out. </p>
<p>hey! i don't think i'm a nerd and tho i don't think i'm pretty i don't think i'm ugly....hahahah....just kidding~ (i'm a guy by the way)</p>
<p>"i am not a pretty girl, and he hardly knows me because of that. "
u just said u were a girl. -_-?</p>
<p>guys can't be pretty girls...this is not an exaggeration. if you were a pretty girl he would talk to you during lunch breaks</p>
<p>just go talk to him, and tell him how you feel...the worst that can happen is things will stay the same...</p>
<p>yes....thank you~</p>
<p>Guidance Counselors are extremely busy people around this time of the year. If I were you, I would buy him something nice, such as a Starbucks/Mall gift card, so as to let him know that you truly appreciate everything how busy he is right now. Trust me, it will work wonders. If money is an issue, than simply make him a colorful and creative "Thank You" card.</p>
<p>don't think that works well...if they are busy they kinda of don't want any interruption (well..except the forms they have to do) ....</p>
<p>Giving something nice or a gift will give counselor an impression of purpose oriented bribe......</p>
<p>yeah don't give him a gift that's just weird...give a gift at the end of the year or after all of your envelopes are sent out.</p>
<p>I agree cfso1952...definitely looks very bribe-y.</p>
<p>Um yea gift=bad. Gifts should be way after, like april or past haha. No bribing, which is essentially what you'd be doing ;)</p>
<p>Fortunately, I realized that I needed my guidance counselor's help for my college recs junior year so back then I visited his office during my lunch hours, dropped by to say hi, small talk with him, etc. That way, he'll get to know my name and what kind of person I am amongst like 800 other students in my graduating class.</p>
<p>IMO, gifts should not be given before the rec is written. If you want your counselor to acknowledge you, then stop by his/her office and just say hello and introduce yourself. If you can't find a conversation topic, then look around the room (usually they are decorated with the counselor's belongings) and pick something off that you can start a conversation about. Like if you see some sports team memorbillia, say you haven't been keeping up with (Team Name) recently because you were swamped with schoolwork and ask how the team is doing. Just make sure it's the right season, LOL. :D A friendly chat won't hurt and a smile and a hello is always a plus.</p>
<p>"i am not a pretty girl, and he hardly knows me because of that."
Also, I don't think beauty has anything to do with the college rec... The college application process is not a beauty contest.</p>