<p>Ok, so I'm in a major predicament here.
So I've been invited to a party (it's on Saturday.) I've never been to a party before, and just the thought of going is so nauseating. But here's the thing:
There's this new girl at school, and she has no friends. She's really nice and everything, but I just can't think of anything to talk about with her (or anyone else.) She's going to the party, and really wants me to go. I don't want to go. At all. Her mom offered to pick me up/drop me off...but I just can't let her see my horrible looking house..it's embarrassing. Today, I was going to tell her that I don't like parties and I probably won't go..but I stiffed up and walked away to stall. My friend Jamie ended up telling her while I was gone...and when I got back she said "I already told her." I just stared at her for a minute, and then turned my head towards Ashley, and then back at Jamie..saying nothing..just staring at them. I finally said "...You did..?"
Then, Ashley looked up and said
"Do you not like people or something?"
and I said "I like people...I just don't have very good people-skills."
And then she said "I wish you would go...because then it wouldn't be so awkward for me and I'd have someone to talk to." Then she told me about how she thinks that I should go, what's the worst that could happen, blah blah blah....and right before the bell rang, she said "Do you have a cell-phone?" and I said "No..well yeah, but I don't use it." And she said "well here, I'll give you mine in-case you change your mind." ...she wrote it down and said "so yeah..if you change your mind, just give me a call."
I told her that I would. </p>
<p>..I really...REALLY don't want to go to the stupid party. I have really bad social anxiety...I don't like eating in front of people or dancing...it'll be horrible...but I feel bad now and I just can't leave her hanging...but I also don't want her to see my stupid ugly house...</p>
<p>What should I do? I have until tomorrow to decide...damn..</p>
<p>Thanks everyone.</p>
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<li>Brooke</li>
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<p>PS: The names are changed to protect their identity. :)</p>
<p>50 years from now, you wouldn’t even remember if there was a party.</p>
<p>Do whatever you feel comfortable with. If I were in your place, and believe me, I expend energy at parties, I would go just to keep my friends in good humor :p</p>
<p>Go to the party. If a girl WANTS YOU to go and you like her, then definitely go. You have nothing to lose. If you don’t go, then you have no chance of gaining anything at all and she may not ask you to go to a party again. If you do go, you have the chance of breaking out of your shell and making some really good friendships.</p>
<p>And don’t worry about her seeing your house. If she makes fun of your house, then she is not worth it.</p>
<p>House is a trivial worry I think you should get rid of. </p>
<p>And as for the party, lots of people are stiff when it comes to dancing and loud music and whatever… but you can’t avoid these things forever. Cmon, prom, homecoming, etc! Learning to dance a little and not worrry about looking stupid is a really useful trait that you can work on. Not saying it’s easy. but I think you should go.</p>
<p>How about this: meet up at your friend Jamie’s. Get ready together. Give it a chance and if it stinks, have an exit plan, call your mom or a cab or whatever. This way you aren’t leaving your new friend alone at a party, you have made an appearance and you have avoided the ugly house issue. Since Jamie is your friend, she probably understands your social issues already and it’s just not a big deal. And Ashley, she is new, right? Find out more about where she’s from. Ask her if parties in her old town/school were like the one you are at. Find out her hobbies. Complain about your parents together. Talk to someone new together. Talk about classes, sports, favorite products, new movies, old movies, books, whatever. Good luck and I hope this helps.</p>
<p>No, parties are a horrible experience. You’re going to meet very rude people, and they’ll probably make fun of you. Since you don’t seem like a very out-going person either, you won’t have a good time since you won’t be interacting with most of the people, and you’ll be sticking to your one friend which will make it a very difficult time since everyone’s having fun and socializing and you’re sitting there with your friend trying to pass the time. You might get laughed at. You might be pranked, if you’re a well-known nerd. You might cry because you have no friends there. But…</p>
<p>You’re going to regret it if you don’t go. And trust me, regret is worse than any feeling you can imagine.</p>
<p>Wowx1000000!!! I had a great time!!! At first, I was shy and didn’t dance or anything…but then something happened to me…I don’t know what… but I danced crazier than anyone there!! I was the star of the show! and I grew closer to Ashley (made some other friends as well :D). It was AWESOME! It was the first time where I didn’t care what anybody thought…I wasn’t thinking about Princeton or GPA or PSAT or SAT or Ivies or anything!!! I was just having soooo much fun I could hardly contain myself!!!</p>
and I grew closer to Ashley (made some other friends as well :D). It was AWESOME! It was the first time where I didn’t care what anybody thought…I wasn’t thinking about Princeton or GPA or PSAT or SAT or Ivies or anything!!! I was just having soooo much fun I could hardly contain myself!!!</p>
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