<p>1 in 4 girls will be raped in college. Most guys will judge you on your looks. Always take drunk compliments at face value. There will be guys who won’t give you the time of day if you don’t put out. Learn to ignore these people. Don’t worry about the rape thing, “regret rapes” probably account for most of those reported rapes. There will always be nice people, but you have to find them.</p>
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<p>So true. </p>
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<p>I’m up north, so I’m jealous. Guys (and girls) slam the door in your face deliberately. It’s not a northern thing, though, just an ill-mannered thing.</p>
<p>^^^That’s me (at my church) [edit: holding the door for everyone] and everyone over 20 seems to appreciate it, but pretty much anyone younger than that thinks I’m wasting my time.</p>
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<p>That’s me, and I don’t have any solid friends yet.</p>
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<p>Because if they drink, party or smoke, they are certainly incapable of being a good guy.</p>
<p>@Hauteclere</p>
<p>You’re doing it wrong.</p>
<p>Doing it wrong? It’s a bit hard when you go to a college called ZooMass (or Slamherst) AND live in a dorm notorious for party-loving animals.</p>
<p>If you’re opening your genitals at all… you’re doing something wrong. Go play in a sandbox or something.</p>
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<p>…Since when were you under the impression I was?</p>
<p>Aww I wish I had some southern hospitality,I live in California its everyone for themselves…good thing I don’t live in LA or southern california but I was thinking of going to college there…berkeley is soo close and I visited the campus I felt out of place ppl were just staring at me like ‘what is she doing here’</p>
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<p>I’m from southern California (Orange County), though I currently attend UC Davis…and southern California is NOT as bad as people here make it seem.</p>
<p>And no, girls do not become more slutty upon entering college. I’m a college junior and I still haven’t had sex OR a boyfriend. </p>
<p>Rooming is different depending on college. At UC Davis, there are 3 residence areas, and within those residence areas, there are different buildings. I’m in the Cuarto residence area, which is a bit further away from the main campus than the Segundo and Tercero residence areas. In Cuarto, there are 3 dorm buildings: Emerson, Webster, and Thoreau. There’s also Castilian, but that closed off in spring 2011. I’m in Webster, which is like the transfer student dorms this year. In Cuarto, the dorms are in a suite configuration (it can range from a 4 persons suite to a 9 persons suite. Thoreau is the only one with the 9-persons suite), so rather than a community bathroom, each suite has their own semi-private bathroom. A suite with 4 people has one bathroom. Suites with 6 people have 2 bathrooms. Don’t know about 9 person suites. The floors are co-ed (meaning your next door neighbors can either be guys or girls), but your roommates/suitemates are the same gender as you. Speaking of roommates, you will either have horrible roommates or the best roommates ever. I was lucky enough to end up with such great roommates. </p>
<p>Segundo and Tercero have community bathrooms, and they also have themed floors, I think. Not sure, since I’ve never lived in those dorms. All the rooms in Lysle Leach Hall in Tercero are singles from what I’ve read on the UCD housing website.</p>
<p>Honestly, I don’t know any colleges out there that aren’t co-ed.</p>
<p>@Klinks05 </p>
<p>1 in 4 sounds like a lot but I also heard most weren’t raped by a total stranger but actually some guy they knew</p>
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<p>Its bad in the city(those are the only places I’ve been too) I went to LA for a couple of days and the people weren’t friendly at all…I actually missed the bay…also I saw way less diversity in LA (I went to disneyland and universal studio and around hollywood,I saw expensive stores and tour buses filled with snobs) I don’t know if I can handle southern cali maybe I should stay in the bay I think its safer.</p>
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<p>LA is nothing like the rest of southern California, though. I’m from Irvine, and I’ve always felt safe there–I could walk around midnight and not worry about getting shot (though in LA, that’s entirely different >.>). What do you mean by “safer”? There’s also a lot of diversity where I came from. The colleges are also filled with diversity, even if the area around them aren’t. BTW, Disneyland isn’t in LA, it’s in Orange County. Not everyone in SoCal are snobs either. </p>
<p>But southern California culture seems to be different from northern California culture, and vice versa. I think there’s also the notion that some southern Californians think they’re better than northern Californians, and some northern Californians think they’re better than southern Californians. I’m still trying to get used to northern California (which is where UC Davis is) since it’s a bit different from what I’m used to. My cousins have lived in northern California their whole lives, so they’re used to it, but I’m not.</p>
<p>I guess I felt safer caz its my home town…but I felt very uncomfortable in orange country b\c a lot of ppl of a certain race gave me dirty looks…and there was a pool at the hotel residential Inn and they didn’t go in the swimming pool when me &my friends we’re in it they left and waited until we got out.I saw them go back in as we were leaving…but that was mostly the girls later we went to a hot tub and there we’re guys already in it my friends didn’t want to go but I didn’t care…they didn’t leave at once like the ppl at the swimming pool…I thought southern cali would be alsome but I thought wrong</p>
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<p>Well, considering hotels usually consist of tourists, I wouldn’t say those people you briefly met at the hotel residential inn were southern californians. At hotels, you can never tell if they’re from out of state, northern Californians, or southern Californians. </p>
<p>Sorry you’ve had such a bad experience with Southern California, though. 
Just know that despite who you met during your visit to SoCal, we’re not all like those snobs or jerks.</p>
<p>I hope not b\c I wana visit a college campus b4 I write it off as all bad</p>
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<p>The conservative-to-slut transition sometimes happens, but it’s not something that just happens to you. You have to decide that you want to be slutty and get the guys or whatnot. If your main focus isn’t to have guys staring at your body or to get laid, then you’ll be fine. </p>
<p>My hall is coed (though there is an all-girls hall, and even a gender-neutral hall available), and it’s pretty relaxed. The hall is made up of five suites of about five rooms each, and each suite is single-sex with two bathrooms per suite. In general, people will use the bathrooms in their suite, but all of the bathrooms are gender-neutral, so you can use whichever ones you like. (Two guys in my hall took a tour of all the showers, including the ones in the girls’ suites) </p>
<p>I know your worries with rape and drugging and stuff, but the problem won’t happen in your hall. In general, the halls are small (mine is only 50 people, the largest is 118), so if something happens, everyone knows. Your problem would be walking around outside at night if you’re alone. In that case, it’s nice to know people who are willing to walk with you. I have a hallmate who has the same night class as me, so he walks back with me. If I have events to go to at night, I’ll either find someone in my hall to go with, or walk back with someone who lives in a nearby hall. </p>
<p>Don’t worry about living in a hall with guys. I honestly love living in a coed environment because all-girls would be super drama-ridden. And, really, the guys in the hall are more like brothers to me than anything else. There are a few who we don’t see very often (frats and whatnot), but those who are around, I can trust. Everyone’s just looking out for each other, and really, don’t worry about it.</p>