What's college life like for a girl at a co-ed university

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<p>I'm planning to go to one,I couldn't live at an all girls too much drama..I was wondering if guys and girls share bathrooms or rooms and stuff.I know they have different floors or different buildings.is it safe though because I hear about rape stories and rape drugging.Also do girls really become more slutty at college if they were a virgin before? A friend joking said that would happen to me!...I'm class of '13 for high school though so I have 2 yrs b4 I start.</p>

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<p>No, you don’t share bathrooms usually. Most likely, you’ll have your floor’s community bathroom that’s all girls. Some colleges do actually have gender-neutral bathrooms, in which guys and girls share a large common bathroom, but that’s not the majority of colleges that do that. </p>

<p>The building/floor guys/girls thing varies by school. Some are still separated by building, but very few…seems to be only the extremely religious colleges and universities. Most seem to be separated by floor. That’s what mine is. There are some that aren’t even separated by floor for freshmen, and I’ve heard of a few that allow guys and girls in the same room if they want to. That’s not the case most of the time…plan on it being separated by floor, with your community bathroom. The separation by floor can vary too. Mine goes every other floor is guys, every other girls…in this dorm, odd number floors are girls and even numbers are guys floors (except for floor 1, entry floor, that’s it). The freshmen dorm next to us is different though…there’s a few girls floors in a row, then guys all after that. </p>

<p>Some colleges do have private bathrooms in your room/suite even for freshmen, but it’s not common. </p>

<p>After the first year, it varies a lot…you could have a regular dorm room, could have a suite, could live off campus, apartment, sorority house, etc. many possibilities…may still have community bathrooms, maybe have a bathroom for your suite or shared by 2 suites, etc. lots of options. I’m a freshman, and dorms are separated by floor (and there are freshmen-only dorms here, as there seem to be at most universities) this year and then every year after this, it’s not separated by floor.</p>

<p>If they’re separated by floor (likely) or building (which is more rare), then there are usually what’s called visiting hours, in which guys and girls can be on each other’s floors, rooms, floor lounges, etc. and the times and extent of the rules can vary a lot. For example, in my dorm, visiting hours end at 1 am on weeknights and there are no visiting restrictions on weekends (guys can be over here any time of the day they want on weekends). You’ll also have quiet hours, but those are not always obeyed very well…</p>

<p>You might hear some bad stories…it’s a question you can ask students when you walk around college campuses that you’re considering or can research it online about the college maybe.</p>

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<p>Most girls aren’t going to go from prude to slutty overnight. I know this sounds like a cliche, but it really depends on where you go to college as to what the boy/girl situation is going to be like. </p>

<p>If you go to a conservative/religious school, things are likely to be more restrained. At a big, well known party school, it would likely be the opposite. If you want to live with guys, you can make that a priority when you’re looking at schools.</p>

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<p>O good to the people with paragraph answers…I’m so excited to go that is if I can get my grades up I’m so close to a 3.00 if I didn’t slip up id be there.</p>

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It’s different at each school, but at my university, we neither share rooms or bathrooms.</p>

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Not true necessarily. I definitely live in the same building and hallway as other guys. My building is like an L. I’m on the little part of the L. There are four rooms on one side and two on the other. I am the only girl’s room on that part of the hallway. The rest are guys. On the longer part of the hallway, it’s mostly girls, but there are two more guy’s rooms.</p>

<p>On the other hand, I have a friend who goes to Furman and theirs is completely separated by hallway. It depends on the university and housing.</p>

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It depends on the college. My best advice is to find a couple of guy friends who you genuinely trust to take care of you and never go out alone. Always have at least one or two friends with you (though four people is the magical number for situations like these. If one person is hurt, someone can stay with them, and then two can go off together to get help, so no one is alone.) But for me, I try not to walk alone after dark, but I usually don’t have problems. If you use common sense and have a buddy, you should be good.</p>

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No. I was a virgin and still am. It just depends on where you set your priorities. If you want to sleep around and party a bunch, you will. If you don’t, you won’t. College is a place where you can make a new identity for you, so if you are a party girl and want to be the good girl, you can, because no one else knows your past. You’re starting a new slate. But if you want to be the party girl, you can do that to. It’s what you make of it.</p>

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<p>HAHAHAH good luck with that. Men (I should know, I’m one) are pigs.</p>

<p>People either think with their heart, or their brain. Men think with their genitals.</p>

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<p>Okay thanks I know its cliche to say but I’ll make sure to find a gay guy friends although most seem to dislike me at my high school…or an asian guy friend since most I know aren’t too sexual or don’t show it to me since I’m not asian…I guess</p>

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<p>@Hauteclare… I have found two really great guy friends here at my college. I love them both and really trust them. They don’t drink or party or smoke and although that’s a hard quality to find in a guy, it is findable.</p>

<p>I’ve also met a bunch of pigs for guys here though… So it just depends.</p>

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<p>Okay, as a straight guy with several female friends, I can say that men are NOT always thinking about sex. I, for one, was raised to respect women, and I’m insulted that no one else gets that.</p>

<p>[EDIT: just saw you’re post, AUgirl. Thanks for realizing that we (nice guys) do exist.]</p>

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<p>It’s possible, but it’s like trying to find a needle in a haystack.</p>

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<p>^^ Same. Guys laugh at me when i hold a door open for a girl. What the hell is wrong with people nowadays. Aren’t guys supposed to do things like that for girls?!?</p>

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<p>They’re supposed to hold their genitals open for a girl nowadays.</p>

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<p>I like it when a guys holds the door but that happens more nowadays :smiley: maybe because I’m older? But I always say thanks but my friends don’t,then the guy smilies and says ur welcome…mostly guys that are good looking at my school do that, not really the less attractive ones I wonder why</p>

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<p>@Hauteclere:That just sounds wrong…flat out wrong.
I hold doors for girls…though I’m not going to run and open every door for them because that would be weird.</p>

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<p>^Bad habit to get into, trust me. You’ll go crazy.</p>

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<p>At my college, door-holding for girls is mandatory, and enforced by the ROTC cadets.</p>

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<p>Maybe it’s just because I’m in the south, but door-holding is just common practice here. I mean, guys always do it for girls… but if it’s a group of guys or a group of girls… they’ll do it for each other as well.</p>

<p>I had a friend in high school who basically made it his job to hold open doors for people. We had an assembly for the whole school every day, and whenever he’d get there, he would hold the door for everyone.</p>

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<p>^^And guys like that lose in this world. Which isn’t fair at all</p>

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<p>^ Not in real life, just in high school social life.</p>

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<p>Okay, you can definitely find guys who’ll watch out for you. There are definitely guys out there who are inherently selfish, but on my floor, I feel like most of the guys really do have my back and wouldn’t leave us to just walk home on our own, or leave us in a sticky situation. Just watch yourself and don’t feel pressure to hook up just because everyone else is. </p>

<p>Don’t let all this talk scare you; being a girl in college is kind of awesome. As horrible as it sounds, you really do get everything you want. Frats want you, clubs want you and you can get away with a lot more because you’re a girl. You’ll meet d-bag guys who think they’re better than you but they’re all talk.</p>