<p>I am an Asian dad and a new comer to this forum. I'm totally puzzled with the education system/admission process.</p>
<p>Last 10 years as I have raised kids, I tried to attend the college fairs, read admissions books and always kept in touch with the township school's progress. My son is  very ambitious by nature. He got good grades all along 4.4.WGPA. hardest courses w/8-9 APs, high SATI/SAT II. Siemens regional finalist, lot (I mean a lot) of science awards including Science Olympiad, tons of community hours, 3 yrs research at a college (pending paper), 4 years of varsity sports. great essays. He got rejected from all the top ranking colleges including the Ivies except waitlisted by one.
Since there is no way of knowing what happened in the admin room, I have to assume that there was something lacking/wrong/unlikable thing  at a generic level in the application that gave us this consistent result across the board.Thank god my son had a safety college where he got in. But because he worked harder, he wanted to get in a better college. 
I have another kid to send to college. What do I learn from this process? should I tell him not to do the same stuff because it may not give him any desired result either?  The guidance counselor was shocked with the results too. He called me few times at work to tell me this. The same question goes for him. How does he prepare his students next year?  How would he suggest a list of safety, reach, far-reach colleges for a student next year? Does he have any baseline from this year?
Do we have to roll out a dice and pray to god if it works? Has any one else seen this pattern? Wish good luck to all the parents who have sent their kids to their colleges of choice.</p>