What about all the fraternities that do not haze or sexually assault women? And what about sororities?
There is a movement called Abolish Greek Life, which is actually a movement to abolish “white” greek life (this is stated on their website). It is extreme and absolute, with no nuance. It ignores the powerful movement within greek organizations which has accelerated in the past two years, but has been transforming recruitment and practices for decades to make things far more inclusive and safe.
My experience is mainly with sororities, at a medium-sized school. There is absolutely no hazing, and no alcohol or drugs in the houses (which are owned by the school). This was the case when I was a student almost 30 years ago, and is still the case today. There is far less partying in the sorority houses than in the dorms or off campus apartments, due to:
- Strict rules from the national organizations.
- The respect members have for their student leaders, who are sisters.
- The sense of responsibility they have for the house itself.
I was lost on my college campus until I found my sorority. I had danced in high school, but I wasn’t good enough to make the college’s dance team or the dance company. I had sung in my church choir, but wasn’t good enough to be chosen for an a cappella group. I was slow to make friends, so I didn’t have any one to play intramurals with. I went to InterVarsity (a Christian group), but I was told that I shouldn’t date a Jewish boy (half of my family is Jewish), so I didn’t go back. Academics were hard, my parents had moved overseas, and I was really lonely.
The sorority was the right thing for me. The women were excellent students, which was inspiring. They had an intramural soccer team that I could join right away, and they matched me with a roommate for the next year. I had people to eat with, study with and go for a run with. They were warm and welcoming in a way no other campus group had been, and I didn’t need any special qualifications other than being reasonably friendly and nice.
So, my answer to “what’s your opinion of the greek system” is that it depends. What school? What organization? How does it operate? My daughter’s sorority has a diversity committee which reaches out to minority students of all types, and they have women of color and LGBTQ women as members. They meet with the leadership of the Black and Hispanic sororities regularly.
The answer to problems with hazing and sexual assault is zero tolerance, education, and reform from within. Not banning a system which has existed for 130+ years, and, like all human organizations, has strengths and faults. I found this article to be balanced and interesting: