<p>What is it about Stony Brook? Fairly often, I hear of kids being unhappy there. </p>
<p>They actually DO end up doing the commuter school thing, traveling an hour each way for weekend socializing with friends from home rather than staying on campus. It’s almost like a cycle that increases with dissatisfaction.</p>
<p>question_quest: SUNY refers to the State University of New York college system- yes it is Stony Brook. Fine academics but campus life is lacking</p>
<p>Thanks! I already knew the acronym, though.</p>
<p>Kbee, it’s a hard choice to make, either way, and you’re right, you have to trust your instincts for her well-being. For now, mine still insists on sticking it out. We encouraged her to withdraw and still are readly and willing for that to happen if need be. I worry about her, and it’s a real roller-coaster ride emotionally, but as of now (agh, only 2 months in? it feels like years) she wants to stay the course. I don’t know if she’ll make it, but I think she might. If she can get to Thanksgiving, the rest is home-stretch and she’ll transfer mid-year. The 4 weeks to Thanksgiving…I don’t think those are going to be easy. It’s a rock and a hard place, no doubt about it. I hate it that it has been so difficult for her. (And us.) I’ll have a big celebration here at CC if we get to December 19th intact.</p>
<p>Bumping after digging this up because of similar concerns. My D is “thinking” about something closer to home, and notes “she used to be good at things” after another disappointing audition at a school where she is just one of many who where “top dog” in high school. I wonder how much to share with her about the new state of “her” college find at this point, when this could just be some freshman ambivalence. I did let her know finances where on issue now.</p>
<p>Shrinkrap, are these new concerns or have they been consistant? Is the current school better or worse financially than the “closer to home” school? Does she seem happy in general?</p>
<p>question-quest I’m not sure. She says she tried to not be a downer at first, and she has shared some good times and friends, but this is the second or third time she’s let on to some trouble being as “happy” as everyone else seems to be. Financially, schools just don’t cost anymore than the school she’s at.Tuition at our very good but expensive-for-state-schools would be a blessing!</p>
<p>Would your D still be able to apply for a CSU/UC transfer for next year and then see how she feels when/if she gets accepted?</p>
<p>I hope so…</p>
<p>Well, for the UCs the filling deadline for fall 2009 is Nov. 1-30, so there’s still time.</p>
<p>My friend’s (4.0 gpa) D disliked everything about her school the first semester. Lots and lots of depressing calls to mom. My friend said “Stick it out a year.” Her D ignored this and transferred herself at semester without her parents’ approval. She went one semester at the new school, and dropped out. I suspect she’ll go to college someday, but apparently, she needs some time off.</p>
<p>“Well, for the UCs the filling deadline for fall 2009 is Nov. 1-30, so there’s still time.”</p>
<p>I think the transfer deadline is a little later.</p>
<p>Raindrip; hope it doesn’t come to that… so far she’s got some spring classes she’s excited about, getting round trip tickets for Christmas and plans to “tent” in January.</p>
<p>Doesn’t sound like it’s the same. This girl had a lot of setbacks with her chosen major. So she had to reevaluate. Which is okay, I think.</p>
<p>It sounds like your D is taking positive steps to rectify the situation.</p>
<p>Shinkrap, I looked on the UC webpage and didn’t see a different date for transfer apps. If you could point my toward it, I would quite truly be very much appreciative.</p>
<p>000PS! Guess I’m wrong. Perhaps it’s only a different date at other universities. (and the notification date is different).</p>
<p>Transferring to a UC after just one year seems kind of hard… but I will NOT let that be my problem… I will NOT let that be my problem… I will NOT let this</p>
<p>Do you mean that in the sense you don’t want your D to end up transfering or you just don’t want to micromanage everything if she does? :)</p>
<p>Hmmmmmmmm!</p>
<p>Transferring into most UC’s as a sophomore is darn near impossible. UC Merced probably is flexible, but many of the UC’s won’t even look at sophomore transfers & it can be tough for the few who do get in. So your daughter’s choice within the California system might be either to spend a year at a CC and then apply as a junior transfer, or to attend a CSU. CSU’s are being decimated by another huge budget cut-- the UC’s may also be suffering, I’m just more aware of CSU problems because somewhere along the line my name got added to a CSU Faculty Association mailing list. (I have no clue when or how - I just happen to receive their e-bulletins).</p>
<p>^ That’s what I was thinking…can’t imagine her doing a cc though. Still, that’s a choice. Thanks.</p>
<p>I have read that (at least for the time reported) 20% of students who transfered out of UChicago transfered back in. I wonder how often that happens overall?</p>