<p>And when would you tell them to stick it out where they are, if they're not in state or a few hours away when they could be in town? I'm curious in both a general (use any personal beliefs/experiences) and personal kind of way. </p>
<p>My mother called to tell me that my school is raising tuition two weeks ago, and we're already paying $18,000. (This is the school I ended up at after my EDI school took away finaid money) I spoke to some friends about it, and some of them pay what I pay for one term for the whole year. (About $6,000). I've made great friends, some upperclassmen friends as well, I feel like I do activities I enjoy here, I've made the Dean's List once so far, and I've met with people about self-designing my major, I've spoken with some connections to local Museums (I want to persue Museum studies), I have a great work study job that I love, and generally seem to be what you could call 'thriving'. However, another $2,000 in tuition would be quite burdensome, I hate the cold, I feel like having only three classes is rather limiting, I miss my friends back home, the town my college is in is not known for its thriving culture (and by extension, has about 3 museums total), and the smallness has become an annoyance (people I don't speak to, or even know, have decided to complain about me talking to people THEY talk to). </p>
<p>My home school, ASU, is the seemingly polar opposite of what I wanted: A small LAC with the same sort of attention given as in my high school, where people know teachers, and each other. But it's also much cheaper, as it's in-state. My old friends are there (or around there), there are plenty of museums in Tempe as well as in Phoenix (which I can reach easily by rail), they have a Museum Studies Major, an Honors College I can apply to as a junior, and I'm used to sunny warmth year round. </p>
<p>My advisors here have offered to talk to people about financing, relooking at the complicated aspects of my family's finances, help me with scholarships, talk to people, and financial aid, so that there could be a possibility that I could stay. My parents are telling me to think my options through, but I was curious as to what you (as parents) would say both to me, and to other kids.</p>
<p>When would you tell them, or try to convince them to go home? What is a "good" reason for a freshman to want to give up on their current school? How long should a student try to stick it out where they're at for before they decide they hate, dislike, or feel ambivalent about the place they're at? What are bad reasons for wanting to transfer, and when would you convince them not to, as their mom or dad?</p>