<p>Do guys or girls have it easier in college? I mean in terms of academics, social life, etc. Who do you think has it easier?</p>
<p>Ummm my high school was a joke. I took the most difficult curriculum the school offered and I never studied and did homework in between class periods and got good grades. Now I have to study and actually put a little bit of thought into homework. So I guess college is harder for me, but its not like its very hard, its just when you compare it to my high school...</p>
<p>I don't think that is the question viscious...</p>
<p>ahahhaha yes yes, my eyes must have glazed over or something. I'm used to hearing the question that I answered.</p>
<p>OK to answer YOUR question, I don't think either sex has it easier in college. It is what you make of it. I don't really see how much sex would interfere with academics anyways. For social life, you can choose to be as sociable as you'd like, again, I don't see sex playing much of a role either.</p>
<p>What kind of issues do you see as being potential differences in experience between the sexes? I'm a guy so maybe I don't see some of the problems girls face in college, though I am friends with girls and they seem to be handling things fine.</p>
<p>In terms of relationships, girls have it easier. Because guys have to do all the approaching and, let's face it, provide most of the conversation material as well.</p>
<p>Academically there's no difference.</p>
<p>Then again, though, I guess girls have to be more cautious about sexual harassment, creepy guys, and dangerous situations.</p>
<p>Although the vast majority of violence is male on male....</p>
<p>LOL sorry if this post was a downer, just thinking out loud I guess. College is generally safe and fun for everyone.</p>
<p>::provide most of the conversation material as well::</p>
<p>are you serious?</p>
<p>Chics, because every one here is riding the M-train</p>
<p>Girls have it the worst. Girls need to worry about health/safety (rape, pregnancy, STDs) and appearance (to a MUCH greater extent)</p>
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<p>You must have had some pretty boring girlfriends...</p>
<p>:You must have had some pretty boring girlfriends:</p>
<p>He probably hasn't had any, and made that ridiculous statement based on his experiences with girls who ignored him when he tried to make conversation.</p>
<p>I think that guys probably have it easier... I mean, we've all heard of the nerdy high school guy who grew up and got laid in college... Which isn't how it works for girls. We really just have to worry about a lot more things (date rape, walking alone at night, less alcohol tolerance, pregnancy.) However, there are some perks to being a girl: doors get opened, things get carried, sometimes grades are even influenced by looks. And definitely, you get a lot more sympathy about things in general.</p>
<p>But that doesn't overcome the huge possibility that you'll be taken advantage of, or hurt, while in college. As much as I'd like to say that I can take care of myself, I know that if I got into a situation with some guy, I probably wouldn't be able to fight back... he'd just be stronger.</p>
<p>Hey it wasn't meant to be taken personally, girls. I'm not going to get into an internet name-calling temper tantrum, so take it easy. If you get this upset over a post on an internet forum, then you've got some issues to deal with.</p>
<p>I agree that girls talk much more than guys do, and actually have better overall social and verbal skills because of this additional experience and life practice. However, in situation guy meets girl, even when the girl likes the guy, the guy is expected (by the girl, no less!) to take most if not all the initiatives and this includes being in a conversation where he is talking 60-80 percent of the time. I'm not talking about some long term friends here or what have you, I'm talking about dating and the beginnings of a relationship. The reasons behind this are simple and have to deal with attraction mechanisms.</p>
<p>Guys are attracted to girls primarily by their physical appearance. So if a girl is hot, all she has to do is stand there to be hit on by guys. If she tries to make interesting conversation or not, it doesn't really affect guys' initial attraction to her, so there is no reason for her to make the effort.</p>
<p>Girls are attracted to guys heavily through attitude, personality, how they carry themselves, etc. So the guy effectively needs to go up to the girl and say something interesting, come off as funny or charming, "court" the girl so to speak. He needs to make sure there is no awkward pauses or dead conversaton. So there you go. Don't be offended that I somehow affected your rep as a 'social butterfly' or some bs, because I wasn't even talking to you.</p>
<p>I think both guys and girls have it the same in college. There's a tradeoff--guys drop out more often but girls are more often the victim of abuse.</p>
<p>In the end only the strong ones survive. So be strong, keep safe, and keep your grades up! Oh, and work out now and then too--it lowers stress. And speaking of which, guys don't make fun of people who can't bench X amount of pounds at the college level (not like HS gyms where it's like "haha, he can only bench 40" and all that).</p>
<p>^^^</p>
<p>haha, weightlifting. Yeah, plus in college, you get some people who are really hardcore lifters like my friend who's goal for the end of 06 is to have a total bench, squat, deadlift over 1200lbs. I think the squat is the only thing he has left given that he just benched 405 last week.</p>
<p>What do you mean by the question? </p>
<p>Females’ worrying more about assaults is really nonsensical. Males are the one who should be the ones who are worried about being assaulted. Male aggression rises significantly during one's twenties. If you actually look at data, the male to female mortality rates is reaches as high as a ratio of 4 for external cases from the ages of 15-24 (about 3 times more likely to die if you include all cases). Male on male violence, male homicide rates, and male mortality rates are all substantially higher than that of females during one's early adulthood. It doesn't really begin to level off until one reaches one's 50's. So if really anyone needs to worry about getting injured or killed in college, it should be males, not females.</p>
<p>I'm getting this information from an article from the Scientific American's 1999 issue "Defining Men".</p>
<p>Fudgemaster, that article sounds interesting. Is there a link to it online or should I check it out at the library sometime?</p>
<p>(I'm a psychology minor and have done a lot of research on gender issues with another paper on that subject coming up very soon)</p>
<p>Maybe the numbers show that more males are injured and killed, but that doesn't factor in the fact that men (in general) are much more capable of fighting against their attackers. So despite the fact that you may get attacked more often, you can rest easy knowing that you can at least fairly protect yourself. Also, does "injured" include rape victims?</p>
<p>No grim. Men are not really more capable of protecting themselves. Some drunken fool or even a sober maniac can come after you with a baseball bat, attack you from behind, or be spineless and bring 5 members of his 'crew' to beat the hell out of you. And you don't even have to be looking for a fight; most of the time you simply looked at the wrong guy funny, talked to the wrong girl, or won a game (basketball, poker) that really <em>ed the guy off. So now he's going to go 'macho' on your a</em>. </p>
<p>Girls, in terms of physical abuse (separate from sexual abuse), are extremely off-limits. If a guy hits a girl in college, you can be sure that there will be several large men at his door the next day to beat the hell outta him and the police will surely be called as well. So it just doesn't happen.</p>
<p>I'm personally an easy-going guy, am not muscular, and have never gotten into a fight. However, one night a huge guy on the football team and a buddy of his (these guys were complete strangers) confronted me and tried to start a physical fight. I didn't even know those guys, and the football guy was twice my size. Considering I that I might end up in the hospital that night was certainly more disturbing than worrying if a guy was going to grab my ass, which happens to males also by the way.</p>
<p>I think women have it easier both in academics and relationships. They just fool themselves into thinking they have it harder because they complain more than guys do.</p>
<p>Eh, I'm in highschool, and I guess I've just met a lot of creepy guys. The situations where I've felt threatened around guys probably wouldn't make it into assault statistics...it's one thing to get groped or whatever, it's another thing to be forced into a sexually compromising situation where you are getting hurt and you are worried that they won't stop, but it's not something you would report. A lot of girls don't even report rape. Not to mention, more guys initiate fights than girls do, probably. So quoting statistics even that take sexual assault into account is useless... </p>
<p>I think the reality is guys and girls are both at risk, and that there's weird social gender stigmas that make life harder for both, too. So it all seems pretty equal to me.</p>