<p>Like when I talk to someone, some random friend of that person comes up, says hello to her, and have a little conversation with her, and just leave...its like I don't even exist.</p>
<p>People talk about parties and invite other people right in front of me lol...and I'm in good terms with them too!!</p>
<p>When I went to a club meeting, I just sat there in a corner...I was a newbie, but everyone looked at me like I was a wart lol. Rude much?</p>
<p>I mean wth? If anyone came to math club (I'm the president) I would make sure that person feels comfortable....
I introduce myself to everyone around me and make sure they feel included...</p>
<p>You include yourself. The thing about life is that if you waiting around for people to come and introduce themselves to you, you’re never going to make any friends. The people with the best social lives are the ones who make an active effort to get to know other people and make friends. Subsequently, because they are open and friendly, they will imminently attract more people to them.</p>
<p>Another perception, albeit false, is that quiet, shy newbies who sit in a corner and don’t make any attempts to engage in conversation or talk to people are snobby and cold. Consequently, no one’s going to WANT to talk to them.</p>
<p>The hardest thing in the world at first is speaking up and letting people know you exist and have something to bring to the table too… but once you do, you will that find people will be more than willing to include you.</p>
<p>^^If I had a nickel for every contradictory/pointless post that John has made I could have paid for UNC Chapel Hill’s tuition fees (In-state of course).</p>
<p>Seems like everyone’s “out to get you” John, or so you think. I won’t comment on the situation, because I don’t know you, and neither do any other posters here, to comment on why your social life is the way it is. If you want to get into the social scene, you need to take the initiative and not wait for people to “ask you.” How do they know you’re interested in going out to begin with?</p>
<p>Forcing to include yourself with others, is as bad as screaming how desperate you are to make friends. A solution? Try to be confident. It’s easier said than done, but usually its true. Talk with people, pop some joke, join other clubs that are NOT academically oriented, mingle with other students that hit the right key as you. You should worry more about being comfortable in your OWN skin, instead of molding yourself to someone who you would deem to be acceptable to others. Alas, this is something that come over us with time and maturity.</p>