My roommate and I get along fairly ok, and we only have 13 days left with each other, but while he is a decent person, he is a horrible, difficult roommate. For one thing, I don’t drink or do drugs, and he does both of those and skips class all the time so he can get drunk and high. He leaves the room looking like a tornado hit it, strewing his clothes and books all over the place. He deals drugs as well, and I am sick of his customers knocking on our door at all hours of the day. He also got so drunk on a bottle of vodka recently that he passed out in the shower, flooded the bathroom, and had to go to bed at 7pm to sleep it off. Thankfully he doesn’t drink or do drugs around me though, which is a positive aspect. He also doesn’t believe in headphones and blasts YouTube over my TV at all hours, and used to kick me out of the room so he could drink until I told him to knock it off. Anyway, I just wanted to vent, but I don’t know how I got through the whole year or how I’m going to get through these next 2 weeks. Whenever I come back to the room and he is there, or when he comes into the room when I’m there, I want to punch the wall.
Two weeks is nothing. You’ve made it this far and then you’ll be free of him forever.
The time to do something about it was months ago. Now, just get along until the end of the semester.
This is something you should’ve taken to your housing department the first day.
@Syrxis I didn’t know he was like this until the last few months. Until then he was a decent guy.
You still could have taken it up with housing the moment you knew. There is no reason to suffer in silence
I would say to your RA that you are worried about your roommate…that the other day he passed out in the shower after drinking a bottle of vodka. Say that you don’t want him to get in trouble, but you also don’t want something to happen to him. Also say that you are afraid of any retribution so you would like your name kept out of it.
I agree with @bopper . I think that drinking a bottle of vodka and passing out in the shower is crossing the line a little bit. I believe in the personal freedom to drink as one wants, but they sound like they’re endangering themselves by going overboard lol.
It’s not about my concern for him (I have none). It’s how angry I am that I filled out a questionnaire at the beginning of the semester that was supposed to match me accordingly with a roommate, but I got completely ripped off.
I highly doubt they ask about drug dealing and alcoholism on the survey. And people don’t assess themselves perfectly. Given your blasting of the TV to counter his loud music, you actually might match rather well.
Pointless thing to be mad about, tbh. It’s not the school’s fault he’s annoying to live with.
Your drug dealer roommate could have and still can ruined you. Way back, there was a drug bust in the dorm of my college the first day of finals. SWAT, police dogs, etc. Even if you have nothing to do with it, you could spent time in jail and lots of money getting your name cleared.
They ask how neat you want the room, and I said very neat. They ask if you want the room to be quiet, and I said yes. They asked how I feel about drinking in my presence, and I said I prefer none. So either he lied his pants off or they didn’t do a good job.
And who cares which it is? It doesn’t change your situation.
Lol well… complaining on the internet isn’t going to change the scenario. For the record though, it’s not really your job to monitor whether he drinks or does drugs or skips class. The stuff about no headphones is typical roommate stuff, and I understand why that would be annoying.
As for the dealing though…
If it was me, I would tell him that he needs to stop dealing out of the room. If he values his freedom and his education, he will listen. It’s a perfectly reasonable request.
It’s 2 weeks. Let it go. Some people are not honest on the questionnaire. Some are aspirational. Maybe he hoped living with a neat person would make him neat.
I know a non-smoker whose roommate said she didn’t smoke; she thought that living with a non-smoker wold make her quit. Interesting plan but it failed. Both of them were miserable.
I hope you have selected a roommate who is a friend and whose lifestyle is more compatible with yours.
@gardenstategal I won’t be returning to where I am next year for different reasons. But I will be sure to have a better roommate situation.