<p>yes my D and I talk a lot. Despite all the debates people have about how parents aren’t suppose to be “friends” to their kids, she considers me a friend and I am happy about that. I don’t judge her or her friends. I also am a parent and I give her my opinion and then let her as an adult make her own choices. I’m a lucky Mom…she has almost always made good ones.</p>
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<p>I waited and it is wonderful. That argument is a load of nonsense.</p>
<p>HoosierMom, based on the friends your daughter chooses to hang around, you should probably ask your her about what SHE’S been doing.</p>
<p>Sex?! Sex is the act of the devil and should be outlawed until you’re married!</p>
<p>Hoosier, are her friends okay with her telling you about their sex lives? I’d be slightly irritated if I told a friend something in confidence, she goes and tells her mother who then posts about it on a public forum.</p>
<p>It’s good that you two have a close relationship, though.</p>
<p>LOL. Hoosiermom I’m surprised that your daughter doesn’t find talking about that with you at all awkward. </p>
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<p>I second that.</p>
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<p>She’s the fine azz brunette, yes?</p>
<p>anyway, they start having sex because they can start over and not be the lames they were in HS that couldn’t get none.</p>
<p>oh, true. charlotte’s hubby, trey, or whoever, had ‘mechanical problems’ [;)]. she REALLY wanted kids, so they ended up divorcing. see, that’s some thing that might be useful to know in entering a marriage. or what if the sex is just REALLY awful. just playing devil’s advocate here :)</p>
<p>I didn’t know they divorced! That’s news to me.</p>
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I’m sure it was wonderful, but it would have been wonderful as a teenager, too. And what if it turned out your hubby sucked in bed? Sounds like you got lucky, many women don’t. </p>
<p>People these days usually get married at 30 or so, and I think if I waited 30 years to have sex I would probably think anything is wonderful. After all, if you only have sex with 1 person, you have nothing to compare it to.</p>
<p>Well it’s obvious in many student cases…
No parents
Feel more comfortable in that environment
Larger pool
Something new
… list goes on, haven’t really read the post on this thread but I’m sure this could be the case for many students.</p>
<p>Also when you’re under18 there may be more legal issues that make it harder to get stuff like abortion, morning after pill, etc. When you’re in college, you’re an adult.</p>
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<p>I don’t think any respectable woman would divorce her husbad because “he sucks in bed”. It’d be the same as a man divorcing his wife because he found someone with bigger boobs. </p>
<p>The reason why Charlotte divorced was because her husband wouldn’t adopt the Chinese kid. It wasn’t only about sex.</p>
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<p>That’s ridiculous. Are you saying that if you place 19 year-olds of different gender in a room, then they will immediately have sex? I’ve been to a few parties and I haven’t seen anyone having sex.</p>
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<p>Definitely not the same. A man can still EASILY be sexually satisfied if his wife doesn’t have DDs. However, if my significant other were really terrible in bed (couldn’t last, didn’t know how to satisfy me at all & was unteachable, was extremely “insubstantial,” etc.), I just wouldn’t be able to deal with that for the rest of my life.</p>
<p>Sex is important in relationships. Bad sex = unhappy marriage.</p>
<p>They had a Chinese kid, too?! Damn, I missed everything.</p>
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<p>Maybe I was being too specific about breast size being the only factor. It was suppose to be a metaphor representing less-than-perfect physical traits. I mean what happens if a person’s wife becomes fat after getting married? For men having sex with a hot girl is probably more important than just having sex. So I do see divorcing a man because he’s not good in bed the same as divorcing a woman because she’s fat.</p>
<p>But that’s probably why you should have sex before marriage to “test” and also why you should see if she has any long-term tendency to become fat (no exercise, like sweets)</p>
<p>Not the same at all. Good looks have very little to do with being good in bed.</p>
<p>“It was suppose to be a metaphor representing less-than-perfect physical traits.”</p>
<p>it’s not about physical traits [which one can easily judge just by looking at the person, btw]. it’s about sex. it’s not shallow;sex is a completely natural/instinctual/innate human desire, & few people would be happy in a marriage in which they are not sexually satisfied.</p>
<p>“The reason why Charlotte divorced was because her husband wouldn’t adopt the Chinese kid. It wasn’t only about sex.”</p>
<p>maybe not, but it was still partly about sex…she wasn’t really happy in that marriage.</p>
<p>^ So how is not being turned on by a fat person different from “being bad in bed”? If I can’t’ even get an erection how do I have good sex?</p>
<p>I’m not arguing that a marriage is good if there’s bad sex. But the idea that someone would DIVORCE his/her spouse for having bad sex is as repulsive as one divorcing because he doesn’t like his wife’s looks.</p>