How is it repulsive to divorce someone because you don’t like their looks? You act as though physical attraction isn’t important in a relationship and it should only be about personality! Well in that case, your partner is nothing more than a friend you live with. Sex and physical attraction are a big part of a relationship.</p>
<p>Your bra size argument doesn’t make sense because it’s not like the woman had D’s when they married and they shrunk to A’s - if big boobs are that important to the man, he wouldn’t have married her. As for being fat, it’s true you can marry a skinny woman and she can proceed to become obese, but all she has to do is lose the weight and she’s the same again. And if she remains very fat, and the man is no longer sexually attracted to her and their sex life becomes nonexistent, that’s a perfectly understandable reason for divorce. Sex is a big part of a relationship, for the 99% of us who aren’t asexual. Divorcing someone because you can’t have an active sex life with them is rational. Sex is a natural desire like hunger or thirst and needs to be satiated; if they didn’t divorce, likely one spouse would end up cheated to fulfill that desire.</p>
<p>I would think the success of Viagra, Cialis, etc. would show that sex is very important, even for people that have been married a while, as much as those of us under thirty would like not to think about…</p>
<p>I agree with Stargazerlilies. I believe that being physically attracted to your parnter and having a good sex life are two intergral parts to a happy and long lasting relationship.</p>
<p>Also, to those who compared divorcing someone because of bad sex to a man divorcing his wife because he was no longer attracted to her, where have you guys been?!! Men and women not only divorce, but cheat on their significant others all the time over these two issues. Whether we like it or not, people treat their significant others like shoes. If a current pair doesn’t fit, you get a new pair, plain and simple. People also end relationships with others over differing religions or personalities. Why would divorcing someone over crappy sex be any different. If sex is important to an individual, and their current partner cannot fulfill their needs, why shouldn’t they move on to someone who can?</p>
<p>Because it’s fun and People like to have fun? No one is there to watch over you, you can do pretty much whatever you want, and because it’s a legal (keep it clean!) way to have a good time and do I really need to say more?</p>
<p>“I’m not arguing that a marriage is good if there’s bad sex. But the idea that someone would DIVORCE his/her spouse for having bad sex is as repulsive as one divorcing because he doesn’t like his wife’s looks.”</p>
<p>So… they should stay in a bad marriage with bad sex, rather than divorce and find better partners which satisfy them??</p>
<p>Quite often there is some reason that people’s sex drive is lacking, whether from medications, or depression or whatever, so I think people should at least try to work it out first to see if they can find an outside problem to correct. But if they can’t, then I think it’s alright to divorce over it. It’s perfectly reasonable to expect to be sexually satisfied by your partner. It’s not the ONLY reason they’re there, but it’s one of the reasons. Otherwise, it’s just like you’re hanging out with a friend all the time…</p>
<p>Stargazerlilies, you sound too reasonable and level-headed. Stop it!</p>
<p>While I can’t find anything false or flawed with what you’re saying, would you atleast say that it “feels wrong” or “sounds bad” for a divorce to be based on the wife becoming unattractive, or the man being bad in bed. It may very well, be the best decision for each of them, but it’s a rather disgusting idea.</p>
<p>I don’t know why… All I remember is that I had a glass of champagne or two, and then this guy was really nice to me, and by the time I realized what was going on, he was already going in and out of me. I felt like a whore at first, cried a lot and thought what would my future husband say, what would GOD say… But then I realized I don’t owe anything to anyone, and guilty feelings went away after my 8th guy.</p>
<p>what are the responses on this? are we talking purely vaginal sex, or is this conversation including oral/anal?</p>
<p>it seems everyone has different standards on what sex actually is…
i know plenty of people who consider oral not sex, while others who do. same with anal, etc.</p>
<p>Drinking can be a part of college sex, but I thought that in some cases alcohol can decrease the guys urge to get an erection or to keep the erection if they have one. Is this true?</p>
How is it repulsive to divorce someone because you don’t like their looks? You act as though physical attraction isn’t important in a relationship and it should only be about personality! Well in that case, your partner is nothing more than a friend you live with. Sex and physical attraction are a big part of a relationship, **When you’re still young and have strong, almost uncontrollable sexual desires. Then you grow up and realize that sex isn’t everything, and it’s not worth divorcing your soul-mate and leaving your kids behind to get a few more enjoyable orgasms.
<p>I remembered way back in freshmen high school Health class that I stood with like 2 girls and 3 boys on one side of the room that voted to stay virgins until marriage. It was silly i know, but there exists a universal desire in everyone to want to be the first lover with the girl/boy we want to spend the rest of our life with. Stealing that away sparks jealousy, curiosity, and unrest, which makes subsequent episodes of sex that much less satisfying. Sure we fall in love with the first cute girl we meet, but can we truly commit to sex and later marry that person! Rarely if ever is love that simple. And neither is sex. So zip up the pants cowboy and learn your trade first ;)</p>
<p>All this… scares me x__________x… especially what that one person said (I don’t remember his usermane…)
"I honestly can’t believe this is a thread. </p>
<p>Every red blooded person, who isn’t asexual, wants to have sex. The only difference from person to person are the circumstances in which they want it. When I started college, I really wanted to find a girlfriend and get laid. I don’t see what is so hard to understand, people want to have sex. In college you have the freedom to do it, so people who want to, do it.</p>
<p>I have no idea why people wait. Waiting to have sex is the worst idea ever. Here is why:</p>
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<li><p>When you do have it for the first time, you’ll suck at it. Better to get the practice in before you get old and you are expected to be decent. Loving someone doesn’t make up for the fact that they suck in bed.</p></li>
<li><p>People who have had sex don’t like dating virgins. Everyone knows virgins freak out and get super attached way to early in a relationship, huge turnoff.</p></li>
<li><p>What if you marry somone only to discover your or that person has a fetish that the other doesn’t want to be involved with? You’re both screwed, and you have no way of knowing ahead of time. </p></li>
<li><p>Most guys can’t feel close to a woman until they have had sex (or man if you swing that way)."</p></li>
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<p>I have not read this whole thread but wanted to respond anyway.</p>
<p>When a kid goes away to college they are suddenly in a situation where there is no one to ‘touch’. When they were living at home they could get a hug from mom or dad or younger siblings, etc.</p>
<p>I wonder how often kids underestimate how much they’re going to miss that ‘touch’ factor. So I have to wonder how much sex in college is the result of simply craving ‘touch’ but not really understanding that it’s just simply TOUCH they are craving…but the easiest way to satisfy that craving for touch is to have sex. After all, who is there to get close to? People of the opposite sex and under the guise of ‘having a relationship’ which, with more opportunity, leads to sex rather than just a platonic relationship.</p>
<p>My mom said that when she went away to college (way back in the age of the dinosaurs) she didn’t realize how much she craved just being able to touch someone until she got home for a visit and nearly squeezed her younger brother to a pulp!!! She was just craving that cuddling and ability to touch and hug people without constraint.</p>