Why does being in a relationship not allow a person to fully "Experience" college

<p>i think its mostly that typically, you will hold yourself back if you have a significant other back home. maybe think.. i dont want to go to this party/club cause all people do is hook up there. if you have trust issues in your relationship, its worse.</p>

<p>also, you would probably be almost constantly texting and having phone calls multiple times a week, taking you away from where you are and your social life at college. and you probably wouldnt let yourself develop deep friendships with those of the opposite sex.</p>

<p>not something i would want to do (expecially not first semester) at all. i notice the same tings when people are back home for the summer and have bf/gfs at college. the constantly texting and phone calls that take them away from the larger group</p>

<p>random hookups.. :(</p>

<p>Having been in two relationships from pretty much the start of college, ... it can certainly prevent you from meeting people (particularly those of the opposite sex) if you have a bf/gf.</p>

<p>But I like the relationship I'm in now, and I'm not a partier/random hooker upper, so I'm good. My first relationship made my college experience pretty miserable for the first couple of months. I'm very glad it ended, but didn't realize it was so bad until I was single again. It was someone I met at the beginning of college btw, not a hs sweetheart.</p>

<p>It's the same idea as being roomies with a high school best friend or whatever--if you limit yourself too early, you miss that crucial period where you meet anyone, where anything can happen socially. As long as you don't let it get in the way of being social, however, why not appreciate a good thing?</p>

<p>^ Of course, if you're just not social period, then you don't have to worry about it geting in the way. ;) I'm not in college for the social aspect, so it's kind of nice to already have someone I know I can confide in and spend time with.</p>

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cuz you can't hook up with random guys mannnn</p>

<p>and what would college be without that?</p>

<p>high school

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random hookups..

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<p>Mmmmm herpes.....</p>

<p>I broke it off with a guy I was dating for over a year. I realized that I was his first girlfriend and he probably had no plan to continue dating the same person for the rest of his life. Also heard the advice about not being tied down in college, in other words I didn't want to become "that girl" who was always on the phone with her bf and miserably thinking of home.</p>

<p>I'm going to miss my friends/family, but now that I'm single I have nothing holding me back from being excited about moving across the country for college.</p>

<p>no 1nite stands. (although i am against that kinda stuff)</p>

<p>"...I broke it off with a guy I was dating for over a year. I realized that I was his first girlfriend and he probably had no plan to continue dating the same person for the rest of his life..."</p>

<p>I've been married almost twenty-five years and I am the only person my husband ever dated!</p>

<p>@dntw8up</p>

<p>did you meet before or after high school graduation?</p>

<p>still curious :)</p>

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I've been married almost twenty-five years and I am the only person my husband ever dated!

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<p>That's awesome. :] Thanks for making me feel guilty! But no, other factors played a crucial role in my decision. Plus I'm not into the whole marrying the first person you date, I'd prefer to learn what exactly I like.</p>

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I've been married almost twenty-five years and I am the only person my husband ever dated!

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<p>Aww, that gives me hope. :) I'm the only person my boyfriend's ever dated and we plan on getting married after we both make it through college (he's said multiple times that he has "every intention" of marrying me). So it's nice to hear from someone that it does actually happen. Not that I doubted it would, but positive reinforcement is always nice. :)</p>

<p>Sounds like a pretty lame and boring life, but whatever floats your boat! Just do what makes you happy.</p>

<p>I had four or five friends that had high school boyfriends or girlfriends. They all missed out on a lot of the college experience and missed out on the opportunity to build new friendships because they went home a lot to visit them and spent nights on the phone with them. None of there relationships lasted through college and every friend now regrets that wasted time. So, in my opinion, it's not worth it.</p>

<p>"I'm a little glad that my bf is deployed to Iraq for the first 6 months of the school year for this very reason. It lets you focus on making the connections and taking advantage of the college life."</p>

<p>WOAH what?</p>

<p>o-o What's wrong with that?</p>

<p>Don't get me wrong, I miss him like crazy. But he's not there to be a social crutch for me. I have no excuse to not go out and meet new people.</p>