<p>I was in a college fraternity, at a university where the fraternities were supposed to be non-stereotypical (MIT), but we had most of the same problems frats had at other universities. (Yes, we called them ‘frats’–it was non-pejorative.)</p>
<p>Part of the problem is that fraternities themselves, when it comes down to it, think they are supposed to haze their own members and drink to excess. There are some frat members that don’t and some whole frats that don’t, but this historical definition or ideology pushes people along the spectrum toward drinking more and toward hazing their own pledges. That is, whatever their own innate susceptibility toward participating in these activities, the frat culture and underlying expectation pushes them in that direction toward more extreme behaviors of this type. Regarding the power of connotations, I almost feel like if a fraternity disbanded but had the same group of guys and called themselves something else, that it would be much less likely to engage in hazing practices and even may drink less.
By the way, science shows that it is a bad idea to have an organization where a couple of people have control over others. I think we are all familiar with the Stanford University psychology study where a couple of people were designated as ‘prison guards’ with complete control over others; they soon abused this power. <a href=“Stanford prison experiment - Wikipedia”>http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanford_prison_experiment</a>
This sort of asymmetric power relationship between pledges and brothers is what bothered me most about fraternities. With all the liability issues these days, I don’t see why any college allows pledging. I don’t believe in fraternities in general, but I can see how a university administration would not want to risk offending alumni by banning them altogether (although I think its cowardly if they are only motivated by this reason.)</p>
<p>Another thing that no one gets: a death due to someone <em>requiring</em> you to drink to excess in order to not have to is a very different thing than people When I was in college, one student did actually die due to a drinking ritual. Actual death was and is fairly rare if you look at the statistics. But hazing in various degrees was very common.and so were drinking rituals and drinking to excess As for the latter, I believe long-time CC poster and professor “Mini” @Mini does research in the field of alcoholism at universities, and he has said that the binge drinking problem is worse in the fraternities. In addition to the hazing and drinking, there is a level of BS and groupthink at fraternities that I can’t stand, the same sort of BS that is present at businesses and Wall Street; in other words, doing a lousy job and pretending otherwise–sort of like the scam mentality that embodied “The Wolf of Wall Street”. I don’t know whether sexual assaults are worse there, and it’s definitely something to look into, but I think that the poor treatment of males, particularly underclassmen males, should be enough in itself to prompt corrective action.</p>
<p>By the way, I have met some people at the same exact fraternity I was in, only separated by about 5 years, and they seem to actually have had a positive experience. For instance, they got help on their homework from some of the older brothers. However, even those that had good experiences in fraternities should recognize the pervasive endemic problems that afflict it. </p>
<p>Back in college, I was as upset about this issue as xiggi, partly because a classmate of mine actually died in a pledge drinking ritual, but I sort of burned myself out on it because of the college administrator’s inaction on this issue. I think xiggi’s characterization of college administrators as cowardly is accurate.</p>