I go to a community college and I have a hard time making new friends. In my freshmen year I meet new people but they are just acquaintances. I never actually hung out with any of them. I just saw them at school and we hung out in between classes but not outside of school. Now that I’m going to be a sophmore, I want to meet new people and acually hang out with them outside of school. How can I make friends to hang out outside of school?
Join clubs, interact with new people.
I’m in a community college, I joined the math club and met some great guys!
For the people that you hung out with between classes, did you ever try asking them to do something outside of school (grab something to eat, see a movie, etc)?
When I took classes at the community colleges, the acquaintances I had were super busy, trying to go to school, work, and study. Everyone had different schedules and a different demographic: people with children, employees finishing up their degrees, older student population. We hung out on campus, but that was it. Very busy students.
I had the same problem my first year. All the people I met, or friends that I made in class lived far away from school. For away enough for it to be inconvenient to hang out. I hope my second year I can make more friends.
I think many people at community colleges made that choice because they wanted to stick close to home. Many live at home. They still associate with the people they knew before they started college. So while they may be friendly in class, they are not seeking new friends in the way those who go away to a 4 year college do because they still have their old friends to hang with and they are often also working and continuing with the life they had before college.
People go to community college for a couple of reasons, the main ones being: money, low grades, personal issues, etc. Most of the people going to community college have part time, and even full time jobs, or have a lot of personal issues with health or family etc. I went to community college for 5 years (I know I know, but I spent my time wisely, I got 3 degrees!) and I really only made one friend who I consider a best friend. The people you meet in your classes are mainly interested in study groups and not actual friends. They most likely are still hanging out with people from high school or work where they’ve had a lot of time to get to know already. Joining clubs definitely helps to make more permanent friends, but you really have to be active. Join clubs that interest you. If you find that someone is turning you down for hanging out, move on. They are either busy, or not interested in creating a solid friendship. Don’t take it personally! I feel like I’m writing dating advice lol!
I wonder if the issues you’re having have anything to do with the issues you’ve mentioned in the past 14 threads you’ve started. I guess we won’t know, because it seems you haven’t once responded to all the replies you’ve gotten.