<p>Agreed (with oasis and charisma). </p>
<p>The problem here is that his admissions may be revoked. I dont know why citygirlsmom is so concerned about the moral implications, this forums does not exist to lecture kids about what<code>s right and wrong. I</code>m sure he already had enough discussions regarding this with his former school/parents. It`s rather dissaponting to see adults acting a bit immature like that :S</p>
<p>Well, this thread seems to have gone on a little longer than it should have...</p>
<p>OP what ever happens please give us updates. Lots of people here have invested thought and time on your behalf, so clearly many of us care how it all turns out.</p>
<p>Thanks for all the replies guys. For those of you stating how immature and naive I am, I understand that and take full blame for my actions. This was the biggest mistake of my entire life. I realize that. I'm a ****ing moron for doing this so close to graduation. I've thought of suicide. I realize that I've hurt my family and anyone directly related to me. I've robbed my parents of seeing one of their sons graduate with their class. You don't understand how worthless I feel. Never in my entire life have I felt this miserable. If you had told me a year ago that I would've been expelled, I would've said, "No way!". I've never been in any trouble in my life. </p>
<p>As for everyone else asking, this is a public school and I am still a minor (17). Currently I'm still expelled but my parents along with the administration are still trying to work this out. At the moment were trying to at least get my diploma from my original high school. At least if this happens I wouldn't have an issue of my acceptance being revoked.</p>
<p>Oh, as for those who said I wasn't even here, I never got any email notifications and thought that this thread died.</p>
<p>Edit: I'm going to be talking with my Principal tomorrow morning and I was curious as to what I could offer to do as a result of my actions, such as drug rehab course, community service, etc. Anyone know any other things that I could offer to do to try to receive my diploma from my original high school?</p>
<p>Another update, my Principal said that I should be able to keep all of my classes so all of my AP classes will remain on my transcript. I guess It'll just say from a different school.</p>
<p>I think it is really important, if as you said you thought of suicide, that you take that seriously. Please let your parents know that you have had that thought. I am not surprised - if you read an earlier post of mine I was from the outset concerned about your stress level (not because of anything you wrote, but because any person at your age and in your situation would be incredibly stressed out).</p>
<p>I would, no matter what happens, go see a psychologist asap just to have help processing all of this. Someone who doesn't care about your parents' disappointment, your school's reaction, or anything like that. Someone whose sole concern is that you are OK. </p>
<p>I think it would be useful for you to explore the reasons why you risked what you did. Not that a person should ever get stoned, but if you wanted to smoke you could have done so on the weekend. There is a book called "The Romance of Risk". Check it out. Undertanding why you got where you are will help you not to go there again. Have your parents read it to help them understand what happened better.</p>
<p>Fix this situation, make the best of it, doing all the right things. Take care of yourself, and watch how you grow stronger as a result of your mistake. Now, welcome to the real world, where most of us have made mistakes, have regrets, and have learned from them. Please try to focus on that when you are too hard on yourself. Don't do anything self-destructive like jeopardizing your college acceptance again, but realize you are now a member of the human majority.</p>
<p>Regarding your last question, going in strong to decisionmakers you need to see with the names of places you are currently involved with (rehab or counceling and community service) will be more powerful then talking about what you will do.</p>
<p>I am truely hopefull it works out for you, SoCal</p>
<p>I was harsh because I realy don't want other usually smart kids to make such a big mistake, and to save them some grief</p>
<p>And sharing your story was brave, and if it stops one other student from doing really stupid stuff, then you should be glad for that</p>
<p>My gut tells me you will be okay, just your luck of the draw to be the on they make an example of and are strict with</p>
<p>It all depends on what your highschool says in their transcripts, but it looks like they don't want to wreck your life, and are working to figure this out for you</p>
<p>Take care, and this too shall pass</p>
<p>Quick question, if this doesn't work out and Washington does revoke my acceptance, I was planning on going to a CC and doing a transfer program. Does anyone know how my expulsion might affect that?</p>
<p>Good luck Socal, we had a similar situation occur with a group of seniors at our hs who showed up to prom drunk and with alcohol in the limo. The seniors had been warned repeatedly that they would not be able to graduate with their class if they violated the alcohol policy at prom, so this group has been suspended and seemingly will not be able to walk at graduation. I know that the parents are working with the administration to try to get some resolution and perhaps it will happen. In the meantime, these kids are feeling awful, they know they did something stupid and that it has not only adversely affected them but their families as well. No amount of piling on guilt can make them feel worse than they feel already.</p>
<p>I hope the school is willing to work with you for a good resolution. Best of luck.</p>
<p>SoCal, hang in there.</p>
<p>I don't understand how another high school can give you a diploma if you've never done work there. Where will your final grades come from? I think you really need to work with the school that expelled you to get the diploma. Agree not to walk at graduation, or to speak to the underclassmen about drug use, or both -- anything that will allow you to graduate from the school you attended. I cannot imagine that they will not bend, even a little, for an honors students in good standing until two weeks ago. I repeat what I said earlier: they might want to see the proper remorse before they give in.</p>
<p>Good advice momwaitingfornew. Socal, you and your parents need to try to work with the school and if they won't bend, then your next step (IMO) is for a meeting with the counselors and administrators so that you will be totally clear as to how your transcript will be handled/worded and how UW will be notified.</p>
<p>Alrite. Thanks for all the advice everyone. I'll be talking to the Principal tomorrow morning and hopefully some sort of compromise can be reached. I'll get you updated.</p>
<p>Momwaitingfornew - I'm not quite sure how my diploma is going to work out currently. I'm still getting my high school diploma but I'm not sure where from currently. Hopefully my Principal will allow me to receive it from my original school. If not, I'd probably be attending the other school for a few weeks until I graduated.</p>
<p>BTW, bringing a lawyer with you to the meeting might evoke hostility instead of negotiation. Unless the situation gets truly desperate, keep your lawyer in the background. The school will then treat you more like an individual in need of mercy instead of as an adversary.</p>
<p>Yep, we weren't planning on bring our lawyer. Thank you for the advice.</p>
<p>AG54's advice is great.</p>
<p>I was also thinking that you may volunteer a "gag order". Schools are so afraid of drug problems that when someone gets caught they feel the need to set an example and show no mercy. In addition to the other things you are doing to show remorse and to assume consequences, talk to your parents about how you might communicate a committment to say nothing about the situation if you are given any sort of break.</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>Thanks for all the advice...it's been very helpful.</p>
<p>Well, my expulsion stands. Right now I'm going to go to another high school but I'll still be graduating and receiving my high school diploma. The good thing is that the schools are working together so that on my transcript it shows up that I have the same classes still. The only difference is that it's going to say that it was from a different school, but it's not a continuation school or anything of the sort.</p>
<p>After talking to the principal at the new school she said that she's dealt with situations like this before and it did not affect the college acceptances so I'm hoping for the best. I've got my fingers crossed.</p>
<p>I would not bet on the principal's opinion, Maybe you and your parents should confidentially talk to as many people as possible and form a strategy. I am worried that you might assume it will all turn out OK, and then be surprised if the UW questions the transcript. I'm not sure what that strategy should be. I don't know how you should play it. I guess I'd do a JFK and get lots of expert opinions. I hope it works out for you.</p>
<p>However the school situation sorts out, I hope you can come to the place where you realize that this lapse in judgement can serve to make you a stronger and better person going forward.</p>
<p>DO NOT let this momentary set-back spell doom for you. Use it to help forge a stronger character within yourself.</p>
<p>Tim</p>
<p>You could try a consultation with a private college consultant who works in WA, e.g. in Seattle, where they might have some knowledge of the UW's admissions policies, especially what they look for when they review the final transcripts. If your grades are not drastically different, and the expulsion does not show up, on the transcript, it may not be terribly noticeable that something happened. The other thing that on which the private consultant might be able to advise is how to respond if you are questioned about your transcript. A college consultant might have a different approach than an attorney. Both types of professionals are your advocate, but I don't think that college consultants have to operate in adversarial relationships quite as often as attorneys, if ever. Their job is spin control and packaging kids. I don't need to make light of the situation, but you may need some of that in the future.</p>