<p>Altmom, my son was quiet, a non-drinker and a bit awkward with new social situations. His LAC was small so I encouraged him to do most of the above suggestions. The candy angle for him, didn't work : )(no sign though) but saying Hi to people he didn't know, eye contact when he could and a smile didn't hurt. He met another shy girl in orientation and later in the cafe and they started to talk because he asked her a question...seems trivial, but you have to reach out. His "mistakes" were not joining or staying in some clubs, instead,finding a friend or two and just settling in. Later, he wished he gave himself more options early before the groups started because then it's harder for a shy person to walk in. He also found the second half of the year, joining a religious group and going to mass (the shock!) had him meet more students and some that were "less party people".
I know it's hard, but I kept telling him "try things!, no one is going to make you stay if you hate a club, sport, etc."
Good luck to her, she'll be fine and learn a lot her first year in and out of the classroom.</p>