<p>you're a loser if you are on college confidential within the first few weeks of school whining about not having friends!</p>
<p>Get a life ,seriously, there are like ten threads about "Help me I have no friends"</p>
<p>Honestly no one cares, if you don't know how to make friends when there are hundreds of friendless freshmen liike your selves; well then honestly you don't deserve to have friends</p>
<p>Done.</p>
<p>If no one cared there wouldn’t be like a million replies to those threads.</p>
<p>Just sayin’. Don’t read them if * you * don’t care.</p>
<p>OP, I totally agree! It’s not even after a few weeks, a lot of them only 2 days have passed and they’re worrying already!!! Good grief…</p>
<p>I think many of the people who post those sorts of questions are doing so because there aren’t people around to get advice from like they might have done back home, and they want to hear from people who have experienced college already and can give them tips on things like how to switch from high school-socializing to college-socializing.</p>
<p>“I think many of the people who post those sorts of questions are doing so because there aren’t people around to get advice from like they might have done back home, and they want to hear from people who have experienced college already and can give them tips on things like how to switch from high school-socializing to college-socializing.”</p>
<p>Win.</p>
<p>I don’t think that’s fair, CC was helpful to me while I was college searching (and asking some questions concerning the college I ended up going to) so I can see it being useful to someone who just started college as well. I move in sunday, and I can imagine that it will be pretty stressful, especially when you don’t know anyone and have to adjust to a new environment. While some of the threads seem silly from my perspective (it’s the 2nd day, I don’t have 20 new BFFs!!!) I can see where people are coming from.</p>
<p>I don’t really get the idea of “trying to make friends.” I have never for once wake up one day and decide I have to meet new people to hang out with. Seriously, I just relax and go with the flow. Making friends just happen naturally. Anyone else think like that or is it just me?</p>
<p>on this forum? just you.</p>
<p>Not everyone has the social profile, so to speak, that you do. I am the type that gets really quiet when I am comfortable. People assume I am being shy or anti-social, when in reality I am just not the type who feels the need to fill every silence. I had a guy I actually had a crush on once ask me, “so do you like hate me or something or are you just quiet?” At the time I had no idea people perceived me that way, no one had ever said anything before. People who are naturally social butterflies are going to have an easier time making friends effortlessly than those of us without the same traits as you.</p>
<p>I am also not one to go out much. I am **** poor, allergic to smoke, and not a big fan of large social gatherings. My friends and I like to hang out at home or go for walks or just go on little outings. This is GREAT for us, but not great for meeting new people. When I want to meet new people I have to be consciously aware of whether or not I am creating opportunities to even encounter new people. People who go out all the time are more likely to make casual friendships quickly and easily than those who are more introverted.</p>
<p>It’s not exactly rocket science that everyone functions differently.</p>
<p>Drash, some people can smile and give a simple greeting and BAM! they have a friend. Others go through entire semester alone even when trying but may be very shy or awkward. Some people just have an aura that naturally makes people think, “I want to be their friend.”</p>
<p>Some people try way too hard.</p>
<p>TwistedxKiss explained it well. Some people aren’t as charismatic or party animals as others.</p>
<p>Sigh, everyone is already in college. I sometimes hate the quarter system… I still have a month of summer vacation.</p>
<p>i wish i had a month more of summer vacation…:(</p>
<p>I wish the exact opposite. I’m bored out of my mind, without a job and with all my friends in class at Cal or wherever else.</p>
<p>I move in three days and don’t start til the 8th. I am DYING for school to start, so excited! Very few people I know have started yet around here, actually. Grand Valley started but Michigan and Eastern haven’t. MSU might have, I’m not sure if classes started yet but I think the students are back at school.</p>
<p>If you stop trying to get friends…you will get friends. Simple as that. If you ask me, the less time you spend small talking, the better your grades will be. That’s why you’re in college, this isn’t the love connection, this isn’t friendfinder it’s college. My attitude is this, Ill see you when I see you, but i’ll never call you or go out of my way to be in your presence.</p>
<p>I completely understand what all of you are saying. I am not a loud person or much of a conversation starter either. I am usually relaxed and doing my own business. But I STILL don’t get the idea of trying to make friends. If you just act normal (fitting in with the crowd you’re with, if you’re comfortable with it), I don’t see how getting a few friends will be a problem. I just act friendly…</p>
<p>If a guy is alone next to me, I just something like “hey dude.” He’ll probably say “hey man.”</p>
<p>then I say someone men are into like “check out this chick over there, finest body I’ve seen on campus so far.” Then he’ll most likely say “She ain’t bad. I’ve seen better.”</p>
<p>Me: “yea, what she looked like?”</p>
<p>Then things just go from here…</p>
<p>Don’t try to talk about yourself or your major unless he ask. he’ll just think you’re another boring guy who have no life beside school work. Just keep the conversation interesting and clean.</p>
<p>Don’t end the conversation with something like “let’s hang out sometimes.” That just sound childish. Simply said “iight man, see you around.” Next time you see him, just say “wassup” or do that “wassup nod” and a do a little bit of small talk. Before you know it, you two will find a common interest and start to hang out. </p>
<p>The thing is…DON’T TRY TOO HARD! You’ll scare people away if you do something like “hello, my name is blah-blah, business major and I wanna be the next bill gate.” I am sure you all have great dreams and goal in mind, but no one really cares about that. Just relax and have an everyday conversation. It’s not rocket science.</p>
<p>Haha at people actually replying</p>
<p>thought this one wouuld fail…</p>
<p>It isn’t even that these posters ask about how to make friends, it is the desperation in the multiple posts</p>
<p>I mean after the first one we don’t need 10 more for every specific school</p>
<p>I mean people are saying well maybe they aren’t charasmatic, well I am no Obama but I know how to smile and introduce my self</p>
<p>and also how did these people make friends in previous times, like before they happened upon CC</p>
<p>oonce again I assert that some of these people may have been cave dwellers</p>
<p>Out</p>
<p>Be nice. </p>
<p>Try and have fun at UofC.</p>