<p>If your roommate is homophobic, are you stuck?</p>
<p>This is something you need to discuss with your roommate as SOON as you find out who they are. </p>
<p>My roommate was bi- no big deal to me. We just watched the L-Word a lot, which I could have done with a straight roomie as well so it wasn't really an issue.</p>
<p>However, I had a friend who did not tell his roommate he was gay and it wasn't too overtly obvious. His roommate (who I was friends with as well) ended up finding out 2 weeks into the school year and was very upset. On the night he found out, I had to go calm the roommate down. He wasn't particularly homophobic, but came from a very vanilla community and was in shock. What could have been a great friendship between the two was ruined and made their entire living situation uncomfortable. The roommate told me that if he had been told before coming to school, this wouldn't have been an issue in the least because he wouldn't have been surprised by it. </p>
<p>If problems do arise, no school would make you suffer through it.</p>
<p>It's probably something you should bring up in conversation. Like, if you talk to your roommate this summer, you could be like "Oh, my girlfriend..." or "my ex-girlfriend said this thing once..." and see how it goes over. I don't think you should just be like, "Oh, yeah, by the way, I'm a lesbian. Hope you're okay with that!" If you play it off like it's just a normal thing (which it IS, obviously, but you know some people) then it should be fine.</p>
<p>Have you gotten your roommate questionaire? I know mine asked whether you were open to having a gay/lesbian roommate. Though I realize not all do.
And there are generally ways to get moved, though it's more difficult at some schools than others, obviously. However, I would think that open discrimination would be considered a legitimate reason to change rooms.
Of course, if your roomie is majorly homophobic, she'll probably be clamoring to get changed to...</p>
<p>just bring it up casually, and just laugh it off and say "dont worry, im not gonna be makin any moves on you! ;) ;) ;) ;) "</p>
<p>Lol. thank you all for your response. I think I have a single dorm so I'm fine with that though, I do have to share a bathroom with another person so I'll put it out there.</p>
<p>I do not get why you have to announce it. That is your business.</p>
<p>Lesbian...blukhhhhh</p>
<p>Women can be homophobic too?</p>
<p>If you're just sharing a bathroom, I don't think you have to tell her. Let her figure out on her own, outside the bathroom scene of course. If you want to deliberately disclose it though, have a rainbow sticker on your wall or something. My bisexual friend put up a poster of two girls kissing on the wall.</p>
<p>yeah, I don't think it should be an issue if it's just the bathroom...</p>
<p>"Women can be homophobic too?"</p>
<p>YAH! Homophobia, is in general, fearing people that are gay. It's not quite as common in females because I've seen they are more in touch with their sexualities and more comfortable than the typical man in today's society, if you know what i mean. (i know, some will object to what i just said.)</p>
<p>Why does she have to know? I had a gay roommate and didn't find out until years after graduation. We shared a bathroom, not a bedroom. Since your situation is similar, I don't think your sexual orientation is any of her business.</p>
<p>Incidentally, when I found out about my ex roomie's orientation, I was surprised, but not repulsed or anything. My thoughts were, "That's why she recoiled when I asked her if that guy was her boyfriend." Except for conversations like that, her orientation made no difference to me.</p>
<p>You could always room with a gay guy :)</p>
<p>If you're just sharing a bathroom then it's no big deal. Sharing a bedroom can be a different story (as I know that's where all of my friends' conflicts with having a gay/bi/lesbian have been).</p>
<p>well haha she better get use to it because if not you might get the whole room to yourself!!</p>
<p>Lol, I'm reliefed that this summer I have a single room, but I am sharing a bathroom with another person which I don't care about. </p>
<p>In the fall, I'll more the likely have a roommate. And I don't think its one of those things that I have to tell her, it's like asking another girl "Hey is that your natural hair color?".</p>
<p>This summer I'm going to be in a double with another male at Carnegie Mellon. I'm sure that my sexuality will come up at some point. How exactly do I tell him so that he doesn't think I'm going to hit on him? Granted, he's probably just as much a nerd as me, but I'm really worried that I'll get stuck for six weeks with a homophobic roommate. I know hard core male gamers, and he may be one (after all, it's CMU!). I stopped talking to this one friend because I was sick of the other gamers and him making racist, sexist, and homophobic comments when I just wanted to play a fun game online.
So what do I do?? Should I pray I get stuck in a room with an artist (probably more liberal)?</p>
<p>Diginetgod,
If you learn before going there who he is, I suggest that you tell him about your sexuality and that you have no plans to hit on him. If he's really homophobic, he'll find a way to get another roommate before you move in so you won't be bothered by him.</p>
<p>If what I suggest isn't possible, I suggest that you tell him the day that you move in and also tell him that you have no plans to hit on him. If you have a partner, you also can tell him you're taken.</p>
<p>My husband had a gay roommate when he was in grad school. My husband knew the guy was gay before they moved in together. Except for their sexual orientation, they had lots in common and got along very well. The only reason my husband moved out was because his roommate's friends kept hitting on him and my husband said that became very annoying.</p>
<p>You better start praying you get stuck with a hipster or something.</p>
<p>JK, it's insensitive to stereotype all hardcore gamers as homophobic or whatever, but it's true that homophobia tends to be more prevalent in straight-male-bonding situations. You'd be shocked by what guys (even the "non-homophobic" ones) would say in the company of other guys "just because" (for fear of ruining a fun moment, I think). I overheard one of the super nice guys on my floor saying "fag" to criticize someone he didn't like. Really disappointing. He would pretend to be accepting when gay people are around, but behind their backs, he's secretly homophobic.</p>