Your views on high school partying

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<p>Now parents are learning that they can be arrested, lose their jobs, etc if they host drinking parties. Hopefully, that knowledge (and fear) will discourage parents from doing such a dumb thing.</p>

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<p>^^^That happened where I live this past winter. Frankly, I was glad the mother got in trouble as well.</p>

<p>Now I'm sure all of the CC kids are too smart to do this but....</p>

<p>Last year a family w/ a couple of kids in our hs went away as a family over SuperBowl Sunday weekend. Apparently one of the boys (in order to score pts w/ the "it crowd") loaned a buddy his housekey so the friend could have a "private place" with a girfriend. People heard there was an empty house and a raging party occurred (but no neighbors heard). When the family got back, almost everything had to be tossed because so much stuff was destroyed. </p>

<p>After my friends and I heard about this, we all did a mental check to remember where our kids were that weekend. Mine was home "safe and sound."</p>

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<p>motherdear:</p>

<p>omigod! never thought about that possibility. Most think that if they bring their kids WITH them, then no booze parties will occur. Never thougth that a kid would give his key to others....</p>

<p>they must live in some remote home if no neighbors noticed all the cars!</p>

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<p>I love how kids come on this thread and say that its "sad" to have not been to any parties with alcohol in HS. I am an 18 year old high school student and I think I have a pretty good life. I dont consider myself socially inept or anything like some of these kids are saying, but I dont go to parties with alcohol. I still have a lot of friends, so saying that you need to drink to be "cool" in high school is ridiculous. I decided a while ago that there is absolutely no point to drinking (or smoking or other stupid things like that) and that I wouldnt do it. I really dont care if the drinking age was 2, 12, or 21. And I dont think its appropriate for people to say its "sad" that someone my age doesnt drink. We really have gone downhill as a society if someone must do something illegal to fit in.</p>

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<p>ckmets13, are you sure you aren't some parent masquerading as a responsible young adult who is mature beyond his/her years? :-) You are to be commended.</p>

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<p>yes im sure haha, you can look at my other posts to make sure. Thanks for the compliment.</p>

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<p>jlauer, the party happened in typical suburbia :1/3 acre lots.</p>

<p>Apparently the kids who went to the party were sneaky and parked all over the neighborhood to not arouse suspician and went in a sliding glass door through the back. Apparently they were quiet but again, very destructive, spilled drinks, broken lamps, "DNA samples" on beds.</p>

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<p>ckmets13, I agree completely. (I'm 16.)</p>

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<p>Motherdear...idea for new series</p>

<p>"CSI: Suburbia" Let the team try to re-enact one of these parties!</p>

<p>"Tiffany and Blake were on the master bedroom bed at approximately 1:23 a.m., ...oh wait, why is Heather's DNA there also?"</p>

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<p>Wasn't that a movie with a young Tom Cruise?</p>

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<p>yeah.. it's amazing what people will do when they have a house to themselves. i have some very good friends (three brothers... i'm great friends with their parents as well) at school and they were going to florida for a week and needed someone to house sit their huge beautiful house. so their parents suggested me and when they asked me i was estatic.. i even got 500 bucks for staying there all week. i went there and took my little sister with.. and a few days i had one or two people over and we sat around and relaxed.. enjoyed the 65 inch tv... enjoyed the hot tub every night.. played some video games, etc... i enjoyed being able to play the drums whenever i wanted too! afterwords some people found out i was house sitting there and they were like.... WHY DIDN"T YOU THROW A PARTY... I DEF WOULDA THROWN A PARTY IF I HAD THAT HOUSE... </p>

<p>I just couldn't believe how immature the person was... which is probably exactly why i was asked to house sit and not him!</p>

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<p>Thank goodness that they didn't find out until afterwards, otherwise they may have just shown up and "forced" their way in!!</p>

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<p>I was asking my child about this long-ago event this evening and he/she corrected me on a few details. Not that it matters but it was NOT SuperBowl Sunday '05, but a playoff Sunday. My friends who had kids that age were inside rooting for the Patriots (they are originally from NE).<br>
However I got the important details right. I don't think anyone tested the DNA but "DNA samples" sounds so much better than "bodily fluids" or you-know-what!</p>

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<p>motherdear: </p>

<p>Now we don't have to send you to the Oprah show..... ;)</p>

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<p>jlauer, that's why the parents were the ones who chose who would watch the house and not the kids. it had to be someone they trusted.. being myself ;)</p>

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<p>The issue was nobody was chosen to housesit. The idiot kid just lent his key to his buddy to be "cool."</p>

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<p>I have to agree with the OP. I understand where you are coming from completely. I have formed trust with my parents even though they realize I do drink occasionally and I think there are ways of doing this as long as you act maturely. I'd be happy to PM with you about this sometime.</p>

<p>To parents who read their kids' facebooks/myspaces/diaries etc. I am happy to say that my mom and dad trust me enough not to do that. I respect their space and they respect mine. When I was in 5th grade and I had a paperbound diary, we made an agreement that even if I left it out they wouldn't read it. Now that I am 18 and I have a myspace, this rule still applies. Even if they did read it they wouldn't find anything much. I do have vibrators listed under my "hobbies" so I guess my mother might blush... but nothing other than that.</p>

<p>Some of your kids are going to be quite... interesting... when they reach college. I will say I am very jealous of the fondue fountain!</p>

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<p>Laura, reading something you post on the internet--like MySpace or LiveJournal--is completely different from reading a private journal. For one thing, why should another parent or a fellow student or a complete stranger know something about my child that I don't? Especially if it's something as private as a fondness for vibrators?</p>

<p>You might want to reconsider what you're posting. Do you really want that creepy ninth grader at your school (there's always at least one) knowing that much about you?</p>

<p>As for drinking occasionally, keep in mind that in most states you can lose your drivers license until 21 if you're caught drinking.</p>

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<p>Unlike diaries, facebooks/myspaces are not private. You should never put there anything you don't want your mother/ teacher/ emloyer/creep-next-door to read.</p>

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<p>7-odd billion people on the planet and the only 2 not permitted to read your page are the 2 that love you the most and have invested their whole life in you. That seems quite...interesting.</p>

<p>I am fortunate. My kid, who is one of the most popular kids at school, does not drink/smoke/do drugs. He's an athlete planning on continuing his sport in college and went on an overnight staying with a junior team member recently. His host told him if they wound up at a party or something that night, "Don't drink to impress me if you don't want to". My son's response..."Don't worry dude, I'm not here to impress you." He's just not a follower, peer pressure means nothing to him.</p>