To those who feel lonely/homesick/friendless/think they chose the wrong school, etc

You just started college 3 weeks ago and feel homesick/depressed.
Your home is new.
Your friends are new.
Your school is new.
Your teachers are new.
Your classes are new.
Your room is new.
Your schedule is new.
Even your food is new.

This is a lot to get used to!

Many students feel this way! This is why colleges have orientations…to help you get used to these things.

So you went to orientation and were excited! Met people! This seems like fun!

But then the grind of classes has started. and you are feeling homesick. Probably because you don’t have mom nudgin you to do your homework, Dad asking how sports/chess/band was, Sis making faces at you, your friends chatting with you…your comfy bed.

But soon your new bed will feel like home, you will have friends to hang out with, and Dad and Mom can ask you about school on your weekly call with them.

Maybe you don’t have enough friends yet…if there hasn’t been an activity fair yet, look out for it…go find out about different clubs/activities. SIgn up for a few and see which ones you like.

Maybe form a study group with some people in your classes to have some people to do homework with.

Here are other ideas on making friends: Having Trouble Adjusting to College/Making friends? Top 10 things to do (Covid Update, Fall '20)

Sometimes, you have more anxiety/depression than the average student. Your college knows that this will happen, so they have a counseling center. Make an appointment there or get a friend to go with you. They may be able to help you. There may be a group of students in the same boat as you. They may have to refer you to an outside doctor if they feel you have a diagnosable issue such as depression or anxiety.